There have been some more information about sensitivity and shyness on your website I believe which I unfortunately never got to read.

I think I am too sensitive to everything people around me say or do. Just everything makes me scared, overwhelmed and endlessly sad.

Is there any information available as to why this happens and how to stop it?

if so, can you share them somehow?

thank you so much!

Hi,

Thank you so much for your understanding, and for all your words you wrote down..

I wrote so little but you understood them so right..

Yes, I am also very thankful for this program, and for the community. Trying my best to keep up with the available information and tools.

What is the reason for you to feel a "loser"?

Hi Ashley,

thank you for your reply!

I have done some reading and something related to IDS caught my attention.

Wondering now, if depression can come from a disconnect between own expectations of life and the actual life.

Involuntary defeat. When you no longer fight for a better life. "Better" in your own expectations.

What do you think?

Hi Thorp,

wow your are so bravehearted to write so openly about all what happened to you, and that your seek for mental and psychological support in your efforts.. you are so bravehearted and strong.. much stronger than any cigarettes you ever left into your life... God bless you.

i am sure you will win the bottle, you deserve to get back your life and you will..

your mother would have never blamed you for smoking, but understand that you wanted to honor her by quitting cigarettes, and you will. Surely.

I will think of you and cross fingers for you

*let* into your life

Hi Ashley,

thank you so much for your reply. I checked that out, quite useful! I am wondering, if there is any more information relaxed to sensitivity, e.g. why this happens, and how to put things into perspective when people say something and you dont know, what to let to your heart and what not.. Can you or anyone relate?

thank you so much

*related* (apologies for typos.. silly auto-correction that I haven’t yet figured out how to switch off..)

Yes, i can relate... Not necessarily when talking about depression but about anything else important to me. I figured this is related to a core belief in me, i.e. ‚that I don’t deserve to have the same rights as others, when they talk about issues‘

which is a really mean lye...

Not sure if this helps..

Hi Ashley,

Thank you for your interesting inputs. I would be interested in the radical acceptance theory and would be grateful if you could share more information about it.

I guess I did not have specific goals to achieve that I failed about, I guess it is just something like a shock about things that can suddenly go so wrong without any concious contributions by me.

I may be too sensitive to life's changes, especially to bad changes. It loos like as if I would be living in a dream world, and everytime something bad happens, I first get a shock about what just happened, and can't seem to move on with the bad change constructively but need quite much time to just digest that this just happened to me. Not sure why or where these feelings come from. Sounds like as if I was a child, seems to me.

So if you could share some more information about the radical acceptance concept as well as about the mindful gratitude, that would be highly appreciated and I thank you for that in advance.

Hi Ashley,

just wondering if you still think that there is some more material about the radical acceptance concept and about the mindful gratitude concept? Is this something you can really share, is it somewhere on this website?

thank you very much in advance if that works.

perth

Hello dingo7blue,

I am listening to what you would choose to speak more about...

why do you feel lonely and where do you need more companion..?

Hi EddieWolf,

It's great that you are so open and introduce yourself!

Just to put things into perspective, I am not feeling so confident to speak about so many things you did. So please take this as a compliment..(!)

I was reading your post, and thinking: "wow... you have so much on your shoulder... how do you manage all that..?"

If somebody asked you, what concerns you most, what would come into your mind first?

Is it the sum of all responsibility that you carry? Or would it be rather something else..? Maybe the world you describe around you, that just didn't seem to fit at the moment?

It sounds like you have many things on your mind, and you seem to be a very strucured thinker. So I am just wondering if there is any priority or range of concerns that are on your mind. So that they can be taken care of in an order that is appropriate for you.

..what do you think?

Wishing you much success with the program anyway!

Hi Kittycat1234,

I can only share one little thing, when you say, you'd love to hear suggestions how not to avoid.. there's one little thought that helps me sometimes:

I can have quite bad critics about myself and how I interact with people.

Due to some lucky situations when I have met honest people, I learned that I am not as bad as I often think.

So I am trying to remember those short sentences of honest feedbacks I received from some nice people in the past, and remind myself on them, telling to myself: hey, go and try it, you might not come through as bad as you are feeling about yourself. Give it a try. What can you lose any more than what you have lost in life already?

Not sure of this is helpful to you, as your reasons for avoiding may be different.. but thought, I share anyway, as this is what I can tell to your question.

Hi Kittycat1234,

I also have quite some history with anxiety, so hope, you can use something of what I am saying..

Yes, I also have anxious thoughts about this virus, as - honestly speeking - it seems to cause 30 times more deaths than usual influenza. I am tightly following news and updates, and calculate ratio each time.

And really, I sometimes get super-anxious about this virus and my loved ones. And I most likely will remain to be that for awhile. I just don't want to think about what this virus can cause to my family, but this thought just comes up again and again nd again.

I am so hopeful that spring and summer temperatures will bring some gasp of relief. Really. I am just hoping silently, despite all expert-predictions.

So here is how I am trying to get some piece of mind: I am actively following all suggestions they give: wash my hands properly and regularly in order to reduce overall bacteria/virus on my hands so my immune system has less to fight against. And I remind my family members to do the same. Also, I am avoiding getting too close (within 1 meter) to people, and avoiding shaking hands, as health experts suggested.

Another "active" defense that I am trying is to take supplements to support my immune system.

Honestly, nobody has any guarantee, and I know that (I try not to think about that.... which is quite difficult..) but at least taking some "actions" helped me at least calm my mind a bit and take off some of the feelings of helplessness.

I would say, I also worry more than the "normal" people around me, however, I also recognized, that in this case, also "normal" people worry a lot. In many countries people go for shopping for food like crazy, and desinfects are sold out in many countries too.

So I think, there is nothing wrong with you when freaking out, as this seems to be the normal human reaction now. I think it is just very important that we have some weapons in our thought arsenal too, so we don't get permanently crazy about it.

What also helps me is when I think about how the government and health experts also take this seriously and have arranged so many safety precautions.

Not sure if this all is any helpful to you, but I am hopeful that you find your piece of mind in any ways.