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Need help....

It says day 58 but really it's day 57 and a half,...and I am really struggling with the desire/crave/thought - what ever you wish to call it. I am at work (I work nights) and there is no real danger of me leaving and buying a pack, but the thought is there and I can't seem to shake it. I've had 5 months before, and now I'm nearly at 2 months. The last time it took me 4 years to get back on the wagon. I don't have another 4 years of smoking in my body, I'll end up on oxygen, and I don't want that, but this is beyond my ability to withstand...I have smoked for 45 years, I don't know how to live without the dang things...how do I stop this insidious junkie thinking? I've done all the meditation and distraction (hubby and I went out to dinner with non-smoking friends) techniques I've read here and elsewhere. I've never been an adult without those things, I started when I was 12. This is so f*ing hard!
 
DeniseK 
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Thanks, Eyja, you are absolutely right, it's just the junkie thinking and I can get through this. I think I get stuck in the thoughts that I've failed before and failing is almost a habit, too.  I know the right stuff to say to myself, I just didn't do it. So now I'm distracting myself by reading and playing games on Facebook...not busy at work, can you tell? LOL, thank you again for your help,
 
DeniseK 
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Need help....

Well, thank you all for the feedback and support.
Breather, I don't think you were beating me up at all, just giving me a little welcome reality feedback.
Josie, I do have a bunch of stuff to combat the craves, just nothing worked well that night. I did get through it, without caving, however! Lainey, yes, you and Breather and Eyja are absolutely correct, it's all junkie thinking! I seem to have trouble recognizing that at the time!
 
I read somewhere here that quitting smoking won't kill you but continuing smoking will! So I did get through it, and I thank each and every one of you for the feedback. 
 
DeniseK 
12 years ago 0 74 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Nicodemon?s Lies

Posted years ago by Jacko - I just found it on my computer, thought others might be helped. It's VERY long, but worth the time it takes to read it. DeniseK
 
 Written by Jacko
The Lie vs. The Truth
 
1. My cigarettes are my friend
Friend or master? What kind of "friend" would deprive you of oxygen, take away your
ability to smell, burn your clothes, destroy your teeth, harden your arteries, elevate your
blood pressure, daily feed you 4,000+ chemical compounds that include arsenic,
ammonia, acetone, formaldehyde, butane, massive doses of carbon monoxide, hydrogen
cyanide, methane, stearic acid, vinyl chloride, mercury, and lead, together with 43 known
cancer causing agents (one of which is created when nicotine breaks down -NNK), before
finally killing you with cancer, a stroke, a heart attack or emphysema? Imagine seeing
your executioner as a friend. Such protective denial thinking shows the amazing grip that
nicotine imposes upon the mind.
 
2. I enjoy smoking.
This may be the most deeply engrained rationalization of all as it has a solid basis in the
following flawed denial logic. "I don't do things that I don't like to do." "I smoke lots and
lots of cigarettes." "Therefore, I must really enjoy smoking," instead of the correct
conclusion, "therefore; I must really be chemically addicted to smoking nicotine." Did
you enjoy being the unaddicted "you" or have you forgotten what it was like to live
comfortably inside a mind that does not crave for nicotine? If you cannot remember what
it was like being "you" then what basis do you have for honest comparison? If you truly
enjoyed being addicted to nicotine then why are you here reading these words? Is it that
you liked smoking or that you liked not having to experience what occurred when you
didn't smoke - withdrawal? Studies have long ranked nicotine as a more addictive
substance than either heroin or cocaine. In fact, cocaine's generally recognized addiction
rate among regular users is 15% while nicotine's addiction rate of over 70% is at least
five times as great. Imagine convincing your mind that it “likes" being addicted to the
drug that addiction scientists now rank as the most addictive substance on all of planet
earth. We are nicotine addicts. A pack a day smoker smokes 7,300 cigarettes each and
every year. How many of your last 7,300 nicotine fixes did you really enjoy? How many
of the next 7,300 will bring tremendous joy to your life? Isn't it time to be honest?
 
