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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 177

Vincenza,

My psychologist told me at my last visit that I'm not a classic case of an anxiety disorder. That normally people with anxiety can't bring themselves to do the things that make them anxious at all. Yet I've had periods of anxiety where I can't do them, and periods inbetween where I have been just like everyone else my age. I see it as like if your immune system is low, you'll get a cold and then have to fight it off. When I'm really stressed, like in my final years of school, it makes me more susceptible to the panic attacks coming back. I also tend to not take time out to relax when I'm stressed, which of course makes it worse.

We've started Dad on natural sleeping tablets which have helped to an extent. They've made him happy, albeit a little too happy and he follows Mum and I around, wanting to help out with whatever wer're doing. I know I should be happy that wants to help out, but all I really want is some time to myself and with us both spending nearly all our time at home it's hard to find that. Mum has more of a social life than me haha.

Davit, the microplasma is something that I find fascinating. I'm enrolled to study a Bachelor of Health majoring in Biomedical Science next year at the uni in town. I wanted more than anything o be a doctor, or a medical research scientist, but I'm not sure anymore. In that aspect I'm having a crisis of confidence, but I might start another thread on that one.

KatieKatie

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Vincenza.

I have a friend that had a good but stressful business and a good life to go with it. A car accident and the ensuing costs added more stress. She became very erratic in here dealings and developed signs of bipolar. Upon diagnosis she went on medication and sold out the business. She is doing fine now.

There is a connection between stress lowering a persons immune system and the onset of Arthritis.

How many other things?

Davit.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Goodmorning,

Interesting discusssion!

Davit, you mentioned stress as possibly related to bipolar disorder. I agree that stress is at the root of many illnesses. It's surprising to me how many people are unaware when they are stressed and often don't know how to deal with stress. Many of us swallow our stress and it ends up manifesting itself in a physical or mental way.

Members, how do you know when you are stressed? How do you deal with it?

Kaitie, please keep us posted about your dad. I hope he is able to get care that your family is comfortable with.

Vincenza, Health Educator

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Kaitie

They are so small that they can only be seen under an electron microscope. Because they are like jello without a cell wall they can not be stained to show up. So to a large percent they don't exist. Yet it is accepted that they can cause Pneumonia. They come in more than one shape. The one that causes pneumonia looks like a cockle burr and attaches itself to the lung. The one that causes Arthritis looks like a cork screw and can travel without using the blood stream. Because antibiotics can only travel in the blood stream it is hard to kill. It moves. It doesn't eat the cells but moves into them and eats the protein they live on. The only way white cells can kill them is to kill the cell they have moved into. Like burning a house to kill the cockroaches. So they move at the first sign of trouble. Tetracyclines make that protein unavailable to them but also unavailable to the cells that normally use it. Because there is increased blood flow to the area they are at there is heat. Because the white cells wrap themselves around a cell to starve it there is swelling. Because the white cells are killing body cells it is called an auto immune disease. Falsely. Tetracyclines are the only Antibiotics that can successfully leave the blood stream and chase them in other fluids. If they could get into the brain there are very few antibiotics that could cross the blood brain barrier. And how would you find them without a biopsy. Yet no one has a better explanation for why brain cells are dying. They die very fast when exposed to air so by the time they are under a microscope they are no longer moving. And they are clear. Arthritics who do antibiotic therapy do not get Alzheimers.

Interesting but is it so. Antibiotics are the only things that will put Arthritis into remission long term. Immune suppressants work by stopping white cells from doing there job. Micoplasma keep growing. Fortunately very slow.

Children that take tetracycline for pimples have their Juvenile Arthritis clear up.

But we live in a stubborn world ruled by money and Tetracyclines are cheap compared to all the new drugs that don't work in the long run.

Any thing foreign to the body has the potential to cause stress. Arthritis and anxiety go hand in hand. That one I know for sure.

Anyway it is neither here nor there, just interesting. But imagine if dementia could be stopped.

Davit.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 177

Davit

I hope she doesn't let this prevent her from having children. I guess it's a case of nature vs nurture too. Not everyone with certain genetic factors end up with the illness.

It's amazing those microplasma can survive at all without a cell wall. That's very interesting.

Kaitie.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Kaitie

My friend wants children too. It is hard for her. Very hard. Her life even affects her work.

A neighbours wife is on drugs for dementia but is still losing ground. I don't know how they work.

