I?m making progress
Hello groupies :)
Today I got a plan in motion. I'm registered for a woman's outpatient program which begins Tuesday. The wheels are in motion to get me moved into a supportive living building with other similar women (with some helpful restrictions on over night guests and alcohol etc). I hope that these restrictions will give me the time I need to focus on my own behaviour and my own emotional health in order to fully recover, or at least become strong enough to sustain regular life. And I'm happy to report that I'm on my 3rd day sober again.....
I know 3 days does not sound like much, but after the week i had, partying downtown over the weekend, and perhaps over celebrating with alcohol and drugs, I'm glad that the relapse was not as bad as it could have been. Strangely I was hit on by a woman in a bar during Pride weekend... and her pick up line was... ' wanna do a line?' ... so I promptly asked her if that ever actually works... then proceeded to do the drugs... I'm sure my brain was just soft from all the bud light limes/canadians/keiths I had in me at that stage .. I'm not proud of my behaviour, but I have learned that it is clearly too soon for me to go out to bars with people who are drinking (ie my bf) and expect to not bend under the pressure to drink.
I'm presently sitting at home enjoying one of those 'crystal light' margarita flavoured drinks, and contemplating busting into the non alcoholic wine in the fridge. Sadly my bf did bring home some coolers and a case of beer which I am trying to discreetly avoid. Getting healthy would be and will be so much easier when I'm on my own. Looking forward to it. He is just soooo oblivious to my struggle. He is so self involved that I think I could probably be drowning in a beer can and he would not see it happening... It is frustrating in a very big way, but the more I see this and the more I recognize that he is NOT with me in my struggle, the easier it is to see myself doing it successfully on my own.
I know this looks like a lot of whining, but I'm truly viewing this as a victory because although I did a bunch of stupid crap, I learned a lot of important lessons and made some great progress toward getting the professional help that I'm convinced I will need in order to recover.
Thanks for taking the time to read my story :)