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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1693

Goofy,

You can do this! Lots of rest and relaxation is key.

Hang in there, and work on getting rid of that cold

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

hey fellow forum posters (lol))

I am a bit frustrated, I guess due to lack of sleep and stress level, I am sick with a respiratory something or other(cold?). I still have the funeral service tomorrow and visitation tonight and Thanksgiving is celebrated on Friday for me. I often get sick following high levels of stress or lack of sleep. anyone else do this? So now I'm trying to catch up on sleep, mourn and get rid of this cough and congestion. Then prepare for Thanksgiving - which we decided to have catered under the circumstances.

I'm still praying for strength and telling myself, I can do this, I can do this.......self efficacy?

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

Thanks for all the support! I love the prayers! Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers. I prayed for strength and my higher power (God) answered me.

Diva I picked the Serenity Prayer to put in the memorial for Dad's funeral. Wildcat, I used that prayer at my former mother-in-laws funeral as I planned the service and my Uncle said it this a.m. for us.

Dad died this a.m. We are numb, from the 24 hour vigil since Dad was brought home with hospice on Monday evening. We were up every hour last night giving him meds to make him comfortable. I have only gotten 3 hours of sleep per night and spent every night with him in the hospital. My brother stayed with me after he came home. (more on my brother later) He did die peacefully with me and my brother at his side. I guess the hardest part was telling his mother he was dying and then telling her he died. She will be 98 in January.

I'm exhausted it is 5:00 p.m. here and I'm going to bed!

Again, thanks - the Service is not until Tuesday afternoon due to the weekend (flowers, funeral arrangements, and newspaper, etc.) I'll probably be back then venting about my frustrations with my brother and his lack of support, arrogance and a few other choice words I don't think are appropriate for this format.

Sheba, sorry to hear about your father, my prayers and blessings are with you!

Thanks again for your thoughts, prayers and support!

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 910

Np Rose, it is pretty isn't it? I love tha prayer, it brings me solace.

Big hugs to you goofy, we are here waiting for you!

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 201

miss you goofy hope you come back soon and in one piece.....diva, i had no idea that poem went on, thanks!

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 910

HEy Goofy,

Sorry to hear the news. Hang in there we are hear for you. I have you (and your family) in my thoughts and my heart and my prayers! Hang in there we are here for you anytime!

My favortie prayer:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

this has alway been my favorite..

hail mary, full of grace

the Lord is with thee.

blessed art thou amougst women

and blessed is the fruited of thy womb, Jesus.

holy mary, mother of God

pray for us sinners

now and at the hour of our death.

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 406

Goofy,

Sending peaceful thoughts and prayers your way. May you and your family find renewed strength during this difficult time. We are always here when you need the support. Take care

Karen, Health Educator

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

Hi, an update which is very not good!

They have said daddy has days or weeks not months. He has liver cancer/cirrhosis and that encephalopathy which is part of the liver dysfunction and having high levels of ammonia in his system. Normally occurs in the body, his is twice the normal amount at this time. His kidneys are not function properly. He is not metabolizing or getting nutrients for food. He has stated his wishes and has periods of being cognizant of his surroundings and eats a little and periods of time where he doesn't. This will deminish over time and he will basically go into a coma. They say there is no pain associated with this, but if there is, they have reassured us, he will feel no pain. They have contacted Hospice. We are not even sure that he will come home from the hospital.

Those who pray to a higher power, please pray that daddy doesn't linger, he always said he didn't want that. He knows what the outcome is going to be and how long it will take (approximately). Also, please pray for strength for me and my family!

I miss this outlet! I am going to stay at the hospital until he comes home (one way or the other).

Thanks

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

Rose306, Thanks for the prayer. It is a great one....will put in my collection of great prayers. Also, thanks for the recipe, I'll see if that helps! Of course, I will have to buy some decaf cause an idea like that would never cross this mind! lol

Dad had 8 pints of fluid drawn off his stomach today. It isn't all of it, but he went from weighing 206 lbs yesterday to 189 lbs today. They are giving him medications to remove the ammonia from his system. Apparently this builds up when the liver is ceasing to function. they are concerned about his liver function and his not absorbing the foods he eats and getting sufficient nutrients. The doctor said they would analyze the contents of the fluid, look at CT scan and ultrasound of the stomach, plus the blood work and give us a diagnosis tomorrow.

We discussed medical surrogates with dad yesterday and/or a living will. He wants the medical surrogates but my son, didn't think it was in my best interest to be one along with Brad, so he is going to do it with Brad. This is acceptable to dad. This is in case he becomes incapacitated (mentally) and is unable to make his own decisions.

I think I was feeling relief yesterday, today I am back to worried. He looks so frail, is so unstable on his feet, is having difficulty with his bowels, and looks as under nurished as they say he is, even though he still has some fluid in his stomach. My sister-in-law is filled with doom and dread and erks me! We don't know anything yet, I'm trying to stay grounded in today and not worrying about tomorrow! So I am doing my best to ignore her and her planning for "the rest of his life" when we don't even know the extent of things and if it's liver disease, failure or cancer.

I am also worn out!!!!!I came home early! I just am going to go crash (go to bed). I hope I sleep till 8 in the a.m.

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