Deb: You have really had a lot going on lately and I admire you for handling it the way you are. You are truly an amazing woman! You Go Girl!
I'm thinking of you, your son and your dad. Please keep us posted when you have the time. Sounds like you're fairly busy now with everything going on, so just take it one day, hour, minute at a time.
Kittykat: Was I that mysterious about listing the songs I did?
The first song I chose by Josh Groban is a big favorite because about 4 years ago I reconnected with someone whom I had a very important friendship with about 30 years ago. After all the catching up we had to do, I realized that he had experienced almost the same thing back then that I was going through at this particular time of my life. Our friendship picked up at the place that we left it way back then, and I realized that he was same person now as he was back then even though he had suffered a lot of pain, loss and lonliness. Well, that was a big explanation for a simple song. Sorry....
Eric Clapton's song has always touched me because I have always felt it was about hope after loss and he penned that song after experiencing a terrible loss in his life.
I think Chasing Cars is a joyous song and I've heard (though I don't know if it's true or not) that it is about a father spending time with his child and experiencing life again through the eyes of a child. I could be completely off-base with this one, but I like to thing that this is what it's about and for that reason I like it.
As you can see, I'm into lyrics. But, the music has to be great, too, in order to enjoy the whole.
Thinking of you, Lance, and glad you chose to come here to share with us. We are, and always be, your virtual support group. I will be praying for you.
Good news, Goofy. I'm happy you're able to go on your outing with the girls and glad you're feeling better. Setbacks seem to knock us for a loop, don't they?
Everything you wrote could have been written by me. I feel exactly the way you do. These negative or inferior feelings are so automatic, I wonder sometimes if I'll ever be able to react and feel the way a "normal" person does. I get tired of having to "work" through these negative feelings to resolve them and realize they're negative because of the way I think about them. I have several index cards at work, home and in my purse that say, "It's NOT the Situation - It's how you THINK about the Situation." I still struggle everyday with this.
Has anyone out there ever gotten completely "cured" from this?
Again, I'm so sorry that you've lost your brother. It's understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and terribly sad right now. Unfortunately, grief is a very long, process that we go through when we lose someone we love. Can I suggest that you read or re-read the section on Loss and Grief here at the DC. Also, you might go the library to see if you can find a book that describes the various stages one goes through after a loss like yours.
You said you picked up your brother's remains at the funeral home and don't know what to do with them. Why can't you wait until the time seems right or the correct thing to do presents itself? When we lost my father, we kept his ashes for eight years until we decided the best thing to do by him (my father). It was the right time and the right place. Unless you're being pressured by family members to do something right away, I would hang on until the right time. Just my opinion.
Continue to post here when you feel like sharing or venting. We are here for you. I hear you when you say this is a big blow on top of everything else you've been dealing with. Sometimes it doesn't seem to stop piling up. And just when you were starting to get your life back on track! Doesn't seem fair, does it?
Take care of yourself and continue to let us know how you're doing.
Hi, Goofy. I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling right now with health problems on top of the depression. It certainly has to be very frustrating for you, but I know you, and you will hang in there. I've missed you on the forum and pray that you start feeling better. Just wanted to let you know you're in my thoughts.
Happy Birthday, Goofy! So good to see your humor shining through again in your post. Glad you got the surgery done - anything to make us feel better about ourselves, huh? And sorry about the tooth, but it's a good thing it's gone. Hope your birthday is (was) a good one. So glad you're back posting again. You were missed!
Good to meet you Kirk. Always nice to see a new "name" around here and I look forward to you sharing your story with us if you wish.
There are times when I just read (when I'm in a depression) and times when I post a bit. Whatever you want to do is totally accepted here. Work the lessons. They are very valuable and helpful.
Hi, Kirk: I'm glad to hear a little more of your story. Sounds like your plate is full. I can identify with some of the things you are currently dealing with; such as the financial situation. To me, that has been very stressful.
You mentioned that you are currently not taking your medication because your depression is situational. Was that done at the advice of your doctor? My depression is currently siituational and I feel like I need my depression meds in order to cope with the various situations that are making my depression debilitating. Do you think that medication would help you get through the difficult places you're experiencing right now?
Make sure you work the lessons. They have been very helpful to me and I know it seems like you're back in school or that you have a part-time job by keeping up with them, but it's worth it!
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