Hugs
Failure is a word I reserve for mechanical things. Such as the fridge or air conditioner failing. In people it is not a case of failure but a case of trying something that can't be done because it isn't possible or you don't have the skill or tools. Using the word failure to describe this situation is wrong and negative.
If you try something and it doesn't work the only failure here is of the mind because thinking it is a failure is negative where as thinking you gave it your best and it didn't work is positive in which case you have a mechanical failure of the mind for thinking the wrong thought. The action didn't fail, it didn't work, the mind failed by choosing the wrong thought for the action and this failure can lead to more negatives, leading to the mind having more failures by continuing to pick the wrong thoughts. People don't fail (parts of them do) they don't function because of the lack of the right tools, in this case understanding. CBT can change negatives to positives but the "why" is still understanding.
How you think can do you more damage than the effects of any situation around you. How you think boils down to attitude. The situations are only triggers. How you think of them dictates negative or positive. Anxious or unconcerned, aggressive or passive, negative or positive.
Unfortunately negative thoughts and actions around us build our attitudes. The news is all negative, peoples reactions to weather, traffic, cost of living are all given a negative spin. Our life surroundings are loaded with negatives and it is our fault because we "parrot" our surroundings so we can fit in. We don't have to, we can have individual thought. We can be positive if we feel negative is not appropriate to the situation. We don't have to follow the leaders and become just one of the herd blindly waiting to be picked off, we can be individual and find our own way. And that is what separates the oranges from the apples. Using leaders for examples can build our attitude if we use reason too and not follow blindly. They are not right for every situation. One negative word from them and I question what they are saying or doing and if it fits the situation.
People, I'm sorry for lecturing my point but I feel we use failure to much for an excuse to not try. TRY, just if it doesn't work and is supposed to consider you might be doing it wrong or not have the right tools, don't think of it as failure. There are no failures, only experiences.
Davit
PS, just my opinion and that is what forums are for. Opinions, everyones.
