kayla, You have a lot on your plate. Make sure you refocus and take that you time. Your body is healing and you need to time to adjust. Make rewards and reach further goals for yourself. Anger and frustration is a common symptom, but please check with your doctor if you continue to feel this way. Smoking has a habit of masking problems and they resurface when you quit. For now try those relaxation techniques and ease yourself into bed every evening. With a relaxation routine, you will wake refreshed and less stressed. Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

Kayla, I'm sorry you feel so lousy. First of all, smoking won't make you feel better. You'll get nauseous and then the intense guilt and feelings of failure will set in. You'll smoke more and more and then you'll have three problems instead of two! My daughter is 27 now. Her teenage years were REALLY, REALLY tough. It's just a terrible time for most parents. Most teens are kind of lost and VERY rude. They think Mom doesn't get it. But believe me, she'll feel differently in a few years! My daughter apologized to me a few times in her early twenties. And yes, we had the legal fees too and all the heartache that goes with them. Just keep being the best Mom you can be and it will all pay off. I am relieved to be the parent of a loving, responsible adult now and Grandpa to a very special 3 year old boy! You just have to white-knuckle it through these teenage years, Kayla! Keep posting if it helps. There are lots of supportive people here! And congratulations on those 40 days! If you can quit for 40 days with a teenager in the house, you can do ANYTHING! Mike [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/11/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 14 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 291 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $49 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 24 [B]Seconds:[/B] 8

Kaya, Phil is right. There is no reason to rush off the patch. You are at a tricky time in your quit. Use whatever resources you can. And be careful not to do what I have been guilty of - a set up. I was really good at getting ticked and saying "See? this is just the reason I need to light up". Inhaling smoke into your lungs will have no affect on your life issues. In fact, it could be argued that it would make them worse. Stay true to your quit, we're here with you. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 117 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,175 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $585 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 12

Wow Kayla! No wonder you want to smoke! How old is the boyfriend? You need to get rid of him! Who the hell does he think he is! I've got three......25,22, and 20. Know what? You never get rid of them but always love them. I came off the patch about a week ago. At this point I don't think it does a thing. We know our lives will be better and healthier as non-smokers. We've already seen that. But the desire to sit back, inhale, and relax is very stong and will be for a long time yet. We just need to keep fighting and keep going. Be strong!

Hi Kayla! I hear ya! Went thru a bad bout with my own daughter when she was 14, its a bad age - they want to be 21 and are still kids, it is hard to deal with. My advice is just keep "talking" to her about what's right and what's wrong, it will sink in! About the patch, yes it probably has something to do with your mood, I always found that stepping down or off put me in a bad mood for a day or two...Try to hang on, if you are really concerned, go back on the patch. The 7mg are not that strong and it would only be for a couple of weeks more anyway! By the way, Congratulations on 40days girl! Keep going! :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 51 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,286 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $538.05 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13

Ayla Smoking (or not smoking) isnt responsible for your problems BUT you are coming off the patch far too early why the rush? Phil x [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 260 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,729 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �1365 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 52 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3

It started yesterday when I left home without my patch on and got to work only to have a horrible day. Then my daughter calls me at work asking to go to her friends house. Not a problem, until I get home and then she call to ask to stay out later now it's a problem. There is a trust factor that was broken last year to the tune of $1500 in legal fees and she is still earning it back. On one hand if I don't let her have some freedom she'll rebel, on the other hand she's never satified with an inch she wants the whole mile.Not easy being a single mom and I still get scared when she's out of my sight. She's 14years still young and it's a screwed up society today that parents need to worry about their kids all the time.VT didn't help any either. It's also hard to let go and pray she gets home ok and not into any trouble or worse... So then boyfriend gets involved (not with my daughter present) telling me I'm too strict and to let her be a kid. I know he meant well but I was not in the mood and I let him have it. This is the same person who was suppose to move out a month ago and still hasn't.So you can imagine what was said( trust factors with him too) He's still here, go figure even after I blew up at him and at my daughter when she finally came home. Anyway I'm in a bad mood and still no patch. I know I should use the patch as prescribed but I thought I would try it. Besides it was the 7 mg patch. Is this mood from not using the patch? Part of me wants to just say the hell with this and I'll quit when my daughter leaves home and the boyfriend leaves too. People places and things. Well my daughter stays, boyfriend needs to go and the stresses will still be there. I know part of me is looking for an excuse which is why I'm writing. I feel like crap, I've gained weight and I feel like I did the first few days after quitting smoking. I know I can't go back because as I've said before if I do I will never forgive myself. I'm just in a bad way and can't seem to snap out of it and it isn't PMS. At least then I could understand the mood. I've been doing some serious deep breathing and the urge to smoke is still there. I have not smoked and deep down don't want to, but a part of me is saying to hell with this. What really stinks is I'm not even excited about having 4