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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1904

I think the fighting is just an excuse to smoke. The bad thing about excuses is that you will always have one. I was fighting with my significant other last week. We decided to take a break from each other. I put my foot down about some things first. And boy, am I ever known for being really serious about stuff like this. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 25 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,013 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $185 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 26

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 70

I would like to apolized to all my June bugs. My husband and I had a knock down drag out fight yesterday and neither of us took it very well. First, I went flying out of the house determined to buy a pack of cigs. Instead, I came home and took some xanax...then the ranting and raving started and my husband left and came back with the cigs (he had quit for 9 months). The next thing we were both smoking on the back porch. The last few converstions between us in two days is getting a divorce. I am not ready to give up 14 years of marriage over the anxiety of a cigarette. In the past year we have had to deal with hurricane Katrina--wasn't sure if either of us had jobs since we were in the New Olreans area. Then when my husband finally got back to work (1st week of October) three weeks later he was knocked off a ladder (october 28, 2005) and he is still not able to work. He has been a total a** and has no support for anyone else, which really didn't help me. Yesterday I found myself back at square one at work. I got there for 8 a.m. and after an hour I had done nothing. My concentration was gone and I just couldn't figure out anything. I called my husband and told him that I would come home as soon as my boss showed up. Left work at 11 a.m. and world war 3 began when I got home (should have stayed at work)...hubby and I were at each others throats saying mean and ugly things. I was determined he would not ruin my quit. Somewhere along that nasty fight I lost it...and that is where I started in the beginning of this post. I hope this makes sense...I am very frustrated this evening. I shouldn't have used all of my problems as an excuse to start smoking, but we all know the feeling that it gives us and I gave in to that feeling. I was determined this morning to go have another laser treatment...I had only smoked seven cigarettes from Monday afternoon to this morning. Before we left for laser treatment, I broke all the cigarettes that we had left and off I went to my laser...hubby came and we went and had lunch again and things were getting ugly in the restaurane then the fighting started real bad on the way home and so I stopped I BOUGHT THE CIGARETTES. I quit smoking because I got very sick at the beginning of June and was unable to breath

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 70

Hello everyone, If I could just live with all of you instead of the situation that I am in (you are all soooo supportive). My husband called me at work today and was crying and telling me how sorry he was for buying that pack of cigs. He said that he knew when I left the first time saying that I was going to buy them and then turned around and came right back without them that I wouldn't have smoked. That is how determined I was about my quit...but he also knew that if he came home with them and started smoking in front of me that I would smoke. He is feeling awfully bad and I feel like crap myself. My boss was so pissed this morning when I told her and was a total witch to me all day. I don't know how everyone feels when they are craving but I get a very heavy feeling on my chest and it won't go away until I take a drag on a cig and it gives me an aggrevated feeling. I know I wasn't being my usual happy-go-lucky self during my quit...but I also saw my husband through his quit and other medical problems for nine months and boy did he have a bad attitude for the first few months of his quit and I dealt with it (although he was on so many drugs that he just doesn't recall what an a** he really was). We have been talking marriage counseling and hopefully things will start falling back into place. Another thing is he hasn't been able to go back to work and it is driving him crazy being home all day which is why it is hard for him to have sympathy for anyone but himself. I WILL BE BACK! Take care everyone and stay strong...I still come here daily and read different posts which always keeps me thinking. Darcy

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 772

Come back come back... smoking wont make your marriage better, i do completely understand where you are coming from though, I could have smoked - oh I so could have smoked the last week. I hope to see you back here soon!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 51 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,294 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �382.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 34

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 772

Oh gosh I cant believe that i missed this post!! I really think that it is right now, i was having a tough time of it, I think if I had fought with my partner i could have smoked too. When you are ready to quit again, come back 0r stay around continue to read posts.I am sure that now you know you can do it you wont want to stay smoking. I am dead sure of that. So you will be back, when you are I will definately be here too [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 51 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,294 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �382.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 816

Darcy, I guess I did not understand after the part you were off for an other laser treatment, I know you went to lunch, but did you get the treatment? Please try again if you are having trouble breathing. Your quit is important for your life, please rethink the options. We will all be here for you when you return. sullydog [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/2/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 61 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 800 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $305 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 48

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 216

Hi Darcy. So sorry for the pain you have been going through. Can I ask how that cigarette made you feel?? Did you really feel good or did you feel good because you finally had your excuse of why you quit your quit. You didn't have to blame yourself for quitting cause it was the darn fighting that made you buy those smokes. How easy it is to have an excuse to why you couldn't keep fighting. That's what I've always done in my past quits. I think I would pick fights just so they could be my excuse. Well this time is different for me and I must choose with every unbearable situation that comes my way, to not smoke. It is hard sometimes but I do find it is getting easier. The option to quit fighting is NOT AN OPTION. I trully hope you can overcome your personal problems and get back on the wagon to a life of freedom and health. How long was you quit?? D2Q [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 65 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,313 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $195 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 216

Hey Darcy. Best of luck to you. We hope to see you back here real soon. Please make sure you leave the other failed quit behind you, it's okay, really it is. When you come back, come back strong and beat the NICODEMON once and for all. Take care and don't be gone long. D2Q [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 66 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,332 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $198 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

I actually think smoking would help with the fighting. I think if we would just go back to smoking our marriage would not be in shambles. BUT what good is a marriage when all you are doing is covering up problems with drugs/nicotine/smoking? What good is a marriage that avoids problems? At least if we stay quit and we expect these issues and emotions to come up. We can learn to deal with them. We need to learn to cope to stay smoke free for life. Couples may take their arguments as far as divorce as an excuse to smoke. My husband and I have contemplated if that is what our subconscious was trying to do. We are still having problems, but we are trying to do better. We also try and keep in mind that our old habit may have something to do with all this fighting. It is hard to make sense out of all of this sometimes, but bit by bit ... I know we can do it. I do not really want my marriage of almost 15 years to be over either, but I am not going back to smoking. In order to stay married ... I need to stay alive. In order to have a marriage based on reality ... I need to stay off the drugs/nicotine. *sending more prayers your way* [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 82 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,474 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $328 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15

Quit Meter

$54,930.00

Amount Saved
Quit Meter

Days: 6055 Hours: 20

Minutes: 53 Seconds: 31

Life Gained
Quit Meter

45775

Smoke Free Days
Quit Meter

137,325

Cigarettes Not Smoked

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

I can so relate to getting in fights with my other half and discussing divorce. When will this fighting end? When will we look at each other in a 'good' light again? I'm sorry to hear you fell off the quit wagon Darcy. I hope you'll be getting back on soon. *sending a prayer your way* [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 82 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,460 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $328 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22

Quit Meter

$54,930.00

Amount Saved
Quit Meter

Days: 6055 Hours: 20

Minutes: 53 Seconds: 31

Life Gained
Quit Meter

45775

Smoke Free Days
Quit Meter

137,325

Cigarettes Not Smoked

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