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Acceptance


Red1
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6 years ago 0 Red1 2503 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Maybe it is?  That makes sense..A core belief that may be built in later life..because when we were younger we were taught that we could do anything, we were invincible, to never just accept our faith in life, that with hard work and perseverance we could move mountains..
 
Of course the reality is that for a young healthy person in their 20's 30's 40's or even 50's this is probably true..
Of course when we are young and healthy we never think about never being able to do everything we want to do..
 
As I have grown a little older I am realizing that I am going to have to accept at least some things are changing
and I am not able to do everything that I used to do.Notice I said can not instead of I may not be able too..Also my future is nothing like my parents future was..Then multi generations of family lived together or if not together than right down the street from each other..This is not the case for me or lots of people in my generation..We are on our own and growing old alone and without our families for support..This is a cold hard truth for many..  
 
I have been on my own for decades now..and growing older has had some lonely moments for me and the fear of not being able to manage everything some day soon is very scary and sad, as is the future..This has been and is a very hard pill to swallow and I have also found myself a bit down and depressed about it..and on the verge of tears at times.
 
Just yesterday I was in tears over the fact that removing a tree from the yard would be impossible without help and if I decided to put another tree in its place it would still be hard for me to push the mower around the tree to mow in the tight space that I am working in so today I had to finally make a decision based on what I can do now and how to make the work easier around my place..So we removed the old tree and will not be putting in a new one and the yard will be a lot easier to mow now. Vacumning well that is another story.. The new tree would have been real pretty and we will have to deal with returning it  but it is the best thing and the best choice for me now..
 
As for the sleeping I sure could use more too..I get around 4 to 6 hrs a night mostly 5 and I am very tired most days now and have this gnawing anxiety of the unknown and what my future will hold....I think the stress and worry related to growing older and the fact that it getting harder for me to manage physically are playing on my mind now.. The not nowing if I will having the help that I need,may have something to do with why I can't sleep well. I have thought about moving into a mobile home park or a condo but I really can't afford that.
 
So for now I will keep doing what I can for as long as I can..I just wish I knew what I was going to do in the future..and had some kind of plan..I guess it is fear of the unknown.
 
Red...
 
Davit
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6 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Odd my spell check never caught the typo, not like me. Not a word in my dictionary either. Oh well the thread will be gone in a few days anyway.

Davit. 
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6 years ago 0 hugs4U 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
When I looked at your thread, my critical mind noticed a typo.
 
The similarity of "acceptance" to repentance reminded of another possible reason that we struggle, or at least I do - forgiveness.  There are many internal voices telling me I should have, would could have done other things, mixed with regrets and perfectionism.
 
It's easier for me to forgive others(when I I'm in a compassionate mood) than to be softer on myself.
 
I wish I could accept myself, since I'm all I have, and as the famous tennis player stated, "I'm doing(or did) the best that I can(could), when I know(if I knew) more I'll do(or would have done) better"....
 
Maybe it's just company's marketing which is aimed at making profit by convincing us that we "need" them, and therefore have some "fault" which they can fix with their product?  It could be that easy, and there are certainly a lot of resources pushed into those who need to survive, since everyone wants to make a buck.
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6 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
As I look back over the last couple of decades what keeps me awake at night and what makes me sad is the loss of ability or more appropriately the acceptance of it. Why should it bother me since it is a fact of life. We all wear out. I just don't want to. And with the loss of ability came the loss of fortune. Not only in money since I'm good at making and repairing I didn't need much. But a person needs some. Accepting the fact that I will eventually end up in some one else's care is a hard pill to accept. There is that word again. If I could just accept that the way things are is the way they are I'd be okay.
But my mind goes ticky ticky. Am I doing all I can. Should I have put in an extra hour, I think, as my nose is dragging on the ground. Or if only I had of done that yesterday. These are all stupid, I know I am doing the best I can in the situation and some of what I do hinges on others and worse yet it hinges on how badly I'm stressed. If the stress is coming from something I have no control over can I accept it. Obviously not or I would sleep longer. I didn't say better, just longer. I have no trouble going to sleep and staying there for five or six hours, it just isn't enough.
So acceptance is my problem. It is probably even a core belief built in later life. And that being the case I better do something about it.

I know a lady with MS whose saying is persevere. I can do that, what I can't do is accept. Accept is what I need to do. Because it is affecting more than just me.

Davit.

So I've spoke it now to work on it.

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