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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Still struggling

Lance: I know exactly how you feel about being alone. I, too, am all alone in my part of the country. I have two sons; one of them lives on the east coast, as does all my family; and the other son lives literally on the other side of the world. After my divorce, both sons graduated from college and left the midwest. I feel "stuck" out here in a low-paying frustrating job that I have to hang with for at least 3 more years so that I can collect a measley retirement. Of course, that doesn't mean I won't have to work anymore. That just means I'll be able to move closer to my family and have the retirement check to supplement my income. Anyway, I'm sorry for going on about me. I just want you to know that I understand entirely about the loneliness. I have a couple of very good friends who "make" me go out with them from time to time. While I don't usually want to, I'm always glad that I did go.

Do you have any friends you can go to a game with or just hang out with? I don't know what you like to do, but if you could just get out of the house once a week, it would be a huge improvement and would make you feel so much better. After several weeks, you might even push it up to twice a week! Set a couple of small goals to do something and see what you can do to make them happen.

Again, I'm glad you're still coming here to this site. It shows that you're reaching out. Keep plugging away and it will get easier.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Cant get up

Lance: It might be good to get up early and plan a thing or two in the extra time you have before your meetings. Like going for a short walk, doing some exercises or eating a good breakfast. Why don't you try it for a few days and see what happens?

Rebbie

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Still struggling

That might be reason for some of the trouble you're having. Why did you decide to quit smoking when you were going through a difficult time with your illness? Do you think that continuing to smoke now would make things easier for you? Ask yourself these and other questions regarding your smoking/struggle and see what you come up with. Why don't you make a Pro/Con list?

Let me know what you come up with.

Rebbie

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Getting Older

Hi, Red: I, too, am feeling the pains of getting older. After I had an "episode" of deep depression and ended up in the hospital in October, I have been carrying all of my stress and tension in my lower back. It makes me feel like I'm 80 years old some days. I have trouble getting out of bed in the morning, walking up stairs and after I've sat for 20 minutes or more, I hobble like I'm ancient when I first get going. This is not fair when our minds are still in the mid-20s!!!

I have found that when I do something that I've always been able to do but have trouble doing now, if I "slow" myself down, I can usually accomplish the task. I have also realized in my old age (I'm 57 by the way) that we don't have to do things at the speed of light anymore and it gives me "permission", so to speak, to be able to slow down and do what I can.

I know what you mean about this age thing. It is depressing at times. I'm going to suggest something catty, though, that I do. When I'm out at the mall, at the grocery, or any public place, all I need to do is look around me and see people who I know are about my age and who look about 20 years older! It's not a cure for the depression, but it does make me feel a little better for a while.

I'm sorry you're having a bad day, Red. I hope it gets better.

Rebbie

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Your Pleasant and Accomplishement Activities for Today

Congratulations, Red. It sounds like you had a pretty good day. Sounds like progress to me!

Rebbie

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Venting

Red: I'm so sorry you're going through this and are in so much pain. I can certainly understand how you feel and my heart goes out to you. I really don't know if I have any good advice about this because I'm not sure of your relationship with your family. I do think that a direct conversation about this situation needs to take place, but I'm not sure how comfortable you would be with this. Your family needs to know how you feel about this and how much it's hurting you. I will pray for you.

Hugs,

Rebbie

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Back After a Long Holiday!

I'm back to the DC after a very long holiday. I visited my family on the east coast for Christmas and then my oldest son and I flew to India to spend a couple of weeks with my youngest son. For almost three weeks, I felt as if I didn't suffer from depression! Being around people you love, laughing and joking and teasing was the best treatment plan I've had in a long time. Now, I'm back to the midwest, work and the normal grind, but I'm going to try to hold on to the feeling I had this past holiday season. I've missed everybody on the forum. It'll take me a while to catch up with how everyone else is doing.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Back After a Long Holiday!

I found that keeping myself busy and around people that I love (and who love me!) was very uplifting. Now that I'm back home on my own again, I'm just going to have to commit to activities that I like and try to schedule outings with friends. So easy to say. So hard to do...

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Back After a Long Holiday!

Thanks, Kittycat and Luciana. I will follow the advice from both of you!

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

Thinking others don't like you...

Kitty: Yes, I feel that way quite often. I am told by my sons that I read too much into things. I think that they're right and that I've had negative thoughts for so many years that this feeling just comes automatically. Knowing this still doesn't make it any easier to not think in that direction, though. It really takes an effort some days, and there are days when I just don't feel like making an effort. You know what I mean?

But, just feel that you are not alone in feeling this way, and that this feeling is just an assumption on our part and most likely not a true assumption.

Rebbie

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