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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Awww... just go ahead and taste both bales!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Davit,

Tasting is a good analogy for deciding. Deciding is so mental, butso abstract to a person like me who is touchy feely...but tasting is...something I can sink my teeth into;)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

He who dies with the most toys wins, No he who dies with the most toys is still dead. It does not matter if you make a few mistakes along the way and are not all you could have been or have all you could have had. You can't take it with you.

Live a little. How do you know which bail of hay you want unless you taste it.

Here for you,

Davit.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Guys & Dolls,

I’m like the donkey who starved, because he couldn’t decide which bale of hay to eat, when he had two equal looking piles of hay. I feel paralyzed since time is always crushing down on me(as if I’m special), and I fear the consequences of making the wrong decision.

Maybe I should look back to see if I see hoof marks in the snow, since I already feel like an ass.

Some decisions have great commitments though, moneywise and time wise, and generally I’ve delayed making those when I’m under severe stress.

I’ll try the small decisions, and like most things, I’ll get better.

One small bite of hay for mankind, one large donkey pie for me!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 89

My brother had a short version of this. Forgive the language a bit, if you will.

"If you're darned if you do, and darned if you don't - might as well do!"

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Hugs.

Are you suffering from a case of "why bother it won't make a difference". Is this why you can't make decisions. It is a tough one to break. And the hell (literally) of it is that it will make a difference. Decisions about health, decisions about what to buy, decisions about when to do something are all important. The problem with "why bother" is that if you try to do it all at once it seems huge. But if you make one decision at a time it is possible. And it will make a difference.

Or am I wrong and you just don't have the time. Or am I right and you just can't be bothered to find it.

Ah perfectionism. Such a good reason to get nothing done. If it can't be perfect it isn't worth doing. A negative spin on anything worth doing is worth doing right. Depends on what is right for the moment. Just doing it might be the perfect answer, so in that case would not just doing it to the best of your ability at that moment not be perfectionism. It really is just a matter of interpretation.

Here for you,

Davit.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Stress and indecision

I can’t decide on health treatment plans, and I suffer, without going into the gory details, since it’s embarrassing. I have health care, but can’t take the steps. The same is true for staple things which I’m afraid to shop for, since my time constraints disorient me to the point that I can’t make the simplest decisions.

I kept looking for information, and of course, there’s no end for perfectionism. There needs to be another name for “perfectionism”, since there’s nothing “perfect” about being dissatisfied.

Another place is besides the fear of going out, I can’t carry out these plans.

When I look at pros/cons, I don’t have a “feeling” about what’s right/wrong for me, since my mood is so low too.

Also, dependents suffer, causing more stress, and reenforcing the cycle.

When I can remember the phrase “to not decide, is to decide”, I can return to the daily grind of living, like everyone else.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Samantha,

I guess you mean negative stress manifestations, since there are good stresses we can take on, for their benefits...

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 659

Samantha,

I fit into several categories this week..Starting with the most troublesome one.. Internal stresses. Which are my Lifestyle choices. Negative self-talk and moving on to perfectionism..My external stresses this week when doing exposure work were Physical environment: Noise, and confined spaces. Social: Rudeness and aggressiveness. For me I think it is a combination of both internat and external stresses that contribute my stress..These are things I need to work on if I want to reduce the stress in my life... This exercise was very helpful and a real eyeopener for me..It really made me think about what I am doing to my self...I am looking forward to hearing your tips on Thursday..

Thanks,

Red

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Members,
Welcome to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Day (CBT) on the forums!

Every Sunday and Thursday will now be known as CBT day.

Every Sunday a PC health educator will launch a challenge. Members are encouraged to take on the challenge and post their results. On the following Thursday, a PC educator will post specific tips and strategies to aid you in the way you look/interpret yourself and the way you view the world.

This week we will be talking about stress…

Manifestations of stress are numerous and varied but they generally fall into four categories (this is only a partial list of most common symptoms:

·   Physical: fatigue, headache, insomnia, muscle aches/stiffness (especially neck, shoulders and low back), heart palpitations, chest pains, abdominal cramps, nausea, trembling, cold extremities, flushing or sweating and frequent colds.
·   Mental: decrease in concentration and memory, indecisiveness, mind racing or going blank, confusion, loss of sense of humor.
·   Emotional: anxiety, nervousness, depression, anger, frustration, worry, fear, irritability, impatience, short temper.
·   Behavioral: pacing, fidgeting, nervous habits (nail-biting, foot-tapping), increased eating, smoking, drinking, crying, yelling, swearing, blaming and even throwing things or hitting

There are two kinds of stressors: external and internal.

External stressors include:

·   Physical environment: noise, bright lights, heat, confined spaces.
·   Social: rudeness, bossiness or aggressiveness on the part of someone else.
·   Organizational: rules, regulations deadlines and office politics.
·   Major life events: divorce, lost job, promotion, new baby.

· Daily hassles: being stuck in traffic, forgetting your purse

Internal stressors include:
·   Lifestyle choices: caffeine, not enough sleep, overloaded schedule, not eating enough or often enough.
·   Negative self-talk: putting yourself down, catastrophizing.
·   Mind traps: unrealistic expectations, taking things personally, all-or-nothing thinking, exaggerating.
·   Stressful personality traits: perfectionist, workaholic, people pleaser.
Thinking back to the record you’ve kept this week, which category did you fall into?

Samantha, Health Educator

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