One more thing Gabs... my house is a mess too. I just can't get motivated. I still have boxes to unpack but it is ok. My counselor always says "It's OK" over and over again. So when I see something I think I should be doing (like the messy house) I say It's OK and move on.
I feel good again today and don't have any commitments for tonight. I'm going to try to tackle those boxes tonight. At least one or two. If I do it fine and if I don't It's OK. The world won't end tomorrow because I didn't clean the house. It really is ok. When you are able, you will do it. Choose tasks you feel you can accomplish.
I suppose I'm trying to head to that downward spiral today. I'm really trying not too. It's kind of depressing that on a depression support site, I post and don't get replies. Kind of makes one feel like no one cares. That's my biggest trigger for depression...The fact that no one cares.
Well here is a topic, maybe someone will respond.
Do you ever suppose that the reason for our negative thoughts is years of hearing negative stuff? You are stupid, you aren't any good, what is wrong with you, if only you were different, why do you do the things you do, can't you do any better, this is all your fault, if only you would.....(fill in the blank)... Anyone else been here?
Hi there! There is always a bright side, sometimes we are looking too hard to find it. I don't have answers as I am having a really difficult time myself. All I can say is don't give up and you are not alone. I often feel the way you described and I don't even have any death going on.
All of that grief would depress anyone. I'm working the program and encourage you to do the same. I didn't really become encouraged by it until I got to session 3 so stick it out and work through it. I'm sure it will help. Meanwhile, post and let's see if maybe we can't help eachother.
Gabs,
One step at a time and one day at a time. I am not married and my kids are still young. Be thankful for your husband and son.
Putting my perspective in order often helps me, even though most of the time I don't want to admit that is true. Inside of you is a strong, warm, loving person that does for others as well as takes care of herself. Search for her and let her out.
I realized last week that for the last year my life has focused around my depression and not my kids and my life. I want my life back. I'm digging deep to find that strong woman inside of me. You know, the one who is able to set the anger and the emotions aside. The one who can cope with whatever may come her way.
Support is very important to me as well but don't dwell on the lack of it because it will make your illness worse. Focus on things you can control. We cannot choose how others behave but we can choose how we react to them. I hope this helps in some way.
Lady
Dumpling,
You expressed exactly how I feel. I too am searching. Thank you for letting me know that I'm really not alone in the darkness. There are others here too, I just can't see them. I see a flicker of light and am stretching out for it.
Thank you SO much for your poem. It is absolutely wonderful!
Lady
Patrick,
You think that because we do not share religious belief that you can't support me? If we do not like the same fruit, the same type of movies, or have the same marital status, same amount of kids, or are not of the same gender does this also mean you feel you cannot contribute support?
I've read some of your thoughtful, enlightening posts. Not every shares the same beliefs. We were given "free will" to choose to believe or not believe in God. I do not condemn you for not believing. Are you condemning me for my belief?
Lady
Wildcat,
I'm currently working on Session 3. This is really a lot more work than it looks like at first. My toolbox says to move on to session 4 now but I'm not sure I'm ready for that either. Session 3 has been very enlighting for me and it coupled with the other influences and changes in my life are really making me stop and think.
Are you finding the same thing to be true for you? I'm finding it very, very useful. I would like to know your opinion.
Twister, your friend probably didn't know what to say. I fought the issue within myself when I was diagnosed with depression. It isn't common knowledge and a lot of people don't know what to say or how to deal with it.
I'm sorry to hear you are heartbroken. One day at a time. Obviously this isn't someone who can serve as a sounding board for you. Use the sight and work the program. It seems to be helping me.
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