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Lynn123
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
First time here

I just wanted to say hello.  This is my first time here and am hoping I can find some advice.  Initially I thought I drank to get a good nights sleep but lately I am beginning to wonder.  Anyone been through something like this?
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
First time here

Thanks for the reply.  I can understand the fun thing, that is how the whole thing got started.  As I continued to drink the times I would not drink resulted in sleepless nights.  I do understand that sleeps actually hinders sleep but when I am lying awake all I can think about is that drinking would allow me sleep.  I just need to find the strength to give a break from alcohol a try.
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
First time here

Thanks for your suggestions. Ironically, exercise and a very clean diet (other than alcohol) is a huge part of my life.  I am very structured in what I do and usually adhere to a normal bed time.  Have I tried to moderate or abstain?  Not with the vigor that I put into my workouts or plans for meals.  Why is that?  Does that mean I actually have a alcohol problem?  
It seems that each time I think of cutting back or abstaining I begin to rationalize to myself that I really need to sleep tonight and I will try again some other time.  As far as supplements, I hope you are asking about something other than prescription medicines.  I have been prescribed them before and have taken them as directed and either woke during the night or was VERY groggy the next day.
Any other thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
First time here

True statements.  Exercise, diet, and alcohol determine what I do in my day.  What I don't understand is the "thought" of not drinking a particular night consumes my thoughts throughout the day.  The  "thought" of abstaining ends up being worse than the actual action of abstaining, so why don't I do it?
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
First time here

While I know that alcohol hinders sleep and I know in order to be able to fall asleep without it will take sometime, which is where some of the problem lies.  As for my drinking habits, I drink the same around friends or by myself and again, my habits come into play.  I will only drink a certain number each day.  I am assuming this is my way of rationalizing that I am still in control.  
There is not really any big factor going on in my life to cause me not to sleep and know that once I change my habits I will be much happier for it.  The challenge is changing those habits.
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Day 1

Hey Gus.  This is my Day 1 as well.  What you spoke of sounds a lot like me.  Wanting to for a long time but it never really working out.  My day has gone OK.  How are you doing?
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Day 1

High five Gus!  Now we are on to Day2!  Trying to remember this feeling of not being hungover, hopefully this thought will get me through hard times to come.  Didn't sleep much last night, one of the reasons I started drinking more in the first place, but still feel better than usual.  
Again Gus, good luck today!
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Day 1

Thanks for the encouragement Dave.  Yes, it is easier knowing someone else is going through the same.

Gus, unfortunately too much Melatonin (like alcohol) has a reverse effect on the body.  Small doses don't really put me to sleep and large doses cause me to be awake mid way through sleep.  It almost becomes a stimulant.  As for prescription, tried them, don't like them.  I decided I would suffer through the sleep issue and do this as natural as possible.  

Hope your day has gone well and you are looking to Day 3.
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Day 1

Hey Gus!  Glad to hear things are well, I am OK also.  Last night I had a few beers with friends but that was it.  At this point I don't think I need to stop all together but definitely needed to give up the everyday thing.  Normally after a few beers/drinks out I would come home and drink more.  Big test for me last night but I passed!  I was a little worried how I would feel today, wondered if it would be hard to stay away but it hasn't been too bad.  Got in a good workout and kept telling myself that the alcohol would just hinder muscle growth.  That thought got me through tonight.

It seems we are the same in using working out to get us through.  I have been working out for years but never admitted that the drinking was hindering gains from the workouts.   When I decided to do this, I had to be honest with myself about a lot of things.  Amazing how the human mind can rationalize just about anything!
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6 years ago 0 Lynn123 300 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Newbie

Congrats to both of you.  You are right, this site a lot.  Another member of this site started our "Day1" on the same day as well.  I do not think we have the same goals but they are close and it really helps that there is someone you communicate with COMPLETE honesty because you have no idea who they are but know the most important thing, they are feeling your pains and are struggling right there with you!
Good luck and take it day to day or hour to hour if needed!