babygirl You know you've got the right stuff to get on with this. Don't be hard on yourself, the cigarettes are doing that for you. Be hard on the addiction and recognize it for what it is...and what we are...stone junkies...its just that our drug of choice happens to be legal... It sounds like you have a wonderful partner and be glad for that, because you are about to do something for yourself that will benefit your partner for the rest of your lives. However, since he is not a smoker and therefore is not subject to junkie thinking as we are, you should have a long talk and discuss what is to come shortly... It sounds as if you have organized yourself around this and are prepared to move forward...Don't forget to write down why you are doing this and keep it with you for the hard times... Remember to learn as much as you can about this addiction, the more you know the better equipped you are to understand and take action before you find yourself on some cold city block sucking down 4000 chemicals and believing your having a wonderful time...See what a mind game this is? Yes...by the way that bit of what I call the "literature of smoking cessation" is part of an ongoing journal I keep...If I happen to record something that I think is universal in nature I will put it up...and if someone hears their own heart in it the words have served their purpose... Bless you and good luck on this journey, there are many people here who will help you, but above all you must help yourself...Never forget that where ever you go you've got to take yourself... nonic

Oh Babygirl, I am crying with you, defeat in yourself (the worst kind). Yeagh, I knew I would quit again too. I kept trying, and trying and trying (for 15 years). No Hon, you're not a jerk. Your one of us! You are one who was snared into the Den of Addiction at a very tender and vulnerable age of ignorance by a greedy society who chose money over health of the world. Start by making your plan first, use Nonic's advice above. Are you or do you plan to use an NRT, prescription med, cold turkey or something else? Just FYI...if my daughter NIKNAK hadn't educated me about the new Chantix med, I'd probably still be smoking. This has worked beautifully for me and others if you want to read some posts. It tells your brain it doesn't want to smoke. It's expensive, but some insurances do cover (you could discussit with your Dr). Someone said a week or so ago there is no magic pill...this comes pretty close. Go to your Dr and tell him you want to quit, they love it when their patients actually want to quit,,,and they will help you! How long have you been smoking? Let us know show your stats, and work with those tools on the left.... Get into this site and start reading about what your addiction is. hope to see your stats and many posts in the future of your non-smoking quest!! auntdeb :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 41 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,085 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $194.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 42 [B]Seconds:[/B] 12

Babygirl - The first few days really suck but it's worth every moment. You can do it! -- 2tone [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/26/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 48 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,367 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $264 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 40 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0

Nonic!!!!! Are you kidding me or what??? "before you find yourself on some cold city block sucking down 4000 chemicles and beliving your having a wonderful time". Will you get out of my head! lol. I adore you! More tell it like it is?? Dont be bashfull! People will listen to you and that is what you are all about my wonderful wonderful friend. Life is not simple, life is a gift, a gift that we have to sooner or later give back. So that makes life special, special in all its own ways. Please do not leave this site! You are so special that words can not convey. I wantto thank you for all your posts. Please show your stats. Jaset [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 87 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,757 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $478.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 24 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54

Babygirl, Salute!!! You will do this cuz you had enough!! Enough of the agravation. It is all up to you and if you want something bad enough, you will crawl over burning coals to get it. No pun intended. Sounds like you are a strong person from the start. Jump on and get involved. That what its all about. Whine if you must, but it will only hinder you in the end. Take one second at a time babe. Its all in your head and you can and will succeed. Just takes a set of .... I cant say that here but you get the picture, im sure. We will all help you and that is the key. Use the tools provided and pick your best weapons. Its all in the mind babe, all in the mind. Jaset peteg, remember mark twain [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 87 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,755 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $478.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37

Babygirl,,,, I love that name! lol. Guess what babe, you already completed step one! You admitted that you are a failure!! But you really are not a failure, you just need to see and to realize that what you think is your friend is actually something that is trying to destroy you at a slow pace and up to now, its winning. You want that cig but you know its the wrong choice to continue. You are angry and that is so cool! Now get even more angry, but only this time, get angry at what the addiction is doing to you. Turn your anger into your friend instead of your cigs. I am sure that you know what cigs can do to you. But that really dont matter now. What matters is that you understand that you need to change things in your life if you want to continue to live it. "Change" is one of the most important issues in your quit. In order to keep your quit, you must change your life in many ways. If you panic you must change that as well. Hey babe, you are not alone. Panic is the feeling you get when you know some thing needs to be corrected. Its that simple. Work on one issue at a time. Seems like you have been down this road b4, so you know that you have to be tough and remain that way for the duration. Take one second at a time and work on one issue at a time. Your addiction is your addiction, no one elses. Thats where this site helps. Learn about your addiction and learn what it does to you. But in all actuallality, you dont want that cig, you want that addiction. So now you must change the addiction. IT CAN BE DONE! Its all in your head and you need to realize that you can control your addiction. It just takes time and it takes a strong attitude. We will give you the strong attitude, you need to except it and keep it strong. I will promise you one thing babygirl, I will promise you that if you really want to do this, you will get all the help you need from the people on this site. We will not pick you up off the ground, rather we will catch you before you fall. You must change your life style. That is, you must eliminate what is accociated with smoking. That is so important. If the cig goes with the coffee, you must eliminate it totally. Same goes for the stress ponts. Remember, stress is a triger point. Work on the bigest triger points first. If you need help wit

You have to ask yourself - What do you want? When I had my first child, i was afraid to go into the hospital b/c i didn't want any medication and I was afraid it would be pushed on me. I was very whiny. Finally my husband said "OK. Let's just go camping and I'll deliver the baby". That shut me up. There was no way that was gonna happen and I knew I had it in me to navigate the hospital. With my second child I had to go on bed rest and take medication to maintain the pregancy. I called the OB every day whining "can't i take something else?" "can't you change the dosage?" "do i have to take this?" He finally had enough and told me that i did not have to take the medication. He said I could allow nature to take it's course and just take a chance with the consequences. That shut me up. I did was I was told and everything went fine in the end. Are you seeing a moral to this story? You have rightly decided what you want. Now Make It Happen. I know it's not easy. Keep posting and know that we support you ALL THE WAY! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 45 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 458 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $225 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20

Hey Babygirl, first. never percieve what is said here as criticism - if you do - disregard it. Secondly, when you t/a no one smoking the amount that you did - you may want to be careful - b/c you may find that person here giving advise. More importantly, you're right. No one can know precisely what you are are going through. You are your own expert and need to select your own counsel. You are well on your way to quitting considering your awareness level. Quitting is all about knowing the answers. I love your energy and can't wait to hear from you again. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 46 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 469 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $230 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 55 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7

Had to smile when I read your post tonight. Gave me a warm, kinda fuzzy feeling. I think you're gonna make it kid. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 48 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 489 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $240 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6

Probably nothing at all, but I'm concerned about the name "Baby Girl," even though others love it. No doubt I'm reading too much into it, but I'm seeing "helpless," "take care of me," "make my decisions for me," and everything else that we would ordinarilly associate with babies. I'm all about indecision, I'm all about ambiguity, I'm all about clearly needing one thing and clearly wanting its opposite -- I'm puzzled by someone who has a desire to quit and yet calls herself baby. Probably just a language/nickname thing... but it confuses me. No doubt I am way too easily confused... Do you want to quit and take charge of your life? A first step might involve a new identity, but then, I am probably way off base. I often am. peteg [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/30/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 104 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,248 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $572 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 19 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38