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Hi Ashley,
I'd like to say, I changed "these things" and itemize them.  The problem is, I don't wish to feel judged, and be sandwiched in between two people preceding and following me who were better.
 
It was testy last week since I had to listen to a class full of women describing a handsome celebrity, and my self-image is not doing well.
 
I remember once being in another course where we were giving presentations, and there was a former Olympian in the class.  When I stated I didn't wish to follow him, he was irritated, but upon reflection, who would wish to follow a world-class athlete with a gold medal from one of the most affluent families in the region?
 
I was going to say that he should have felt complimented, but maybe his nannies spoiled him so he can't understand what it's like to be below average, but I know you've started a thread on "anger" I have a lot of grist for the mill there
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I want to help my parent be comfortable and secure in her home.  At the same time, I'm taking a special interest course with some "homework" which is competing with my parents needs.
 
I don't know what to say to the strong-willed instructor, when she polls the class, one-by-one, asking us what we did.  Sometimes we do this in small groups, so I can "pass" and not feel judged.
 
I don't know if I'll be able to say "I just didn't do the homework".    I went from overwhelming myself, thinking that I could wash and paint a kitchen(not possible) to changing a faceplate on a plug to appease the instructor.  Does the instructor have vested interests anyway, since she's looking for sales leads as a realtor, in  a lucrative market in an urban city-I don't know?
 
In another class, the instructor stated that "accountability" is important, and I felt pressured. 
 
But I'm not accountable to the instructor, but my personal values.  I don't wish to skip the class either, since that would be "flight" and I would lose the content, which will be useful  later. 
 
Maybe I could send her an email, explain my dilemma, and she'll go from there...


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