To be honest, finding a way to discuss this with my children has been challenging. I've explained to them that daddy doesn't feel well and needs quiet time. Anyone else have any ideas on how we can try to explain this to our children without them feeling like something is seriously wrong with their family?
Session 4 is all about challenging the negative thoughts. This is something I struggle with everyday. I need to get better at writing things down (my thought records). I often work through the program and keep everything in my head, I will need to start writing everything down as this is supposed to help.
Working through session 4, I learned that I am notorious for doing the "should" statements. Everyday I am talking to people and saying "I should be doing this...." or " I should want that....". I have decided that from now on, when I catch myself in the midst of making a "should" statement, I will change it to and I "will" or I "want" statement. I will see if this helps my mood and feelings this week.
Are you guys also culprits of the "should" statements or is it just me?
That is interesting that you recently found that out about your great grandmother. I should start asking my parents about my their parents and grandparents to see if there is any background there. I guess once a person has passed we try to talk mostly about the positive and often forget their challenges. But this would be interesting to know!
I have been working on challenging those negative thoughts and as I was explaining my group session 4 I am working on changing the "Should" statements. I have been doing pretty well with it actually! I have even posted on my fridge "I should" with a big red bar across it. As a family we are trying to eliminate I should statements in the house. It really has been helping, it just makes you think twice about what you are saying and you also get more accomplished by avoiding them.
Has anyone else tried this at all? I've also been trying to step out of my shoes in certain situations and see things from an outer perspective. This can really help me see things differently, by taking another viewpoint.
Welcome to the site, I hope you find it useful. I do. It is good that you are doing the therapy, hopefully it will help you. I think we've all been "bad" with talking about certain things. I've really opened up the past 6 months to my family about what is going on with me, what I'm going through, what they can do to help. You can try to be more open to, you may find it liberating to tell others about yourself and you will see that many of us here share a lot in common.
Again welcome, feel free to be yourself with us! We are all in it together.
It's great to read about all your progress Goofy! The house, the part-time job, teaching classes...everything! I've been a little MIA on the site lately..really busy with work these days and with my family! I do check in quite frequently to read the posts and love to hear from you!
I can't really relate because I've never actually had to spend time in the hospital overnight. However, I am a firm believer that sometimes we need to proudly wave the white flag and reach out for help. If that help requires you to be in the hospital for a few days then I suggest you go through with it. It can be unpleasant at times, but I think it would be worth it. That's just my opinion. Either way, know that we are here for you and we support your decisions. Keep us posted!
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