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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

NEW - Ask the Expert September

Hi Teebs,

Thanks for this post. I have the same thought during my attacks - that i am alone and no one will help me. Its hard for me to swallow the fact that the work is personal.

this forum is the first place i've had people say "you can do it' to me directly. I've been suffering this alone all these years for fear i would alienate people or lose them if i admit i have an anxiety issue. Its not something yo ucan tell someone you just met anyways.

You don't have to answer these but i thought i would ask because it would help me to know what people have done to get further through the program. What did you tell yourself to challenge the thought you were alone during the attacks? I struggle with this.

What did you tell people in order to feel supported by them? I have a friend i've known for 10 years who doesn't know i struggle with anxiety. I conceal it. I dont know how to tell people. I want their support, but I don't know how to tell them.

My few attempts to reveal to a few people in my life that i need support have gone badly lately. So i am freshly bruised i guess. I revealed to a friend in spring that i am struggling, she is someone who has told me she has struggled herself for years with anxiety and depression, and after I broke down crying in front of her for the first time after us being friends for 4 years, she stopped callign or emailing. I am debating whether I shoudl ask her about this point blank or let it go. I may be barking up the wrong tree wanting support from her .She is a kind person but she has her own issues and problems and hasn't had time for me the last year at all really.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

Driving over a bridge exposure

Hi Cleo,

I am by no means very knowledgeable about fears of heights, bridges etc.. But your post reminded me of a day not too long ago where I encountered something scary that was unforseen and I got through it better by telling myself "you're strong now, look how strong you've become" to quell the fear and negative thoughts. I was feeling very sick, nauseated, and knew I had to empty my stomach (to put it mildly) but I was scared because when i force myself to throw up i sometimes get really dizzy for a few seconds (which feel like eternity) and feel absolutely physically horrible and out of control. So anticipating I had to make myself throw up, I could feel the negative thoughts nad fears arising. So kept repeating that mantra about being strong over and over, and I got through the night with less fear than I usually have when I have upset stomach.

So my thought was that as we grow positive thoughts over top the negative ones, we'll bring those to any situation we start to feel nervous about - bridges, throwing up, etc...

I don't live near a mountain but someday I'd like to ski down one. I can't do that until I travel to do it and there is no way to practice going down a mountain where I live. So I'll have to build up the skills I'll need for that day when I am at the top of the mountain for the first time.

Hope that helped - if not completely off the mark with your question.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

remembering the past

Davit, this made me think - I am having an avalanche of memories lately. That might explain the appearance of angry dragons lately too. How do you cope when too many memories come at once like that sometimes. Relaxing distractions like hobbies or something to do to getout some of that energy I would guess? Honestly some days lately I cannot write down all my negative thoughts like we are supposed to in weeks 1 and 2 because it feels like each memory brings iwth it many negative thoghts, I can't get them all down in time.

Do people write down all their negative thoughts throghot the program? Is this something I should plan to do until I simply have fewer of them to write down?

Yes I am feeling a bit lost today. these questions probably seem quite obvious, and by tomorrow will probably seem obvious to me too once I get back to feeling a bit better.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

Hello -

Welcome angst. You will find lots of helpful information here. I did and still do each day. I hope it is helpful to you.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

New Here

Welcome all the new members! I am fairly new here too but this site has helped more than many books i've read / bought and other things I've tried to deal with my anxiety. I hope you join in the discussions. It is amazing to hear that other people go through the same things. and you are not alone to cope with this. There is a wealth of knowledge and concern here and support.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

Negative Core Beliefs - Part II

Hi Sunny,

Thanks for your post. Your post got me thinking about the pace of this recovery / healing. I am anxious about how quickly i should start to feel better and stop having attacks.

I am going to practice the relaxation techniques more often this week. I have been trying to dig up negative core beliefs but that "work" leaves me tired and worn out and upset so I have to pace myself better I think. I tend to believe that nothing will happen unless i actively work at it. Yes I have been a workaholic at times.

Thanks for your reassurance. I'm gonig to remind myself that it takes time.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

Driving over a bridge exposure

This came up when I read Davits post

I d'nt like walking across bridges either, but I do it . I especially hate when you can see through the side rail or bottom grates to see down below. Some people think it is neat to be able to see below. Not me.

What is this about? Sometimes I visualize that someone might push me over. I don't think about it, this vision just comes up in my mind. Or if I slip, no one will help me. Maybe I fear situations where I might need some help. I don't fear driving because I am in control. I don't tend to fear situations I can feel in control of.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

Fun?

good question. I don't have any ideas yet. I look forward to seeing others chime in on this thought!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

Driving over a bridge exposure

Davit, this was very supportive of you to suggest this. Its true perhaps the good imagination is a b lessing or curse depending how i am using it

. i am also very creative and not scared to try new things when i start hobbies, i read directions but then i go my own way most of the time. i play "what if i used this color" all the time when i am crafting. and it is fun.

This AM i was thinking that i think too much. :) like i'd like to know what the average number of thoughts for a person is in a day. i wonder if i am above average. can i change how many thoughts i have in a day? probably not. its probably a personality trait. i've met people who don't seem to think as much as i do. that sounds bad but what i mean is, they see a movie, and they say 'it was great' and they don't think about all the different aspects of it that i do.

So having positive thoughts grow over the negative thoughts is really important if i can't change the fact that i have a lot of thoughts in a day. i have been paying more attention and i don't think i go 10 minutes without a negative thought. I want to change that. flipping the what ifs is probably going to help a lot with that.

when we are happy we probably have fewer thoughts, less "mind is racing" moments in a day.

I went for a walk yesterday and tried to have more positive thoughts. they dont come naturally (yet). i have to focus on having them. it felt a bit wierd after a while. the trees looked nice, the sky was nice, i was trying to take it in, enjoy the moment, but i sort of ran out of positive thoughts to produce in my mind after a while. I suspect that Sunny, you and others who are further along the path dont have to produce positive thoughts, they simply arise. I want to get there.

Do you recall how you developped a habit of having positive instead of negative thoughts? Did you start by having to 'create' them before they simply started coming?

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 356

NEW - Ask the Expert September

Thanks everyone for posting here. There is one person I can ask for help with these, but they don't know what they are supposed to do during my attack. they ahve tried things that have made my attacks worse. they want to help but don't know how. they think they are supposed to challenge the negative thoughts i'm obsessing on during an attack. that doesn't work. i get really mad at them for arguing with me about how i feel. it makes it worse.

what does your support person do during an attack that helps? any specific examples would be really helpful to me. thanks!

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