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Feels like hell week all over!!

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Smile....and don't shoot the messenger

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I went into this store known for organizing, and was seduced by their newness, and marketing, and cheap and generous cafeteria.  As I compared one piece of furniture to another store's, I realized how poor the quality was.  And the customer service was awful, since their agents couldn't give me much information or use their own website properly.
 
One person was so insecure, I wondered what they were doing in customer service, since as a customer, I was unimpressed.
 
Then I realized, as Davit suggested, that their systems will work, but not everything works for everyone!
 
Sometimes I wish there was an easy, quick answer to everything
 
It's like trying to explain to someone that their messy desk is "unacceptable".  But that person, because their mind works differently, can actually find anything in a moment.
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I agree with this quote...and at the same time I have to say that what ever you are trying to accomplish or are going through in your life give it your all and your best shot..If what your doing still isn't working for you than you might want to consider stopping what isn't working for you and move in a more positive and helpful direction.
 
Don't give up on yourself or life and try to keep a open and positive mind.....
 
Red....
 
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Davit,
I wasn't commenting on CBT.  Between you, me and the horse, you might have wandered down "Mind Reading Trail"
 
 
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Just because it is not working does not mean it doesn't work. If it is designed to work and known to work then if it doesn't work for you then it is you not it.

Giving up on CBT because you can't make it work first time round does not mean it doesn't. But it does make a good excuse to give up. 

If something isn't working because it is not meant to then by all means drop it. But give it a fair shake before you do. Amazing how many people will jump from one thing to another looking for the magic bullet when the answer is right in front of them. If you are going to waste time trying to make something work you might as well try to make something that is known to work, work.

Davit.
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To get what you want, STOP doing what isn't working.
- Dennis Weaver

This reminds me of the story of the guy who goes to the doctor and complains of a headache and admits he is hitting himself with a hammer.  The doc tells him to stop hitting himself with a hammer.
 
Finding that hammer, or how to stop that hammer is the hard part, or having someone tell you they see something unhealthy is the challenge in our lives, isn't it?
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I am not judged by the number of times I fail, but by the number of times I succeed; and the number of times I succeed is in direct proportion to the number of times I can fail and keep on trying.
- Tom Hopkins

Isn't it hard to persevere in the face opposition?
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Dedicate yourself to the good you deserve and desire for yourself. Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve delight.
- Mark Victor Hansen


 
This is hard to swallow, since I get the opposite message from negative people around me.
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There is something good in all seeming failures. You are not to see that now. Time will reveal it. Be patient.
- Sri Swami Sivananda

Being patient is a challenge, but a good long term goal, along with most wisdom
 
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Quote of the Day:
Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.
- Vincent Van Gogh


 
This incremental approach is so important to me, especially endorsed by a great artist.
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Others have done it before me. I can, too.
- Corporal John Faunce


 
Sometimes, in an effort to motivate myself, I look at others who I think are my equals, and make that assertion that it is within my capacity to match their endeavours, as this quote suggests.

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