Hi Diva,
Just read your reply and I can sympathize with you. I agree with Breanne, you're not being unreasonable, you're hurt. I can certainly relate. I have been trying to get this type of thing through to my husband also only different reasons.
What I've learned lately is that guys really do like to be able to do their own thing. They have no idea how long they're involved with it either. What seems like pure selfishness to us may not be to them. They simply don't have the same outlook on things that we do. Depression and anxiety makes it worse! He likely looks at his game play as harmless and the fact that he's in the house with you means he's with you. GUYS!!!
I'm not saying that you shouldn't be upset, just that he is still going to want to play his games. Maybe you can agree to set up good times for him to have his game times. Let him know that you understand that he likes to play them but that you expect there to be a priority - you before games. If he promises you something, you expect him to follow through.
You can also find something that you enjoy that will allow you to have some personal fun while he plays, at least you're in the same room.
I do understand how you feel and I know what you're saying. I don't really feel as though I'm the best person to give advice right now, but during our arguments of late I know that my husband feels like I'm critizing him, even though I'm very hurt and do have reason to say something. Once I get upset, it becomes a matter of how I say it (because I'm hurt my words are like knives) I have been trying, but mess up constantly. We are doing better today and I haven't flipped out at all.
I wish you all the best Diva. Please let us know how you're doing, but tomorrow is another day and it will get better.
