Davit: you're a good brother and decent human being. God bless you. Glad you are having good weather and getting some gardening done.
Shadowkins and Davit: thanks for listening and answering my venting. It's true I don't talk about this to anyone now. The friend I confided in has passed away, last Oct. My brother left about an hour ago and is off for another week or so before I see him again. We got the accounting done, no problems. He wanted me right there with him, but I kept my plan and didn't have to go over every single minute detail. I keep good records with everything filed properly and is easy to go over, so I set everything up for him before he came over, with a calculator and everything handy.
I think it is true that my brother lacks some confidence and I think is lonely even though he is very accomplished in life and has achieved most of his goals and has received many awards in his career. But he does bully too and often uses the phrase "because I am the eldest and only son" which really doesn't count anymore as we are adults now on the same level and my opinion should count too.
Davit, That is how manic people act? talking all the time even if you are in another room? I didn't know that. He certainly fits that picture. I thought it was because he lived alone - has been divorced for over 20 yrs. - so liked to talk a lot. I find that wearying - try and relax through it and "let it go", but in the last couple of years I can't and feel relief when he leaves. It is like a whirlwind coming into the house and everything is all about him. You can hardly get a word in edgewise. Even when I was very well it was tiring, now more so.
You asked if I have arthritis. I do a bit I think, it's funny, just before the BP went whacky I did have a sore hip, the pain shooting down the top of the thigh. It only lasted a day, I don't need to take anything, not even Tylenol. Sometimes I have a sore shoulder, but again only lasts a day or so. I have a dr's. appt. coming up end of the month and will mention this. thanks for the tip.