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11 years ago 0 33 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi,

Quick question for you.  Am I free to comment on your blog?  I have no experience with this so I wanted to ask as I was reading yours and noticed the "comment" part.

I wanted to say I appreciated your creeper post regarding cravings creeping back up like vines, I thought that was really great and another one so wanted to ask if I would post a comment there?  And just to verify it is ok to read your blog right?

I really get a lot out of it.
ok, thanks.

Siobhan
11 years ago 0 409 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
The Gifts of Imperfection
http://www.amazon.com/The-Gifts-Imperfection-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X
and anything else by Brene Brown
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Great Idea Dave,

If it does exist here already this is a good redundancy!  I had forgotten about reading as a tool.  That sounds so silly to me as i write that but I haven't read much at all in the past 10 years.  First my eyesight changed so that i needed reading glasses.  When that happened the way my brain processed information changed too.  So strange, but with the change in my eyesight came a change in my brain power, a huge decrease in my reading comprehension and other skills like that.  Word identification, retention..... reading became very frustrating, then I started drinking, lol, I was a very late bloomer.  At first I loved it,  so why would I be reading when i could be drinking and doing dangerous physical things like riding my motorcycle, my jet ski, my horse.....just loved doing those things buzzed, knock on a log cabin I never suffered bad consequences from doing that.  So,  for sure I wasn't reading at that time, then alcohol started taking a toll on my brain.  I was never a moderate drinker, so when I got into it, I brought the full force of my intense life to it and I drank all the time.  I really always drank in the mornings, I could never understand why that was taboo.  I rarely drank at night when I first started.
So, once my memory began to get impacted from alcohol, I really quit reading.  Now it has been a little over 10 years since I read a lot and I must say I had forgotten how much PLEASURE (that illusive thing I mentioned I was trying to re-find, or redefine now being sober) I used to derive from reading.  And that doesn't even mention the benefit each person gets from the wisdom they glean from doing that reading.  

So, Dave, thanks for mentioning these books and to Jenny and Sian, I am so happy to put these down as resources too.
And to remember another awesome way to define pleasure (without alcohol).

Peace,  Siobhan

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Hi everyone,

There is a book that is worth reading called "Power vs Force" by Dr. David Hawkins. It is a very interesting read and provides a lot of insight into why we are the way we are and how language impacts our physical and mental states, both good and bad. I'm not even beginning to describe the concepts in this book. You can check it out at:


It's well worth the time to review and consider how our inner voice as well as the external dialogue with others impacts our lives. The book provides an interesting perspective as to why we keep ourselves locked within certain levels and mindsets. I really got a lot out of this book and hope you find it helpful. Enjoy!

Dave
11 years ago 0 1009 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks Jenny and Sian,

This is exactly what I was hoping for. I'm definitely going to check out the resources you've recommended and it's sincerely appreciated.
 
Best regards,
 
Dave
11 years ago 0 36 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks both Dave and Sian for offering resources and inspiration.  I am investigating both recommendations.  What a great idea Dave!

Some resources that I have found helpful are the "Guided Mindfulness Meditation" CDs by Jon Kabat-Zinn as well as a book by him: Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness.

Jenny



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Very grateful for this book recommendation Dave, as I've had a copy lying around for some time but hadn't read beyond the introduction, or recognised the link between unresolved issues and stunted creativity. I'm definitely going to try a few of the exercises and see where they lead me, so thanks for the inspiration.
 
A book I refer to often is "The Language of Letting Go. Daily Meditations on Codependency" by Melody Beattie. It comes as a book or an app, I have the app on my phone. The readings are meant as "reminders of what we already know" about self-care, relationships, boundaries, etc. I find a simple meditation on something like "Saying no" or "Letting go of perfection" helps to keep me centred and more able to accept whatever comes my way in the course of the day.
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Great idea Dave! Thanks for posting this thread.

Ashley, Health Educator
11 years ago 0 1009 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi everyone,

I've been reading a lot of posts on the forum and thought it might be a good idea to start a thread about resources we all come across that can help us address our issues and expand our knowledge base with things that take us outside the "Box" of what we normally would consider, i.e. audio programs, reading material, etc. If there is a thread on this my apologies for the redundancy and please point me in the direction of the existing one. That being said, a friend gave me a book years ago as a gift called "The Artist's Way", by Julie Cameron. I'm sure there are many on here that are very artistic and those that don't consider themselves artistic at all. It doesn't matter because the book is applicable to everyone.

There are a couple of exercises in this book that I think are extremely relevant to anyone on here and are worth trying. The first exercise is what are called "The Morning Pages". This exercise is designed to shut down that pervasive critical voice that prattles on in our head, that critical voice WE ALL have, and as Mrs. Cameron refers to as "The Censor". That merciless critic that never seems to shut up and has a good deal to do with stopping us from accomplishing our goals. We all struggle with our goals here and over and over, I’ve read (and experience myself) this war inside our minds regarding abstinence, or at the very least, the struggle to moderate. The morning pages is an exercise where you spill out of bed in the morning, preferably before everyone else so you can have peace and quiet, and the first thing you do is write 3 pages. It doesn’t matter what you write, just write. It can be anything you want, whatever comes to mind. No one can read your morning pages so you are free to put ANYTHING down on paper.  I've found it best to do it immediately upon waking and not give myself a chance to think of anything else. A blank slate to start my day. I’ve done this exercise before for a few months and, let me tell you, you will uncover things that you didn’t realize were there. It’s an extremely liberating form of self-discovery that is relevant to everyone here, moderators included. I plan to pick up this exercise again because I know it will help me.

Take some time and go to the bookstore and have a read though book, particularly the first chapter called “Basic Tools”. That chapter describes these exercises in a detailed and much better fashion than my quick over-view.

I sincerely hope you approach this with an open mind and consider having a look at this book if you haven’t already. When I did these pages I realized there were a lot of unaddressed issues I had in my life and this helped to bring to them to the surface.

I hope this helps and I look forward to discovering new resources from all here as well. Always remember, knowledge is power!

Best regards,

Dave

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