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12 years ago 0 272 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi motivation, 
 
I just wanted to wish you luck with the detox.   Yes it will probably be horrible, but you at least have the advantage of knowing that it's temporary,   and as you say, i things get really bad you can have your husband take you to detox.    One of the things that I always found really challenging was keeping anything down when I was detoxing, so have lots of gentle on the stomach, easy to digest foods on hand.   I find gatorade and or flat gingerale to be really good too.   Remember to stay hydrated as much as you can, and if you simply need to stay in bed for a couple of days - that's ok too - stay in bed.
 
I'll be thinking about you.
 
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12 years ago 0 19 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well I'm so scared of the withdrawl symptoms. Next I'm scared of failing I have know more time to fail never been a failure in my life. This disease has taken over every part of me. I really don't think my doctor gets how bad I have become. Took a alcohol test and the results were scary at the least. The said I should seek medical attention to detox. I still plan to do it at home and my date is Friday I'm scared but determined to beat it. I'm relieved that I spoke out and the most important people to me know my situation. There proud of me. All I want is to beat this disease for me and them. II'm also relieved that I steped out of my comfort zone and told somebody else and believe me it was hard.  Just pray that I can do this but I'm really scared. I have every intention to follow threw with my Friday goal even if my husband has to take me to detox.
I'm tired of this and can't wait to feel some of the good feelings of other people have got to experience after giving up the alcohol. 
 
Thank-you everybody

 Motivation 
12 years ago 0 11221 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Motivation,
 
So beautiful to see how many people love and support you right now. How does it feel knowing this?
 
It is normal to be scared when you start anything new. But let's look at this fear. What specifically are you afraid of?
 
Also, relief is a great feeling. What specifically are you relieved about?
 
 

Ashley, Health Educator
12 years ago 0 19 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thank you for your advise. It has helped me a lot. I have set a quit date and its this Friday. I'm truly scared to face this but relieved I am. I admitted to my older children about my addiction. Told them I'm seeking help. There responce to me was great. Many tears fell Sunday was a real emotional day. All my children wanted to here me admit to my problem. There even more joyful that I'm trying to do something about it. There are willing to do anything for me go with me to any meetings it feels real  good. My husband normally works Friday night but is going to take it off so he can be there for me and to spend time with our youngest. I have to do a little more digging to deal with the withdrawl symptoms. I really have came out of my comfort zone and talk to my daughters friends mother. She nearly lost her life due to liver failure due to alcohol. She was shocked to here that I had a problem as I hide it real well from others. She is willing to be there for me anytime if its going for a walk or having a coffee or just picking up the phone to talk. She even said she would go to any meetings with me that I wanted her to. I'm real glad that I opened up. 

  Motivation
Any inspiring words would greatly be appreciated as I count down my days.
  If this don't work I'm detox center bound. I have to stop the insanity.   
12 years ago 0 41 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
"(My doctor) seems to think I can do this on my own with supervision from my husband to make sure I don't have any medical problems. I really don't know if I can as I have tried day after day..........Has anybody had the symptoms I have and had been able to detox them selves on there own? he is big on AA not sure I am. "

It's very difficult to quit without the support of other people. At the very beginning, when you are trying to figure out what alcohol addiction is all about, AA has the highest success rate and can give you the most information, and although some people make it part of their lifestyle for the rest of their lives, many people can manage on their own once they have been alcohol-free for a while. Try an open meeting first, they're a lot less intimidating. Just commit to 90 days alcohol free at first, working a day at a time, and work from there. It's the first 1-2 weeks that are the hardest.
 
You're already halfway there, having made the decision.
Good luck motivation
George                                                                          and the Dragon
12 years ago 0 171 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Motivation,
 
For those of us who are "high functioning" alcoholics, the people we confide in don't always realize the depth of our difficulty.  I didn't have the courage for a very long time to seek help for my drinking, but after being on high levels of antidepressants for over 10 years and self-medicating big time with alcohol, I asked my doctor for a referral to a psychiatrist to assess my medication.  She wouldn't make the referal and just wanted to increase my medication.  I had to switch doctors twice before I found someone who took the time to ask a couple of questions, took me seriously and agreed to help me.  She is the person who helped me take some real concrete steps towards treatment. 
 