3. My spouse, close friend or family member smokes. I'm waiting for them to quit with
me.
Procrastination recovery denial makes the next puff of toxins easier to suck
down. Nicotine tells this junkie that they cannot quit until their friend or loved one quits
too as they're around their smoke, smells, cigarettes, breath and ashtrays, and quitting is
thus impossible. It's pure denial and often both friends or loved ones use the other as
their excuse to remain enslaved. How long will you continue to destroy your body while
waiting for someone else to quit with you? A lifetime? If and when they do quit with
you, what will you do if they relapse? Will "love" cause you to do the same? One of you
needs to stand tall, continue on and lead the way. It's okay to have hope for a loved one
but you must quit for "you" or it's doomed from the very start. Why make your freedom,
health or life dependent upon another person's decision. As for being around smokers,
don't we all do it? Isn't it just a matter of degree? Will planet earth's 1.2 billion nicotine
smokers disappear once commence recovery? Won't you still see them and smell their
smoke at restaurants, as they stand around outside stores or even hospitals, or as they puff
away in the car beside you? Will all the stores pull-down their cigarette displays or move
them from arms reach just because you are trying to reclaim your mind and life? Don't
live the lie that "I smoke for love!"
 
4. It reduces my stress and helps calm me down.
This health intellectualization is false. The body's pH balance is delicate. Nicotine is an
alkaloid and stress is an acid producing event. The more stressful the event the quicker
the body's remaining nicotine reserves are neutralized (in the same manner as pouring a
baking soda solution on an acid covered car battery terminal). The stressed smoker is
thrown into early chemical withdrawal adding additional anxiety to the underlying
original stressful event. It's why the anxiety associated with a flat tire causes smokers to
reach for a cigarette while the non-smoker reaches for a jack. The anxieties build until
the doubly stressed smoker cries out "I NEED A CIGARETTE!" Within eight seconds of
the first puff, the smoker's nicotine blood serum nicotine level rises and their withdrawal
anxieties subside. The addict is left with the false impression that smoking cured the
underlying stressful event when in fact the tire is still flat. All non-smokers experience
stress too. The difference is that they don't add early nicotine withdrawal to each
stressful event. In truth, stress nicotine depletion causes smokers to experience far more
anxiety than non-smokers. In truth, it is much easier and calmer being the real "you" than
it is living as a chemical slave.
 
5. My friends smoke, I'll lose them.
The nicotine smoker's mind has been conditioned to believe, through association, that
smoking is central to their entire life. Telephone calls, computer time, work, meals,
driving, talking, walking, stress, joy, sorrow, and even romance, may have developed a
subconscious association with smoking. The truth is that none of these activities will be
altered whatsoever by the absence of tobacco. The truth is that quitting smoking will not
deprive you of even a single friend or loved one. The truth is that smoking is costing you
new friends and possible relationships as fewer and fewer non-smokers are willing to
tolerate being around the smell and the smoke. Can you blame them? With the
exception of quitting, your current life doesn't need to change at all unless you want it to
change. It might be nice to enlarge your circle of friends to include those who don't stand
around the community ashtray, but that's totally up to you.
 
