The Addictive Voice
I've been reading through a lot of posts on this forum and we all have one thing in common that seems to drive us to indulge in drinking and that is this addictive voice that we are at odds with inside of our mind. So I thought I would pose this question: "Where did this addictive voice come from? How did we give birth to this voice allow it to evolve to the state where it drives us to satisfy a need for consumption?" This is a common element among all consumption disorders. I use the term "consumption disorder" because I do not subscribe to the "alcoholism is a disease" model. I'm sorry if that sends up a red flag for some people on this forum and if you think I'm in some sort of denial I'm perfectly fine with that.
We weren't born with this voice inside of our head. We're born a blank slate. I contend that alcohol and drug abuse is a learned behavior, not a biological one. I agree that there are physiological\ biological components that contribute to it such depression, ADHD, personality type, etc. and these play a big part in developing this addictive voice but intuitively I cannot subscribe to this theory of powerless over a consumption disorder such as alcohol abuse. Getting to the point where alcohol abuse becomes a disorder is complex and different for everyone for sure and I believe any resource that helps one overcome this challenge is of benefit, whether it's a 12 step program or psycho-therapy, or whatever.
Yet, there are many situations where I exercise complete control and have absolutely NO desire to drink whatsoever. Example:
- I'm the designated driver when a group of us goes out for dinner. I sit and watch my friends and family drink and get some what or totally inebriated. During this time I have absolutely no desire to have a drink, even though they offer me to leave the car parked at the restaurant, join in, and take a cab home. If I were powerless would I not take them up on this offer?
- Riding my motorcycle- I will never drink, even one beer, when I'm riding my bike, ever. If you think one beer has no affect on you you're wrong. You may not notice it but it does. When I was younger I drank one beer when I was out dirt biking I can tell you it has an immediate affect on coordination.
I have more but I'm not out to write an essay, only to solicit a discussion.
I guess my point is that this voice seems to come alive when we are in situations that initiate triggers than something that has absolute control over me. These situations can be isolated, like getting together with friends and drink, and even worse, continuous, where there is a constant craving for alcohol and it is a persistent relief mechanism.
Your thoughts?