You don't have to be destitute and homeless to be alcoholic.  If you feel that your drinking is a problem, then it probably is.  Your doctor is right that there are many ways to approach this and depending on the supports that you have available, you may be able to do it without formal "treatment".  I was also not comfortable with the idea of AA and have connected with something called Women for Sobriety instead.  There may not be a group in your area, but they have online groups and lots of good reading material.  What I am now realizing is how valuable it is to have someone you can talk to openly about your problems with alcohol rather than feeling ashamed and judged.
 
I'm glad your doctor has arranged tests so that you can put those fears to rest.  Do some reading and use the toolbox here to prepare yourself for withdrawal and the early weeks of sobriety.  One of the most useful things an addiction counsellor suggested to me was not to try and quit "right now" or "tomorrow" but to set a date a couple of weeks down the road and plan for it. I scheduled a Thursday and Friday off work so I would have four days. I stocked up on diet ice tea and healthy snacks. I treated myself as if I had the flu (and in fact, I felt a bit that way).  I stayed in bed and read a good book.  I went for walks and took baths.  I planned things to do in the early evening that would keep me away for alcohol (like going to a movie).  By the third day, I was too agitated and restless for those strategies so I spent the day digging in my garden and cutting down an overgrown lilac tree.  I worked so hard I was dirty, sweaty and exhausted  but it got me through the day.  Now everytime I look at the space where the tree was I am reminded of how crummy I will feel if I start drinking again.
 
The other thing about setting a date to quit is that it gives you a bit of time to say goodbay to drinking.  It may sound kind of crazy, but instead of drinking the cheap house wine I usually drank, in those couple of weeks I drank some really good wines.  I also had a marguerita and a gin and tonic, things I rarely drink, but knew I would miss.
 
Sorry I am rambling - I hope that there is something in here that you will find helpful.  You sound like a smart, motivated person who knows what you want and need.  Don't let fear stand in your way.   Now is the time to go for it!
 
Athena
 
12 years ago 0 11221 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Motivation,
 
It sounds like you feel a bit discouraged after going to the doctors. What do you think you still need or want in order to help you with the detox process? What were your expectations going into the doctors appointment? What are they now?
 
How do you think your expectations could be affecting your motivation?
 
 

Ashley, Health Educator
12 years ago 0 19 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Went to my doctor today. Spilled my heart and soul to him. He seems to think I can do this on my own with supervision from my husband to make sure I don't have any medical problems. I really don't know if I can as I have tried day after day. As for my medical condition he thinks its my problems from a previous visit to the hospital about my stomach I had a lot of problems with pulops and diveticulosis. I truly know this is my liver so he is sending me for a ultrasound just to make sure. I'm scared to death about all the hole thing. Has anybody had the symptoms I have and had been able to detox them selves on there own? he is big on AA not sure I am. Think I need a little more than that to start. Any input on detox would be greatly appreciated. 
Any input at all would be appreciated. Anybody that can give my the match to lite the light at the end of the tunnel would help.
Thanks Motivation


12 years ago 0 1853 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi motivation,
 
Speaking with your family doctor is an important step in the healing process.  I imagine it can be scary and you may feel vulnerable, however consulting with your doctor will hopefully help dispel some anxieties you have regarding quitting and they may be able to provide you with additional options on how to cope through the process.  
Have you had a look through the program available on this site? 
Start with the section called "Getting started".  It will help you through the first couple weeks of quitting.  
Stay connected with us on the forums as well - we are here for you!

Vincenza, Health Educator
12 years ago 0 19 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Good for you Athena. Glad to here you made it that far sober. How did you do it did you have medical help to start you off on the right path? Your right my drinking is a daily thing when I get home from work. I'm very scarred about the withdrawl symptoms I here Doing it alone at the point I'm at could put my body in shock or even worse can cause death. I really not sure what to do at this point still drinking to keep my body from all the bad symptoms that I feel even with the thought of not being able to have a drink. Going to my family doctor on Wednesday to spill it all out but I'm so scarred about it all and what he might think of me. I know my liver is damaged got the pains in it have to tell him that to. I just want to get better and live a normal life do good fun things with my spouse and family live life again. I'm great full he is on board to help me I wouldn't know what to do if he turned his back on me. He is stuck on what to do but I guess doctor visit is the first step. 
You keep up the good work glad to see that you have been able to get this far. Thanks for your concern and info

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