6. It wakes me up and keeps me alert
This dependency rationalization uses a basic truth (nicotine releases adrenaline and a host
of other hormones) to hide the fact that nicotine deprives us of the ability to enjoy
prolonged periods of deep conscious relaxation. If always at the peak of alertness
because we are addicted to and chemically dependent upon a central nervous system
stimulant then when do we truly relax? This dependency rationalization also subverts
and ignores a host of natural alertness techniques ranging from a simple deep breath to
brief periods of stretching or moderately exhilarating activity. Instead of engaging life on
life's terms, a powerful puff of nicotine starts a neurochemical chain-reaction that
increases breathing rate, accelerates heat rate, constricts blood vessels, elevates blood
pressure, causes the liver to release stored cholesterol into the blood stream, the adrenal
gland to release glucocorticoids, the thyroid to release metabolism hormones, the
hypothalamus to release corticotropin-releasing hormones, a decrease of progesterone
levels in females and testosterone in males, digestive tract shut-down, a glucose release
into the bloodstream followed by a boost in insulin to metabolize it, pupil dilation, and
your blood to thicken. Inside those highly constricted and over-pressurized blood
vessels, carbon monoxide eats away at their teflon like lining (endothelium) while
nicotine amazingly vascularizes fat buildups causing arteries to harden. More smokers
die from circulatory disease each year than from lung cancer yet denial kept almost all of
them from wanting to know why or how they would die. What goes up must come
down. Once the hormones wear off and that drained feeling begins to arrive a new puff
of nicotine again whips every central nervous system neuron in a tired body like some
overworked horse never allowed to rest. Alert, yes, but somewhere in that endless cycle
between alert and exhausted resides the "real" you.
 
7. My concentration is better.
Vast quantities of carbon monoxide do NOT improve concentration. Although nicotine
is a stimulant and does excite certain brain neurons, it also constricts all blood
vessels. Feel how cold your fingers and toes get when deprived of blood flow while
smoking. Imagine what's happening to the blood vessels in your brain. If nicotine results
in a stroke we probably won't need to worry much about concentration. Fresh air and
exercise are far healthier brain stimulants. When quitting it's important that you
understand the role that nicotine played in regulating blood sugar as its absence may
cause the temporary impairment of concentration and clear thinking. If you are
experiencing any concentration problems be sure and drink plenty of fruit juice
(cranberry is excellent) while your brain adjusts to your body's needs. Also don't skip
meals! Nicotine released stored fats into your blood and in a sense fed you with every
puff but not anymore. Don't eat more food each day; just spread your normal intake out
more over your entire day so that you keep fuel in your stomach and your blood sugar
level.
 
8. It's something to do with my hands.
So is playing with a loaded gun and they both have the same potential for harm. This
weak addiction rationalization ignores that doodling with a pen, playing with coins,
squeezing a ball or using strength grippers may be habit forming but are nonaddictive.
You might get ink on yourself, rich or strong wrists but your chances of
serious injury or death are almost zero.
 
9. My coffee wouldn't be the same.
More junkie thinking! Your coffee's flavor will remain identical. In fact, it may even
taste better once your taste buds heal after years of being numbed, coated and
poisoned. Your sense of smell may become so refined that you'll smell fresh coffee
brewing more than one hundred feet away. Although you don't need to give up your
coffee or any thing else except nicotine during recovery, be aware that nicotine somehow
doubles the rate (203%) at which caffeine is metabolized by the body and as a new exsmoker
you may only need half as much in order to obtain the same effect. If you are a
heavy caffeine user and find yourself experiencing increased anxiety during recovery, or
encounter difficulty sleeping, try reducing your intake by roughly half.
 
10. There's lots of time left to quit
This year tobacco will kill 4,000,000 humans, 1.5 million in middle-age who will each
die an average of 22.5 years early . In order for 22.5 to be the average, how many
hundreds of thousands had to die even younger? Maybe you've got time left and maybe
not. But, dying in your thirties or forties is a powerful price to pay for guessing
wrong. The numbers above only reflect DEATH by tobacco. You may be lucky enough
to be among the millions of nicotine smokers each year who SURVIVE and "only" have
a heart attack, a stroke, a lung removed, go onto oxygen, or who receive news of
permanent lung disease as you struggle for every breath. Which puff, from which
cigarette, in which pack, will pull the trigger that fires the gun? The odds of a male
smoker dying from lung cancer are 22 times greater than for a non-smoker. His odds of
dying from emphysema are ten times greater. How lucky do you feel?
 
