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21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 50

Hi Iwona, I don't have any advice but I have the same problem. I wish I knew how to cope in those kind of situations. I was going to say, maybe people like that want to hurt you and if you ignored them and acted as if none of it was hurting you, eventually they'd give up from boredom. But that seems dishonest, because you're not letting them know that what they're doing effects you. But I know the kind of person you're talking about, and if you say 'It hurts my feelings when you ...' like the counselling books tell you to, they think you're pathetic and weak or else feel insulted. It's a tricky situation! Does anyone have any advice?

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 25

trust me I know all about people not understanding. my recent ex (of 2 years), left me about 7 months ago due to relationship problems. Alot of them were due to my panic and worry. After she left we almost got back together many many many times. Long story short. we have since settled all relationship problems. but she admited that due to my problem she cant be with me, and thats that main reason we did not get back together. Even though she made many promises she would try to ride with me while I try to face my fears. And I know she feels for me, but I dont think she understands completly...because she is just giving up now, even thought im much better than I was. And it makes me so mad because she was the girl I wanted to marry (and thought I almost was!)...the one I wanted to raise a family with (lately ive had strong urges to raise a family), and the one I wanted to watch the sunset on some beach somewhere....but now I blew all chances of that because of this problems....arg ok ill shut up on that, its too stressful and on the other hand, my own mother called the cops and tryed to get my pink sliped to be commited last week...once the 2 cops and a pyschologist said I dont need to be commited, she went to the courts and now someone from there told me If i dont make an appointemnt (15min from my house...I can only go 2min away!!!) that they will be back to handcuff me and forcefuly take me. and the dead line is in a few weeks....now my ex is going out of town in 13 days for 11 days (im scared about that) and I also have to go 15 min away form my house in a few weeks... now because of people not understanding im scared out of my mind, and im being threatened with handcuffs. so now I cant get over my problems by taking baby steps...im being pushed beyond my limits. (btw my ex is being supportive against the being commited, but she still doesnt want to help me or support me much anymore)

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 9

It is good to know we aren't alone, isn't it? Here nobody will laugh or make fun of us. It is important to find supportive people and try to limit information shared with family and friends who don't understand. My family is not supportive and don't understand. I know about the shame. I tried to get on the expressway but couldn't do it in order to see my brother and had to turn around and come back. I got lost about 20 times on the way back. Then my head started spinning and I had to ask a man for directions who thought I was looney. He asked me to follow him on to the main road and I finally got back. I had to call my brother and tell him what happened. He was very upset. I have been crying most of the day about this. Now I don't feel like going out to the grocery store but I know that I must. I hope that you can get the courage to get away from these nonsupportive boyfriends. It is important to be with people who understand. I have been separated from my husband who ridicules me and doesn't understand. He won't communicate or or go to counseling. I realize that it is time for a divorce but I am scared about dealing with lawyers too, and afraid about all of the money stuff. My advice is this, take small baby steps and achieve them. Do as much as you can. There may be things you can't do on your own. Get people to help. Don't feel ashamed, and don't try to explain the problem to anyone who might make fun of you. Linda

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 147

I just think that no matter what you do or say they aren€™t going to change so if he loves you he won€™t listen to them. Don€™t stress on what they say or what you think they think of you, more than likely they would of found something else wrong with you if it wasn€™t this.

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 198

Dear Violet Girl, Sounds like his parents need to get a grip and get some education on Panic Disorder. If they begin to understand the plight of others, they may look inside their own lives and find 'problems' that are lurking. If your boyfriend can understand, so can his parents. Keep trying, I would say, and maybe turn his parents on to this site? Or, find some information about Panic Attacks - print something out from the Panic Program this site provides? Just some ideas to let them know what you are going through and you cannot help it, you did not choose it and there are many other who are suffering from the same thing. Bye for now and post often...

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 59

My situation is a little bit different - my boyfriend accepts my PD and Agoraphobia but his parents constantly criticise me. I got to the point that I simply don't visit them anymore because each time I went there I was criticised for being a med-maniac (I obviously have been taking meds for my condition), for being a coward, whatever you wish. Now I don't go there, they have turned against my boyfriend and shouting at him that I don't want to visit them. I know it's a kind of avoidance but I still lack self-confidence to stand up to them. And yes, they keep on telling me to get a grip on myself. Recently bf's mother told him i was just fooling around eith him and not wanting to marry him...Hmmm... How do you cope with such people? And with criticism? I'll appreciate all hints. Thanks, Iwona/.

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 147

Actually, after doing a lot of research, I discovered that the €œunknown€ or not being sure about your future can be one of the biggest reasons people begin to have panic attacks. And that obviously means that you feel that you don€™t have control over your life, which of course, control is another big aspect of panic attacks. What exactly do you do that is so bad that she left you? And maybe it isn€™t you at all.

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1062

Hi, Shade. Once you get into the panic program, you will see the "what if" scenarios are part of what you must learn to challenge. Hang in there.

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 38

[color=Maroon]I know the feeling... My girlfriend put up with me for almost a year and then she decided she'd had enough of my childish behavior and she left me. :( We still talk and she still loves me to death, but she refuses to come back until I get myself straightened up. What can I do? What If I can't get straightened up? what if it takes too long and she finds somebody else? What if we get back together and I start having panic attacks again? I know how you all feel. NObody understands what anxiety disorders are. [/color]

21 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

King, Have you like never felt depressed or anxious before? If you have and you multiply your scariest moment in life by 10, that's what a panic attack is. A person just has to find ways to cope with it and that's what he is/was doing. :| This message was edited by am on 4-2-03 @ 7:40 AM

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