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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

A good day

Today i have spent 3 hours out of my home in town shopping with my mum, i even got the bus there which is one of the scariest things and not been on one for over 6 years, i feel so good right now although a lil tired lol, i didnt have one PA felt anxious now and then but only a little and nothing i couldnt handle, i know it was cause i was with my mum and took meds this morning but still such a big achievment, ive actually sat at a cafe for a drink and toast, spoke to people and bought stuff for me and my kids.

i dont know were ill go from here but im happy with the fact ive been out today, i hope it gets better and better, but ill take it one day at a time for now, xx

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

visitors

Recently im getting very anxious when people are due round my house unless they are very close to me. Its mainly when my partner has his friends round which he is due to have in about 20 mins, im as usual now sat upstairs feeling very anxious, locked away in my bedroom, hating it cos its night time and i want to relax, it does only usually happen at night time, but iv been out a few times so i dont get why im feeling worse in my house. ive always been anxious inside as well as outside (since having agoraphobia) but its just getting worse, im fighting anxiety 24/7 .does anyone else feel the same about visitors and what did you do to help it? thanks

zoe

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

A good day

Hey

just a update,, since my trip into town i have took the kids to school one morning, ive been to the shop in a car but did go in the shop alone and bought a card, and just in this week i went to a friends house on tuesday night, on wednesday my friends came and we walked round block and today she has been again and we walked round block and down past the shop, im feeling good in myself as i cant remember last time i went out 3 times in one week, although i feel like it should feel more of an achievement to me but im working on it, its hard feel great about doing something when you come back to a house were your partner gives u no support and dosnt speak to u lol.

being out with my friend helped alot as she has a baby and for some reason pushing a pram helps me alot plus i took another tablet which helps me out alot, although i dont want to depend on these tablets for the future im just happy to have them and to get out at the minute. when im anxious i either block it out or depending were i am say to myself i can get help if i need it but i wont need it as the feeling will go away in a minute, or i take my mind of it and talk xxx

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

I need help!

Hiya, i was prescribed diazepam for when i had to go to hospital, i didnt have any side affects from it, and worked within 20 mins of taking it, i hardley felt any panic at all and the doctor does give them to calm people just for certain situations like agoraphobics who cant go out like myself or people who are afraid of flying ect.

I hope you find something to help and have a fantastic wedding day, best of luck to u x

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

pregnant!!

i have found out im 8 weeks pregnant and my anxiety is going through the roof with all the hormones, i was taking diazepam now n then when it got bad but cant take this now due to being pregnant, anyone got any advice on being pregnant with anxiety and agoraphobia?, i know im gonna have to go out and im hoping when my bump gets bigger ill get a lil more confidence to go out and i know once the baby is born and i have the pram i will feel alot better about going out to places as thats when my agoraphobia started when my 2 other kids no longer needed prams, but i just cant cope with this anxiety at minute especially in this heat.

thank you

zoe xx

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

IS IT NORMAL

Hiya James, yes i often have constant anxiety and think bout having a panic attack, i can be sat here normal then just get a thought about panic n next thing im in anxiety and its there all day, i know its all about posotive thinking but its hard to stop the negative thoughts coming through as they just seem to pop up out of no were, i just try and do anything else to keep my mind of it or think of things that can help me if i do have a panic attack, like i can go to neighbours houses or phone my mum ect that usually brings it down.

hope you find a way to stop your anxiety, i think the constant anxiety is as bad as the panic cos it last so much longer