11. It's one of my few pleasures in life
Does that mean that it's better than the pleasure of having a throat to deliver fresh air and
great food, two lungs with which to laugh, a healthy heart to feel love, or an undamaged
mind which dreams of a wonderful tomorrow? Pleasure from your addiction or pleasure
in committing slow suicide at the hands of a mind that thinks it can only live with the aid
of a powerful stimulant? What do they call someone who derives pleasure from selfinflicted
harm or who slowly puts themselves to death? Pick your own label! Which
nicotine fix out of the last 5,000 was the one that brought you tremendous
pleasure? Which cigarette out of the next 5,000 may be the one that sparks permanent
damage or disease, or that carries death's eternal flame? If bad news arrives tomorrow
will "pleasure" cross your mind? Your only pleasure is in postponing the challenge of
the initial 72 hours that it takes to remove all nicotine from your blood.
 
12. Dad just died, this isn't the time!
Smoking won't bring dad back nor cure any other ill in life. Success in quitting during a
period of high stress in life insures that future high stress situations won't serve as your
excuse or justification for relapse. If you think about it, if we continue to live we will all
see someone we love die. Such is the cycle of life. It's extremely sad but serious illness,
injury, or the death of a loved one are the most convincing justifications that quitters sell
themselves on, in order to justify keeping their drug. There is no better time to quit than
before your next mandatory feeding. Don't allow finances, work, illness, education or
relationships to serve as your excuse to remain an active addict. There is no legitimate
justification for ever putting nicotine back into our body - none, zero, never!
 
13. Lots of smokers live until ripe old age
They are much rarer than you think. Look around. If you do find old nicotine smokers
almost all are in poor health or in advanced stages of smoking related diseases, many
with oxygen. Laboring for every breath with lungs on their last leg, is that ripe enough
for us? Nicotine smokers tend to think only in terms of dying from lung cancer. Tobacco
kills in many ways. For example, circulatory disease caused by smoking kills more
smokers each year than lung cancer. How long would George Burns have lived to be if
he hadn't smoked cigars, 115, 125? Click here to look at the “truth ". What's wrong with
dying healthy from natural causes!
 
14. I get bored. It helps pass the time
Tobacco does not control any clock on earth but it does control you. For the pack a day
nicotine smoker it takes about 30 minutes before their blood's nicotine level to drop to the
point where their mind sends them an "urge" of discomfort to remind you that it's time for
a feeding. It doesn't matter where they are or what they're doing. Depending upon your
daily nicotine requirements, the voice inside your head will let you know when it's
time. All you're doing when bored is being alert enough to what lies ahead, so that you
keep topping off your nicotine tank before the next message of discomfort arrives.
 
15. It's my choice and I choose to smoke!
It's a lie and you know it! You lost your "choice" and the ability to simply walk away the
day that nicotine feedings became mandatory. The only choice you have now is how
EARLY you feed the beast within. The ignorant nicotine addict still believes the
"choice" myth pounded into their brain by an endless stream of highly effective tobacco
company marketing. All the pretty colored boxes, the displays, the sea of ads, how often
have you seen any smoker switch brands? It's a well set trap from teens and a way to
keep you from looking at the man behind the curtain - nicotine. You uneducated smoker
associated smoking with the newspaper, coffee, travel, stress, other smokers, telephone
calls, meals, celebrations, romance, or even as a necessary step prior to walking into a
store. The educated nicotine addict sees all nicotine fixes as either mandatory, or an early
feeding, in order to avoid the onset and discomfort of chemical withdrawal. You smoke
nicotine after a meal because it's time for a nicotine feeding and you smoke before a meal
because it isn't polite to feed yourself nicotine and food at the same time. If your regular
feedings are spaced thirty minutes apart, at least every thirty minutes you're going to start
sensing the need for more nicotine regardless of the activity.
 
