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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3307

What I am doing is I think myself through a smoke and what will happen if I do. Waiting for me if I smoke, is a cough, shortness of breath, bad breath, I would stink, and I am risking my health and those around me for what? A cigarette and a new quit date, again

. I think not. Today it is not worth it. If I think of a could reason I will come here and post and wait for your responses.

Keep the Quit

Sparky

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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3207

Just so you know you're not alone in feeling strong emotions [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 122 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,880 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $829.60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 17 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 48

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 813

alohakeia: So sorry to hear that your friend got a bit upset with you. That is never a very comfortable situation. But I am glad to see that you over came the urge to smoke. It really does work when you begin to truly understand that smoking never changed the outcome of a situation. So much of our emotional lives have been ensnared by the nicotine trap that it is difficult to institute change...However, when we do, it surely is a very sweet thing indeed... nonic [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 203 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,090 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,421.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 37 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1113

Hi Aloha, Can't believe I have missed this one. Man I am so proud of you because it sounds like it was a very close run thing. I hear it only makes your quit stronger. And I bet you feel happier now right? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 4 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 100 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �16.80 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 48

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3207

Thanks Danielle What an amazing journey this quitting has been. The original path has lead to so many unexpected ones. I'm curious about what lies ahead. From what I've seen on here, there could be some pretty wonderful realizations up ahead. Putting one foot in front of the other and keeping my eyes and heart wide open -aloha [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 114 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,560 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $775.20 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 14 [B]Seconds:[/B] 30

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

Aloha, Kudos to you! Not only did you not revert back to old ways of coping but it sounds as though you're working to develop new ones! Giving it a rest may be best so that heads can cool. Danielle, Bilingual Support Specialist

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3207

penguin Yes, I have realized i have done what i can do, and that it is her problem to deal with it now. I couldn't be so kind as to tell her i love her when I received her email after I got home, although i did try to respond in a loving way. I was too hurt by the other things she said, and thought that if i apologised again, as i had done while i was there, that things would smooth out. But, not to be. We'll see what happens over time. Through this I definitely got to practice using other coping strategies when hurt/angry. And to sort out some of these feelings. Not sure if I should have been more assertive in dealing with some of the things she said, but I think I was to some extent, just didn't name the hurt feelings I had from some of her remarks. Still working on being a complete adult when it comes to these kinds of situations, but the bottom line in terms of here is, I did not smoke and I won't. Thnaks for your thoughtful response, penguin. It's nice to see you here again -aloha [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 114 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,560 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $775.20 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 15 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 44 [B]Seconds:[/B] 42

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3207

Bear I was coming from a place of concern for her, and, funny enough, they both have quit drinking since then. I don't think it was what I said so much as saying it when she didnt want to hear it. I have decided to just let our relationship take a rest, since I have apologized a few times and yet she keeps chewing on the same old shoe. And doesn't seem to want to acknowledge that I am going through a major life event here, with quitting, and might possibly be cut a little slack. I drove from New Orleans up to Tennessee with them both smoking and never complained once. sheesh....i am not a saint, but i really feel like i am being treated unfairly, so am just letting the relationship go. Although, as you can tell, i still have a ways to go in letting it not bother me...lol and yes, i am still chasing your tail through the woods...and hope i will continue to do so thanks for responding -aloha [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 114 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,560 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $775.20 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 15 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1306

Aloha Sometimes we speak the truth, and sometimes the truth hurts. What would you say (if you hadn't said anything) if she continues in the relationship, she gets hurt and then later comes to you and asks...WHY didn't you say anything. One thing I have been trying to do is ask myself "Is this my problem?" Most often times the answer is... no. So ask yourself...Whose problem is this right now? What is the best way for me to react? Does this really have to do with me and should I take ownership? A long time ago, a friend of ours was in a relationship with a woman who was not for him. We told him so. He didn't get mad at us for expressing our opinion. He married her. He then had to divorce her. Today I had a memory of a time when I was not so proud of, that involved my other addiction. I said to myself...forgive yourself...yes, you made a wrong choice...you will not make it again. Let it go...it's in the past. You have said you were sorry for hurting. Tell her you love her....it is now in her problem. You are doing great! Keep on with NOPE. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/13/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 20 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $11.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4

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