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P.S.  Now that I don't attach my worth to people and how much I socialize anymore, I just feel better about everything.  It's okay if I have one friend, or if people are too busy to get together with me.  I'm still a good person independent of people and social activities.  I wish I learned that sooner, but it's better than learning it later.  I am much happier with that knowledge. That's why the lack of many friends or lack of social activities doesn't bother me as much anymore.  I still go out and do things, it's just not as a big deal as I used to make of it.

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Hi Hugs,

Re:  vision board.  I only use it as "things I like" not as a visual goal type of things I need to accomplish.  I couldn't follow that course as well.  I think Pinterest is exactly what you said.

That's okay if you socialize in a practical way instead of a "just for fun way".  However you like to socialize is cool.

I don't think those sitcom circles really exist.  I think I've had past expectations about real life being more like the movies, but it just ends up in disappointment.  I'm sure there are groups of imperfect people out there.  I don't know if I will find them either, but I guess I keep trying anyway.  I'm finding though that I'm more at ease and comfortable with being in my own company.  I think I was too dependent on others to meet my social needs and I'm finding more of a balance of enjoying time by myself as well as socializing.  I think the desperation level has decreased to a more normal level.  

I think it's okay that you tried more before and aren't as much now with caring for your parents.  I think life changes.  I used to be a social butterfly and now not so much, but I am starting to accept things better now.  Acceptance gives me peace.

Planning is a good motivation toward goals.  How else will you take steps towards something if you don't know where you want to go :)

Thanks for sharing everything.  

Shari
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Hi Shari,
I tried a vision board once, but I'm not certain I could follow the course on "Redesigning Your Life".
Isn't pinterest a social media site dedicated to collages?
 
I'm not sure I can allow myself going to something for pleasure, so I settle for something which meets practical needs, like the course on home construction.  The  instructor is good, judging from the way the classes fill on this course I've been monitoring for a couple of years.
 
Passion is something which is wonderful if you can find it in a teacher or anyone.  At Walmart, a woman was giggling over playing cards which were discounted, since I think she loves shopping.
 
I almost feel I should give up looking for that "social circle" portrayed in commercials, sitcoms("Friends","Cheers"...)
 
I've begun to change my day, so that I don't really "do" anything production after dinner, so maybe  I'll find a reason to go to something.  I found a meeting summary of my personal growth goals from several years ago, and found that I was trying so much more.  Of course my parent was so less dependent on me then.
 
Planning is important so I feel motivated to meet the goals, and get a sense of "success", according to my value system.
 
Sometimes I just feel like that song says..."I lost that lovin' feeling...".
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Miss you too Hugs,

You have the best sense of humor :)

Have you ever thought about making a dream board or vision board?  It's really cool.  You can draw or cut out pictures of things that make you happy or things you want to have happen in your life.  My dream board has a Shih Poo (Shih Tzu/Poodle mix) picture on it - ha ha.  It just makes you happy looking at it.  I should have probably posted this on another thread.  

Also, I wondered if you do any socializing outside of taking courses, like a small group of friends or one or two friends.  I'm still working on that.  I am going to a bird club meeting tomorrow night, although I'm the black crow (a relative of the black sheep) of the group.  Since I don't attach my self worth to others, I don't care if I get ignored or not.  I just want to see the slide show of George Jett's trip to Ethiopia.  He has photos of mammals, birds and reptiles.  Just thought it would be good to get out among people, even if there is little interaction.  The group isn't rude, they are just standoffish and it makes me uncomfortable.  I'm very warm and friendly and it's hard for me to relate to people who are extremely reserved.  It's awkward.

When you first mentioned a partially frozen face, I thought of botox, but then saw that you mentioned the dentist :)

Here's a hug for you   Shari
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We could have used those at our parish called "Our Lady Lady of Perpetual Procrastination". 
 
I think I could start a church called "...the church of latter day decisions", but I put off so many.    I can't decide when to go to the dentist, and co-ordinate it with a massage today, and should count my blessings, since others don't have the luxuries of choice. 
 
Just thinking of having my face frozen partially scares me.
 
Miss you Shari
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When I was a girl, I went to church, and they handed out round cut cork coasters with the word, "Tuit" on them.  We were then told that when a procrastinator in the family would say they would do something, "when they got around to it", to just hand them the round "Tuit" coaster :) 

Shari
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There was a drug advertised on the net that was supposed to cure anything. It was called Havitol I think. People actually ordered it.

Davit
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There's an international network of universities which offers free online courses at www.coursera.org.
 
I look at it occasionally, and wish I had the time, knowing it's probably best to take something in a group.
 
Today they posted a course on "Underwater Basketweaving", just to get eggheads like me to lighten up.  I think it helped since I had a tough day.

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