good luck

zoe xx

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

What next

Hiya all, just wondered if i could get a little advice, after finding out i was pregnant 8 weeks ago i have been to the doctors twice and wednesday i went to town with my mum kids and partner for my 1st scan and a walk round town-thursday i slept my mums with my kids and then friday i went shopping, had my hair done and then to a wedding with my mum & family, thats the most i have done in 7 years and it felt great and had hardley any anxiety, but now im back home im stuck on what i can do next, my mum is my "safe person" so thats the main reason i have been able to do so much these past few days, she works so i dont know when the next time will be that she will be off work to help me, since coming home ive had anxiety on and of, i dont know how to take the next step out, i dont feel overly safe when im out with just my partner and kids but i know this is a problem i need to solve, i also dont like the area i live in so i dont like walking around here plus theres no where really to go, ive been through the programme so many times, ive got most of it wrote down in a book which i carry around everywere with me, im really eager n ready to go as my baby is due in 5 months time so i need to be better for that, so has anyone got any steps or ways i can go about this please

thank you

zoe xx

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

What next

Hiya, sorry ive not been on and thanks for all your advice, i really appreciate it, i can get to the end of my street and ive been doing that for the past few days meeting the kids after school and walking a little round the corner, but the anxiety is so much worse just doing that than it is when i go further with my mum and my mum and partner seem to think that now i have been out a few times i can easily just do it again and walk to the town centre with my fella, and them saying this is making me more anxious cos i dont want to let them down and i feel guilty n pressured into it and its making me feel so much worse, if i try to explain it to them i know wot there facial expressions will go like and they will just say well if you dont try you wont know, but going to town is quite far away from were i live, it takes around 15 mins in car takes about half hour to walk there and its just to much for me to do with my partner as i dont feel safe with him when im out. I know they are expecting me to do this next week. im feeling dissapointed in myself as ive not been out far since the other week and it puts u back loads when you miss a few days, as it says in the toolbox you should do something EVERY day, i just feel like a failure and im scared that im not going to be better by the time my baby is due, ive missed out on so much with my 2 daughters who are 9 and 11 now i dont wanna miss out on this baby to.

sorry for the rant x

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

What next

Hiya, thanx again for your kind words and support,,i got a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye reading them, it means alot to me x since i last came on i have been round the block with my partner and today (my biggest acheivment) i went into town with just my partner and did a little shopping, i felt as if id let people down if i didnt go, so i made myself do it and really enjoyed it, i had a little anxiety but again nothing i couldnt deal with, i dont know why i have suddenly got the courage to try these things but were ever it has come from im not complaining

i know alot of it has got to do with this group so i want to thank you all for that, i know im still a long way from being "normal" but so far im enjoying my journey for the 1st time in 7 years.if i can start to get better then anyone can, im a very shy and quiet person with not much confidance but i can feel myself slowly getting back to the old me and im actually looking forward to the future and seeing my kids grow up.....never give up cos 1 day we will get were we are meant to be

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 61

The problem with avoidance 2

Hiya, Im not sure on how driving other peoples cars work (i dont drive), if you have to be insured on them ect but is there no way a friend would let you drive his/her car with them in it to get you used to driving again and to practise doing it, that way you wouldnt have to spend money on your car (if you dont have to pay for anything to use a friends car)that you have not got untell you feel comfertable enough to start using your car again, you really need to start driving again or you wont know how it feels and wont be able to learn to unlearn the bad thinking habits, i know its easier said than done, ive been agoraphobic for 7yrs and im just starting to get out again now because im pregnant, i have no idea why thats helped. Try and just think of your kids when you go out, take pictures of them with you when you are doing something that scares you, my "safe" things when i go out are.. 1. A book that i have wrote in, its mainly things out of the toolbox on here and little bits of info i have found on other sites. 2.My mobile phone, knowing i can ring people if needed or occupy my mind with writing a text message out, i also use my mobile phone for the music on there, i carry my headphones every were with me to listen to the music. 3. a bottle of cold water, i dont go anywere without one. 4. someone i feel safe with.

these things help me when i get out, i know i need to cut down on them eventually but i think if something is helping for now then its doing me no harm, just making me better and i think maybe you should try a few things out see if you can find something that will help you..its a awfull feeling when your life seems to be slipping away from you and you cant do anything, im sorry that you alone also, hopefully you can get intouch with family and friends and ask for help, i hope this made some sort of sence for you, im not to good at writing things out...good luck zoe x

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