16. I'm only hurting me
Have you stopped for even one moment to reflect upon the financial, physical or
emotional pain that your needless dying and death would bring your loved ones? Do you
care that the deadly byproducts of your addiction have the potential to harm or kill family
members, whose only crime was loving you? How much does it cost to attempt to cure a
cancer patient? $100,000? $200,000? $300,000? How much is your annual deductible,
your lifetime benefits cap and who will pay any balance that remains? What's the cost of
a funeral today and which loved one have you designated to pay the emotional price of
making arrangements for your early departure? As for making your family breathe
second-hand smoke, the World Health Organization says that your smoke contributes to
causing lower respiratory tract infections such as pneumonia and bronchitis, colds,
coughing, wheezing, worsening of asthma, middle ear disease, cardiovascular disease,
and even neurobehavioral impairment (especially in young children). It also found that
maternal smoking or exposure to second-hand smoke during pregnancy is a major cause
of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), reduced birth weight and decreased lung
function.
 
17. A cure for cancer is coming soon
Between Europe and North America tobacco will kill over one million this year. How
many of them thought that a cure was on the way? Sadly, it was false hope. As hopeless
drug addicts they waited, and waited and waited. What type of lung cancer are you
waiting for them to cure - squamous cell, oat cell, adenocarcinoma, or one of the less
common forms of lung cancer? Even if a cure is coming for all forms and types of cancer
caused by tobacco (and there are many), what will be left of your lungs by the time it
arrives? If you're gambling on "how" tobacco will kill you, don't forget to consider heart
attacks, strokes, and emphysema. Which cure are you betting on?
 
18. I smoke lights and they're not as bad
Lights and ultra-lights are capable of delivering the same amount of tar and nicotine as
regular brands, depending on how they're smoked. They do not reduce most health risks
including the risk of heart disease or the risk of cancer. In fact, their smokers often take
longer drags which mean far more tar and more nicotine than advertised. Others simply
smoke a higher number of lights because they feel short changed.
 
19. It's my right to blow smoke!
And it's the right of non-smokers and ex-smokers to be free from your smoke too. Social
controls to protect the rights of non-smokers are just beginning. Can a dog's life-span be
cut in half by a smoking master? Would you intentionally double the risk of heart attack
or triple the risk of lung cancer for a spouse or family member? Why kill the innocent
too? Are non-smokers who get extremely upset at having to breathe some of your smoke
simply being obnoxious or are they fighting to protect themselves and those they love
from the known harms generated from burning a plant that contains 44 known cancer
causing agents (including nicotine) and releases 4,000+ chemical compounds when
burned? Do you know a child whose mother smoked while pregnant who does not suffer
from some form of impairment today? Think about it!
 
20. Quitting causes weight gain and it's just as dangerous.
This intellectual denial pre-assumes a large weight gain and then makes an erroneous
judgment regarding relative risks. Quitting does not increase our weight, eating
does. Some assert that metabolic changes associated primarily with the heart not having
to work as hard could account for a pound or two but as far as being "dangerous," you'd
have to gain an additional one hundred pounds in order to equal the health risks
associated with smoking one pack a day. Keep in mind that your general health, physical
abilities and lung capacity will all improve dramatically. If patient, you will develop the
physical endurance (a 30% increase in overall lung function within 90 days) and mental
recovery tools (the same tools needed to take control of your addiction to nicotine)
necessary to shed any extra pounds just one pound at a time. Remember, smoking was
your cue that a meal had ended. Unless you develop a new healthy cue there may be
fewer leftovers. Also keep in mind how easy it would be for a drug addict to use
intentional weight gain to a ploy to sabotage recovery.
 
21. It's too late now to heal these lungs
Nonsense! If you have not yet caused permanent lung damage you should expect to
experience an almost one-third increase in overall lung function within just 90 days of
quitting! It's amazing how much damaged lungs can repair themselves unless disease or
cancer have already arrived. Even with emphysema, although destroyed air sacks will
never again function, quitting now will immediately halt the needless destruction of
additional tissues! You only have two options - decay or heal. Which cigarette in which
pack will carry the spark that gives birth to that first cancerous cell?
 
