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Niks, I told all my friends before I quit that I could not be around cigarette smoking at all for a while until I felt secure in my quit. They all understood. Now that I have been quit for 10 weeks. This is how I feel: [IMG]http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a17/Daniwiz/full-poste777.jpg[/IMG] I mean I look at it like this: I have not gone through all this to now be exposed to second hand smoke as well. Give me a flippin' break, you know what I mean? It has nothing to do with them as a person. It has everything to do with the smoke. I didn't know I would feel this way before I quit. But I have just read too much d@mning information to expose myself to anymore of this poison. I have told my friends that I can be around them smoking and I do not feel any urges to join them. So if they wish to light up, for them to go right ahead ... only I will not be around them smoking in an enclosed area. Even when I smoked I didn't smoke in an enclosed area. I only have a few smoking friends and a few smokers in my family, but all have been supportive and none would ever offer me a smoke. If they did I would seriously question the healthiness of that friendship in my life. I do not think someone that would purposely sabotage my goal instead of support it is that healthy of a friend to have in my life. Love yourself Nik. It is when we love ourselves that we can love others more fully. Quitting is an excellent way to love yourself. Fondly, Breaking Free [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 70 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,124 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $280 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15
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18 years ago 0 5009 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Niks, There are a lot of posts like this where somebody is feeling down for whatever reason. Then they come back the next day to say that they are feeling a lot better about the situation. The point that I'm trying to make(probably badly) is that you faced a difficult situation yesterday and you dealt with it. Today you have got things into perspective again - and you can continue on this wonderful journey. Remember that there will soon come a time when you won't dread weekends as there will be a time when you will be comfortable with your smoking friends. Until that time comes - stay tough all the very best Mr Ed :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 159 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,779 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �1192.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 26 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 22 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55
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Hugs to you, Niks! I know you feel sad right now and I am sorry. You will only feel more depressed if you smoke. Plus, your a huge inspiration to this board and we need you! Stay strong! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 68 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,360 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $306 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 10 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7
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Hi Niks...Congratulations for not caving...I read the post from start to finish and when I read your final posting, I could not help the smile on my face. I for one posted many postings when I felt like you did and then the next day I would wake up and think "wow what was that all about, I feel OK today".. Thank goodness for the support I used to say. I really believe that your feelings yesterday were very real, I also believe that when we are just a tiny bit lonely or sad,,,our junkie thinking just steps right up to the plate, unbeknownst to us and before we know it the little mole hill has gotten pretty big and it is only the next day that we see it. You obviously were somewhat aware in the back of your mind of what was going on because you took charge and did not allow that 'sad and vulnerable time' be a trigger to start smoking again.j Cheers and hugs ((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/8/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 379 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,586 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2653 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 49 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
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Niks, Quitting is tough stuff you know that. You are doing so well. We are proud of you. You have come so far in just a short amount of time dispite obsticals. Quitting can also bring on depression. Have you rewarded yourself? Rewards are extremely important in the quit process. Hang in there and keep taking it one step at a time. You will NOT regret this. I promise you. The freedom is worth every bit of agony you go through now. If you feel like just going to bed, go right ahead. I did that a lot early in my quit. Tomorrow is a new day :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 385 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,717 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1347.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 34 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 4 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27
18 years ago 0 2027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I know this is hard, niks. Having to isolate yourself from your friends on top of giving up smoking is rough. You have to keep in mind that what you are doing is ultimately for the greater good for you and those around you. Perhaps you could stay in touch over the phone? I know that's a lame suggestion, but at least it would be something. The day will come when you can be around them again. When that time comes, you will become an example to them of what freedom from the addiction is. Who knows, perhaps some will decide to quit, too. Personally, regardless of what they say, I've never known an smoker who truly wanted to remain one. Stay strong, niks. Protect your quit. Holler for help when you need it. :) Shevie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 424 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,495 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1611.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 79 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25

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