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a month ago +8 GusA 114 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 6

Hey Lynn,

I am filling up my evenings with things I can do now that I’m not drinking. I am much like you were when I drank - I drank alone when I wanted to drink to excess. That’s a very lonely existence! I am keeping busy and I’m asking myself “Why would I want to drink?” I can’t come up a reason why. My mindset is what I have to focus on in order to be successful.

Thanks for the support Lynn! I’m sticking with this cause I know it worked for me before and I know it will again.

Have a great day!

a month ago +12 Lynn123 322 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 8

Gus,

I did the same thing with my thoughts about drinking. When I gave up alcohol, I would spend the entire day depressed because I couldn't drink that night. The night without alcohol was bad enough, thinking about not drinking only added to it. So I did something similar to you. Instead of telling myself that I couldn't drink that night, I would think about things that I could do. I made it a point to have something to do at night that I couldn't do when drinking. Before I knew it, I was doing something different every night.

It didn't take long to realize that the only thing I was doing when I was drinking, was drinking. I was sometimes with friends when I was drinking, but to drink the way I wanted to drink, I was drinking alone. I came to the same realization as you, nothing good came out of drinking. Funny thing though, I would like to be able to drink! How crazy is that?!

I wish you luck. I'll be here to support you in any way I can! I hope you are having a good day. :)

Lynn

a month ago (Edited a month ago) +15 GusA 114 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 10

Hey Lynn,

Its great to hear from you!

What I learned from reading my owns posts so far is this. When I quit before, I changed how I thought about drinking. As an example, instead of saying "I should not drink" or "I dont want to drink" I was asking myself the question "Why should I drink? What possible benefits will this provide for me?" The answer of course is nothing. Drinking provides nothing for me. It does nothing only creates problems.

Anyway, this site worked for me before. I plan on sharing alot here in the coming. Thanks alot for touching base with me!


My goal for now is 180 days alcohol free. I recall Ashley telling us many years ago that people need a MINIMUM 90 days to reset their brain around alcohol. I need above the minimum. I intend to post here daily just to keep myself on track.

Hope everyone has a great day!

a month ago +11 Lynn123 322 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 8

Gus,

It's good to hear from you, although I'm sorry to hear you are having difficulties. I think it's great that you are going back and reading your old posts. I think a lot of the time when we receive advice from someone, in the back of our minds we are thinking that it really doesn't apply to them. I know that when I was drinking I would read posts or advice, and sometimes think that wouldn't work for me. I was thinking I was different somehow. I now know that was just another way of making excuses. It's not often we can take our own advice, so good for you!

If you don't mind sharing, what have you read in your old posts that you find helpful? Have you been able to determine any one thing that takes you back to alcohol? I hope you have had a great start to your week. Welcome back!

a month ago (Edited a month ago) +13 GusA 114 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 9

Hi everyone,

I have been a frequent user of this site in the past. I posted here regularly when I quite drinking for 3 years, from 2015 to 2017.

I have had a bumpy couple years with alcohol since them. I have managed to stay away from it for weeks and months at a time, but thats not long enough. I want to give myself a break of at least 6 months, then decide if I want to stay away permanently or it.

I have been going back reading my posts from when I quit before. They are really helpful. Its like my sober self is giving advice to my non sober self.

Also, I had great support here from Ashley, Lynn and other people. I am hoping to hear from more of you.

Anyway, I would appreciate any feedback from anyone. Thanks


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