22. I'd quit but withdrawal never ends!
False! If you remain 100% nicotine free for just 72 hours, your blood will become
nicotine free, your withdrawal anxieties will peak in intensity and the number of
psychological craves will peak in number. The greatest challenge will be over. Within
10 days to two weeks, actual physical withdrawal is substantially complete as your mind
has physically adjusted to the absence of nicotine and accustomed to natural brain
dopamine levels. What then remains will be to encounter and recondition your remaining
psychological habit crave triggers and to learn to live with the millions of smoking
memories stored deep within your mind. You will experience your first day of total quit
comfort, where you never once even "think" about a cigarette or smoking, by at least day
ninety. The sad part is that you won't even realize that it has happened. After the first
such day, they grow more and more frequent until they become your new norm. The
deep sense of lasting comfort and calmness that awaits you is probably beyond your
comprehension. The real "you" is in total control!
 
23.
But the craves last for hours!
Just like the lingering thought of a nice juicy steak, lobster in butter sauce, or fresh baked
hot apple pie, you can make yourself "think" about having a cigarette all day long, if
that's what you really want to do. Unlike thoughts, crave anxiety attacks last for less than
3 minutes. It's important that you look at a clock and time them as your mind can make
those minutes seem like hours. The bulk of the anxiety surrounding each crave is self
induced. Such "thoughts" can be controlled with honest answers and through the power
of positive thinking. Strip away all the self-inflicted anxiety and what remains on Day 3
for the "average" quitter is just 18 minutes of true crave anxiety (an average of six craves
each less than three minutes in duration).
 
24.
I'll quit after the next pack, next carton, next month, my next birthday or on New Years'
Oh really? Can you count on both hands and all your toes how many times you've lied to
yourself with such nonsense? And which pack, carton, month or birthday will give you
the best chance for success? Forget buying nicotine laden cigarettes by the pack or
carton. A case is even cheaper! With the way that cigarette prices are shooting through
the roof, you might as well calculate how many it will take to keep you in nicotine for life
and buy them all now. The only problem with that is in determining how long you have
left to live. How many more pack, carton, birthday and New Year's lies will you tell to
yourself? When will they stop? If you continue on your present path, many Birthdays
are very likely be cancelled by your early Deathday. Will your family celebrate without
you?
 
25.
I like to smoke when I drink and I find myself smoking even more.
The effects of drinking and stress upon our body's nicotine level are the same. You
smoke more when you drink not because you "like" to but because you MUST in order to
keep your body's nicotine level within the comfort range, so that it does not experience
the symptoms of early withdrawal. When you drink alcohol it causes your urine to
become acidic. The acid causes nicotine to be drawn from your blood at an accelerated
rate. Thus, the more you drink the more nicotine you'll need to ingest to avoid the
anxiety of early withdrawal. Although early alcohol use contributes to destroying a great
many quit attempts, understanding the nicotine-acid relationship can be of benefit in
accelerating physical nicotine withdrawal so that quitters can begin feeling relief
sooner. Acidic fruit juices, such as cranberry, may help reduce the normal 72 hours of
withdrawal required to remove all nicotine from the blood. If at all possible, don't drink
during the first few days of your quit. When you do decide to drink, drink at home
without cigarettes around before testing your resolve around smokers. By doing so you'll
help to break the your mind's psychological link between smoking and drinking, with as
little risk as possible. As millions of ex-smokers can attest, your beer or drinks will taste
better than ever once your taste buds are allowed an opportunity to heal.
 
26.
It's too painful to quit!
Compared to what? Three days of physical withdrawal (just 72 hours) in no way
compares to the pain of months of chemotherapy, lung removal surgery and a two foot
scar, a losing battle with throat cancer, years of trying to recover from a serious stroke or
massive heart attack, or fighting for every breath through emphysema riddled lungs as
you drag oxygen around for the remainder of your life. If you're really worried about
hurt then why continue your daily destruction?
 
