Hello hugs4u. I think you can understand better the SMART concept if you look at some examples how to set a goal. You can Google SMART goals and find a lot of examples
I can see your point but I think specific and measurable are quite different. To differentiate when trying to determine what is Specific about your goal look at questions that involve the W's (who, what, where, when, which and why). To determine the Measurable focus on How (How much?, How many?, How will I know if I accomplish, etc.)
Setting goals was so hard for me when I started doing the CBT work... I just had never learned how to set a goal. It has gotten easier and I'm getting better at it all the time, but still need to be aware of the process. I guess I would just encourage you Eleveno and others to keep at it ... keep tweaking those goals... I like what Davit says about setting goals, and agree that accepting any progress toward reaching them is crucial to success.
One other thing that has been really helpful for me is setting goals with the S M A R T model. Ashley has written about that before. R... has been most important to me.... does this goal I am setting Resonate with me at my core... is this something I really want to do? ... is this something I believe I can do? If the answer is no.... I break it down to a smaller short term goal.... and keep doing that (with patience) until I have success. The confidence earned from meeting even the tiniest of goals just builds on itself... it is very empowering.
Because I am disabled it is hard to plan for the future, but I do anyway. Instead of looking at what I got done in terms of how close it was to my goals I cellebrate what I did get done. This is far less depressing than thinking my goals are to high to aim for. Aim high and accept what you get done. This is better I think than only aiming for what you are sure of. And keep in mind every accomplishment makes you better than you were.
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