Hey Sid... ditto getting logged out and ditto big box store anxiety
I hate getting logged out especially when trying to explain a difficult concept and it takes awhile. If it is important enough I'll go back and start over. Sometimes just having written it out in the first place gives me clarity and peace so I just let it go. Usually if it is important enough to retype... it comes out better, more succinct. If I wrote everything out and only sent when it was perfect.... I'd never get anything posted. Soooo, sometimes I do have to apologize for stuff I've said, or clarify what I've written.... for me it is a good exercise in accepting less than perfect me. I'm with Davit.... if the Health Educators can misspell stuff.... so can we.... they do a good job modeling for us that way.
I've been trying to come up with an answer because, of course, I've had worst days too. I guess I'm kind of with Sid on this one too. There are too many and posting any would be too much of a downer. Maybe if I can find one that is somewhat humorous, I will post that instead.
The other part of Josie's question was how did you overcome the worst day in your life. That I can answer with ... it depends. As a onetime stablehand & horseowner, currently living with two dogs and two cats, and caring daily for my grandchildren... I tend to describe my coping methods in a .... um, somewhat, scatalogical manner. I hope no one is offended, but this is how I handle the really bad things that have happened in my life.
Mostly I've just hunkered down when the sh*** comes too fast to shovel out. Keep myself safe until there is a lull. And then ask for help getting out from under. When I'm on my own again, I just try to keep up with it as best I can until the next torrent.... there always is another one, but there also are times when I'm able to keep up. When I can catch my breath and enjoy the view. I learn a lot from shoveling sh*** ... literally and metaphorically.
Oh Davit... that IS a humorous worst day!!! Not at the time, I'm sure.... but it makes a great story now. Thanks for sharing. I needed a good laugh. (with you, of course, never AT you)
Being invisible is living in shame of who you are... it comes from the chaos and uncertainty of living in a home where no one listens and boundaries either don't exist or are never honored. It is being trampled while no one notices and later no one even believes you were there.
Great question... except you make it sound like being visible is a good thing. Being invisible is lonely, but being visible can be dangerous. Is there a middle ground somewhere? How do you make yourself visible AND safe? How is that empowering?
Hi Juanita... thanks for your reply...( I'm sooooo glad you are back. You were missed... at the same time, we were all thrilled you had the wonderful time with your husband.) Yes, I guess I was out of sorts the other day. Feeling discouraged. You inspired me to get back to doing some ink scratches
However, I've also used the knowledge of this core belief (I need something tangible to feel productive) to make sure each day has something to show for my passage... other than more dirty diapers in the pail. One way I'm trying to turn this around is by catching up on the housework while the baby is sleeping. Sounds obvious. But it wasn't for me. I find all day bbsitting to be very exhausting, so any time she naps, I thought I should save my energies... take a nap, be on the computer playing games or perusing these help sites, or reading. My efforts to rest... actually were draining my energy too. Does that make any sense?
If I get up earlier and throw in a load of laundry and vacuum the floor for my crawler grand bb, I feel energized ... more so than sitting on the couch drinking my coffee for an hour trying to prepare for the day by resting. So, I'm not having to change my core belief... so much as use it in a positive way. Doing those tangible things... then leaves my mind clearer to enjoy the quiet, non-tangible, things you talk about.... or just sit and enjoy watching my granddaughter play... being still, not exhausted!
Aw sunhot... be gentle with yourself. You took a huge postive step in writing that letter... facing all those emotions... give yourself credit. Sometimes when we take a really big emotional step... there is a natural fallout... a feeling of slipping backwards... maybe even self sabotage... but it isn't slipping backwards... it's a call (perhaps scream) from our coreselves admitting.... damn this hurts... I'm exhausted. Remember to B R E A T H E sweetie. You've lost no ground. Honest. I can see it in what you write. Are you doing your mood trackers? Sometimes they really help when you need to see where you have been and where you are going. It's a process.... <sigh>
Hi Guy... thanks for the update. Lots of stress but you seem to be taking it so much more in stride. Wow! I'm impressed and inspired. We really can do this! Imagine that ... wait... that's what you did, isn't it? Imagined the possibility and used the tools to move toward it I wish you great confidence for your exams (luck has nothing to do with it) !
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I wish you great confidence for your exams (luck has nothing to do with it) ! 