27. If I quit, I'll just start back again. I always do.
The truth is that you don't have to relapse. We relapse because we rewrite the law of
addiction, we forget why we quit, or we invent lies and stupid excuses, such as those that
fill this page. Your next quit can be your last but you need to learn how to care for your
quit , while always applying the only rule that you'll ever need to obey - NEVER TAKE
ANOTHER PUFF OF NICOTINE!
 
28. I'll cut down or quit and smoke just one now and then
You are addicted to a substance that is five times as addictive as cocaine (15% vs.
75%). You may be strong enough to cut back a bit but you'll remain addicted, the decay
will continue and a recent study indicates that your health risks will remain unchanged. If
you were a pack-a-day nicotine smoker and after quitting you decide to smoke just one
cigarette, you might as well get ready to smoke the other 7,300 for the year too as full and
complete relapse is virtually assured. The Law of Nicotine Addiction is simple - one puff
of new nicotine and it's over! Yes, 95 to 97% of those who smoke nicotine from just one
cigarette will immediately or soon thereafter experience full and complete relapse back to
their prior level of nicotine intake or higher. Your addiction permanently transformed
your brain into a highly efficient nicotine processing machine capable of generating a
steady output of dopamine. Quitting is a process where the brain learns to function
without the extra dopamine but it does not alter your processing potentials. After
quitting, the jail remains but is empty and you're on probation for life!
 
29.
I tried quitting but my family stopped supporting me or was giving me such a hard time
that it caused me to throw in the towel.
It's a lie. You gave up because you used your family as a cheap excuse to get your drug
back. You exaggerated everything they did or didn't do. You were looking for any
excuse. You're the drug addict yet you expected them to understand the weakness and
thinking of a drug addict's mind. Maybe they didn't pat you on the back as often as you
wanted, but if they've never been through chemical withdrawal themselves is it really fair
to expect them to appreciate the magnitude or duration of your challenge? They just
want you to be normal. They don't know how to react. Do they pat you on the back and
keep reminding you, or hope and pray that the worst has passed? Feeling unappreciated,
picking fights and creating confrontation are tools of the addict's mind that are often used
as weapons in order to reclaim their drug. Some know that if they inflict tremendous
stress on loved ones that they may even convince their loved one to beg them to start
smoking nicotine again, or to buy their relapse cigarettes for them. That way they can
blame their relapse on their loved one. "They just couldn't handle my quitting." "Maybe
next time!" The lengths to which the nico-addict will go in order to feed the beast are
almost beyond belief. Yes, some will even hurt those that love them most.
 
30.
Ok, I'm going to quit! Now I can enjoy my smokes until then!
If you've done this more than once, isn't it just more junkie head games? This addict
wants to feel good about smoking nicotine and they've learned that by saying that they're
going to quit, that they make themselves feel better even though deep down they know
that it's just another lie! Unless something awakens this addict, there may never be a
serious quit in their future.
 
31.
I've got to die of something!
True, but if you knew that tomorrow morning at 9:22 a.m. a massive smoking induced
stroke would bring your life to an abrupt end, and you'd die on a cold floor with a
cigarette beside you - just as tens of thousands of smokers are found each year - would
you light that last cigarette at 9:21 a.m. and pull the trigger that kills you? Would this be
one of your primary recovery denial rationalizations? Look around at all the smokers you
see today. The death certificates of half will read, "cause of death - smoking.” Yes, they
had to die of something but not an average of more than 5,000 days early. Have you met
Noni and Bryan? Would any non-addicted human spend each and every day of the
remainder of their life intentionally destroying a little bit more of their ever shrinking
lung capacity? Why continue doing so until physical exercise is no longer an option, or
until your chemical dependency begins burdening and wasting the lives of others who'll
be forced to care for you, as they watch you struggle just to suck oxygen from tanks and
machines 24 hours a day? Which family member have you spoken with about taking
care of you once you've almost finished destroying that body? Can you imagine what it's
like trying to breathe through a straw? It's called emphysema. Since you've got to die of
something why not try it out now. See what it would be like to have advanced
emphysema by spending just five minutes learning to straw breathe. What has nicotine
done for you lately?
 
