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18 years ago 0 1128 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
A really good friend, even one who has been since you were kids. Would want you to be healthy. *refer to junkie ways of thinking. You know you can do it Nik, you're doing it now. I want to be able to tell you everything will be alright Nik but i cant. You seem so fragile and i want to choose my words carefully. Nik, people change, your thought process has changed. This is a wonderul thing so embrace it. I want to say so much more but i think you would rather just a plain old, i understand Nik and i really do understand. How about you get your favorite movie and watch that, distract yourself from your current train of thought, dont over analize it all tonight. Just sit back and take a deep breath. I know you are hurting at the moment but its going to be ok. Lol if you want my psycological thought on this just let me know. hee hee :) Big hugs for you Celeste [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 10 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 247 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $102 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 12
18 years ago 0 97 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I don't know what to say Niks. It's sad that they smoke around their kids, it's sad that you have a hard time being around that much smoke....the whole thing is sad. But like you said you can't start smoking again. Good friends have a way of working things out. You'll find away. Maybe you could meet them at the park where they could smoke but it would be outside so you were getting fresh air, maybe you could get together for bar b ques or cookouts at each others houses so you would be outside and they could smoke but again you could get fresh air. Maybe you could meet an non-smoking places too like a resturant or something? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 4 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 166 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $28 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
18 years ago 0 1127 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Dear sweet Niks, Sorry to hear you are not feeling well right now. There is a little light though. My best friend and also nextdoorneighbour is a smoker. I used to hang out with her every day. When I quit smoking I thought that she would not smoke when I was arround but no, she didn't care one bit. She didn't want to talk about my quit or nothing. When I was at her (smelling) house she smoked one after the other. She had NO idea that it bothered me. Smokers are somewhat dumb and blind (lol). I decided not to go to her house every day and I know that she is not happy at all about that. But I protected my quit. Last week we went to a party together and I sat next to her as usual and it didn't bother me at all that she smoked. I mean: You will notice that THEY are the one who feel bad about them smoking, not you. You made a good decision and you have to stick with that. I know it's hard now and I really feel sorry for you. It's no use to talk about them about your quit because they have no idea what you mean but that's the smokers additude. They don't have a clue. Stay strong niks and come here often. We need you!! Big hugs, Fini ((((((((((((((( NIKS))))))))))))))))))))) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 112 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,802 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �330.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 15 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57
18 years ago 0 70 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hey Niks, Sorry you had a rough one. I know what you mean about the smoking. My hubby's family all smoke and I haven't seen them since the quit. His mom quit but he has 2 brothers and 1 of their friends that stay there and they all smoke. They are very rude when it comes to others and their smoke, so I made up my mind that until I am ready I will not go over there. I feel bad not seeing my mother-in-law...she just finished up with chemo and radiation for breast cancer. I just can't take the risk of exposing myself to that. Things will get better and hopefully your friends will see the light and do something about their problems...especially smoking inside with children. Take care and stay strong my friend. Darcy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 39 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 637 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $156 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18
18 years ago 0 772 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I feel better today. I think yesterday i was upset that cigarettes played such a large part in my life, and how they can affect relationships. I felt sad that i had to stay away from people in the real world that were dear friends to me, because they dont see that i am serious in my quit. I miss them in my life. The longer it goes on,the more I think i cant really see them, smoking really is a thing of the past. I am sure it will blow over. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 40 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,006 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �300 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 11 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11
18 years ago 0 772 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Aragh its Friday. Weekends are always the toughest for me, I havent seen some of my best friends for a while since I quit smoking. My best of best friend, that has been with me through thick and thin, for many years, I havent seen for 6 weeks, which is a long time as normally we would see each other at least twice a week. So tonight i went to their house, before i went home, it was great to see them and their kids, I had REALLY missed them. But they both smoke so heavy, I ended up having to leave, because i really couldnt breath properly. I feel really sad about that. I know its pathetic. I didnt say why i was leaving, but i knew that i might not be back for a while either. Sad thing is that they have kids aged 2 and 4... who breath that every single day. I didnt say anything about that either. I feel so down. I miss some of my good friends.. but I just cant go there, well not for any length of time (in UK people dont have air con).. So I came home and i just feel like going to bed, and going to sleep. I am so so fed up. Really fed right up. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 39 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 994 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �292.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 4 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50
18 years ago 0 772 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I dont know if I am explaining myself well. I havent seen them for 6 weeks, because they smoke. I knew that i would be putting myself into a danger situation, as i have failed a quit a few times at their house. This isnt the only friend I have had to stay away from. I miss a lot of my really good friends. Some I have known most of my life. Simply because they are heavy smokers, and will try to coherce me.. and i just cant smoke anymore. I hope this gets better. :( [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 39 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 994 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �292.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 5 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54
18 years ago 0 69 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Niks, So sorry I missed this post when you were having a tough time, But am so very proud of you for staying strong. You were one of the first people to give me support in my first few days of my quit. I wish you were not having to withdrawl from nicotine and to top it off your smoking friends. When it comes down to it I started smoking to fit in a certain crowd,feel older and have more friends. Before we quit My husband and I were the only smokers among 95% of our friends. It was such an inconvenience with parties etc .always having a craving and feeling antsy to have a cig. Plus all of our restaurants are smoke free here,and walking outside was an embarassing inconvenience. I send you (((((BIG HUGS)))) and want you to know that you are a positive influence on your friends. Stay strong!!! Your Friend Kerin [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 7 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 153 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $25.9 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15
18 years ago 0 695 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
niks sooo sorry for the way you are feeling today/tonight!! I felt the same way that you do about my friends and my husband.. the first 3 - 4 weeks. I am still a little afraid to be around smokers... good luck keep posting mon [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/22/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 60 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,218 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $180 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52
18 years ago 0 2838 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Niks: It's funny how everyone's quit is different. My husband and I have always met for lunch with a bunch of our friends at a certain restaraunt every Mon-Fri. We smoke while we solve all the problems of the world. I have had to give that up because of the temptations, while my husband doesn't seem effected by it. I stay in my office, eat my pitiful 260 calorie Healthy Choice, walk 1/2 mile to a bench along the river, meditate for a minute and walk back to my office. I miss the lunches and I am a bit lonely, but I have gotten to know myself a lot better. I've put on a few pounds, but my husband, who still attends the lunches, is really packing it on. For some reason I find that satisfying ;p [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 59 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,988 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $472 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49

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