No need to read, just doing some major venting...
Diva..
I think you've shown the most courage by sharing your story. I have been married 12 years myself to my highschool sweetheart (together 19 years though), and it is NOT an easy journey. Marriages are work . It sounds as though you've put a lot of thought and heart into yours and in time your decision will come. It's sometimes easier to stay than to walk away in fear of being alone. When and if your marriage is to end, you'll make the decision that is right for you at the right time. It's not an easy one, so don't rush it. You do deserve to be treated well though, so always remember that.
As for your cat, I'm sorry to hear that something you love is at risk.
Although I've never been a pet person, I have 2 little bambinos, and they mean the world to me. I imagine that "family" is "family" ... I send well wishes your way.
I hope during this tumultuous time you do take a moment to recognize all your recent triumphs, mainly school!! Wowl, that's inspiring.
As for work etc. I think us type A's often think people are paying more attention than they really are. Based on your successes I think you're the only dissappointed in your work performance, so relax a bit and give yourself a break.
You've got some major decisions to make and you need to take one day at a time..
Take care Diva... and this too shall pass... it just may take a bit longer this time :)