32.
I can't quit alone. I'll need nicotine gum, the patch, hypnosis, acupuncture, magic herbs or
other wonder drugs!
Wrong! The simple truth is that no magic cure has ever “made “any smoker quit
smoking nicotine. The key to immediate and lasting abstinence is education and
understanding not hypnosis , not acupuncture and not some over-the-counter nicotine
product that teaches absolutely nothing while robbing 93% of those who toy with cleannicotine
of a valuable opportunity to master the core principles underlying years of
nicotine dependency. Remember, should all else fail, you always have you!
 
33.
It's all Nicodemon's fault, not mine!
There is no Nicodemon. There never was. The title to this article, Nicodemon's Lies, is
one of the biggest lies of all. They were never Nicodemon's lies but your lies. There is
no nico-monster and there never has been. Nicotine is simply a chemical, a drug, an
alkaloid known as C10H14N2, and its I.Q. is and always has been zero. It does not think,
plan, inflict punishment, nor will it conspire to make you relapse or die addicted to
it. The fact that it has zero intelligence is your greatest weapon. Everything you see,
feel, and sense during nicotine withdrawal and recovery will be grounded in chemical
dependency, conditioning, reason, logic or science. Any conspirators in any past
attempts to make you relapse and destroy your recovery were always and only
"you!" Should you reclaim control of your brain reward pathways, your health and your
life, the victory will belong only to you!
 
EPILOGUE
Taking back control, restoring self-respect and self-confidence, being truly honest and
feeling totally free, so fresh and new, clean and proud, smelling oh so sweet, while
healing and growing healthier day by day, the real you is just dying to come home. Is it
time to end the suicide march or were you born to die an addict's death? It's your
birthright to be free. Isn't it time you claimed it? Isn't it time to meet the "real" you again?
The key to your cell and to trading places, by placing your dependency under arrest, is in
understanding the core principles of dependency, withdrawal and recovery, while
following just one simple rule - never use nicotine in any form again - NEVER TAKE
ANOTHER PUFF!
 
 
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Tooting my own horn

would not be possible without the help of folks here (and my husband, who knows very well when to leave me the **** alone and when to take me out to eat), so here I am with TWO MONTHS without a single puff! Thank you!
 
DeniseK 
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It?s Monday!!! Who?s marching and sharing stats?

Oh dear, I keep missing Monday mornings...well, better late than never, I suppose...
 
DeniseK 
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Triggers go away but smokers just keep smoking

Thanks for that, Stickin', I blew a quit of 5 months and it took me 4 years to get back to quitting, so I know you're right. I don't even want to think what that 4 years did to my lungs/body/health. So keep on quitting, because we are all winners when we do!
 
DeniseK 
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losing my resolve

Eyja, sometimes we just are where we are, whether we smoke or not. The tears and the blahs will come anyway. So we might as well not smoke so we don't add the addiction back into our lives and complicate stuff more that it already was. And who says you're a crybaby if you cry? Why would you buy into that? It's cathartic and refreshing and we owe it to ourselves to be and feel what and how we are - at the time we feel it.  I agree with willis, you're beautiful (and you smell good, too). 
 
DeniseK 
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Marching on a Monday!

WoW, I actually made it here on a Monday! Marching with my 65 days & trying to learn from you long timers.
 
DeniseK 
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I was wondering if i could get some prayer from my SSC family??

My prayers are with you and your family. And don't forget to take care of yourself during this stressful time. 
 
DeniseK