I am in the process of knowing myself and my triggers and maybe I am hyper vigilant of my feelings. I can not expect to feel the same way all day. Being depressed or anxious is perfectly normal (at least for short periods of time).
Davit,
I have found that distractions are good for improving my mood. The problem is that when I have a very bad day it is difficult to find enough distractions to do.
Don't think of bad days as bad days but as markers of how much better the good days are. Bad days are not always our fault. When I have a bad day I try to set it aside and not analyse it. If I can I use it for a rest period and try to do something mindless and easy and if I start to feel better I switch to something I like to do. Like Sunny I too blame myself even though I try not too. (core belief) I have found that an hour of distraction can turn my mood around. And never ever consider a lost time or day to be a waste. It is an experience. We are programmed to achieve, but what for. Other than comfort what does it get us. In the end we all get the same hundred cubic feet of this planet and even that is becoming less available.
I guess for me it helps being disabled. Even a bad day beats the alternative which is going to come soon enough and then it will only matter to those that remember me because I won't.
Think positive, we are here by chance, enjoy it. I could have been born an insect that lives only long enough to breed and die.
Love the picture. A good example of calm and just being. Nothing wrong with just being.
Eleveno: I know what you mean. I suffer from the same thing. If I am unhappy I tend to blame myself for everything negative which has happened to me. Where's the positive thought in that? I know that I am not to blame for everything. I recognize that this is my tendency and I have to be vigilant and not let it win. This is one of my patterns. Knowing yourself, your triggers, what makes you tick (painful sometimes in getting to know yourself) helps in keeping a mental balance. I acknowledge the feelings, try and understand them then go do something else. If I've journaled the feelings, I'll go back and read them in a wk. or so. It has freed me up to look at things from a different perspective, a positive "let's move ahead" frame of mind rather than negative selfblaming.
I understand positive thinking is the key to happiness but when I am depressed or anxious is so difficult to think positively. Maybe this is why I have cognitive distortions about myself and others.
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