Micoplasma are small not quite bacteria without a cell wall that can move around and don't need a host. They are present in a lot of diseases and probably cause some such as my Arthritis. They have been found in the brain, lungs and joints. Their one failing is that without a cell wall they can not build an immunity to tetracyclines which kill them. They live on the proteins normal cells need. Every one has them but their immune system keeps them in check. They can not live outside the body like bacteria and virus's.

Davit

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 177

Hi Hugs and Davit,

Everyone has the capability to be both positive and negative, just as no one is all good or all bad. It's yin and yang. So really, you need to surround yourself with people who balance you out, and who you balance out as well. To quote Castle (from my favourite TV show) "Yin needs yang, not another yin. Yin yang is harmony, yin yin is a name for a panda."
I'm no fun on a Saturday night either, the rest of my friends drink (the legal age in Australia is 18) and I don't drink at all so they call me soft. Fun is whatever you want it to be. :)

Your poor friend Davit, it would be so hard having it looming in the back of your mind like that. I think it's hereditary in the sense that you're genetically predisposed to it. Like dementia, it's not certain but it's more likely than someone that doesn't have those genes.
My great uncle who is heading towards the final stages of dementia, we think it was because he was an alcoholic for most of his life. I've never heard of the bacteria theory before, so that's quite interesting. I wonder how the drugs that slow the decline of dementia work then?

Kaitie.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Kaitie

I have a friend terrified of becoming Schizophrenic. She is approaching the point where it is unlikely. 30 years of age.

Her mother has it. It appears Bipolar is stress related and can happen at anytime. If so then you need to avoid stress and take care of you. You are not responsible for anyone but you. I don't know if it is hereditary. K....'s sister doesn't have it. J.....'s sister doesn't have it. N..... doesn't have siblings.

Dementia runs in our family but there is some theory that it is caused by a bacteria killing off brain cells.What appears to be hereditary is a tendency to get this bacteria, or a low resistance to it. I take low dose antibiotics for this same bacteria for a different reason. My brother doesn't. It will be interesting to see if we both still get it.

Davit

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

KT,

Until you mentioned how another's racing speech might affect me, I didn't realize what had happened to me, nor how I was affected in the past by others. More importantly, it's important to surround oneself with positive people, but I'm wondering, who'd wish to be around someone as wounded as me, since I'm not much fun on a Saturday night

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 177

Hi Everyone, thank you for posting.

I was afraid you would suggest bipolar, yet somehow relieved, because Mum and I have been thinking that ourselves. His GP said he's not willing to change his medication, so our main priority at the moment is to find someone who is. This morning I woke up to him crying and he was writing in his journal. Mum went out and I was left with Dad, which was okay but left me exhausted. He let me read what he had written and it didn't make any sense.

When it first started, we thought it might have been dementia, which runs in our family. He talks a lot about things he hasn't gotten over from when he was a child, and how he's got all this pent up anger. I was in hospital last year with someone my age who had schizoaffective disorder, and saw her highs and lows. I can see some similarities with Dad. I'm also worried about the hereditary side of such illnesses, will I suffer something like this in the future?

Hugs, I know the feeling with that. As they're racing when they talk, you feel you have to race to keep up as well. It makes me anxious when this happens too. Exactly, I've been depressed before too and there were times when I have flown into a rage. Does it make Dad any less of a person because he hasn't been able to cope with these things on his own? I do still live at home with my parents, due to my own anxiety problems and at times that's made me feel stuck. I can't ask Dad to leave, I can't leave myself and I can't force Mum to choose between us.
You're not a hypocrite Hugs!

Ashley, we have spoken about these things a few times. His psychologist now understands there is a serious problem, and has contacted his GP who refuses to deal with his medication. Dad sees his psychologist again next week, so I'm hoping she can refer him to a psychiatrist and they can work together with him. I'm not sure how I can protect myself. I try to distance myself, and dissociate from him, but I find by dissociating from his feelings, I'm also blocking my own.
I think what I need to do is focus on improving my own health, as I have a long way to go, and hope that he will get the support I have for himself soon. My new psychologist is fantastic, and she surprised me yesterday by asking what my relationship is like with Dad. It caught me offguard. I hadn't realised it was so obvious.

Davit, people with bipolar and schizophrenia do have a tendency to go off their medication. I tend to think of mental illness as being divided in two, with anxiety and depression in one group, and bipolar and schizophrenia in the other, in regards to treatment and medication.

Thank you all for your support and responses. It's helped me work through this.

Kaitie.

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