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You're welcome Shari.  Glad it turned out well - your friend, Sunny
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Thank you Josie and Sunny too!  We must have all posted at the exact same time.  I didn't see both of your responses till I hit "reply to discussion".  Didn't want to leave you out :)  Your friend, Shari
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Davit,

You were right!  It turned out to be an error on my server's part and I was able to communicate this to my friend.  We were able to work everything out, back and forth with emails, and we remain friends!  Sometimes the dragon is so loud, I can't think clearly.  When I was able to analyze the situation, I was able to find the problem (the server) and resolve the problem with my friend.  The dragon was a major distraction, but I have him chained once again.  Some battles are harder than others, but well worth while.  I appreciate you Davit. 

Your friend forever, Shari
 
 
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Good advice and support everyone.
 
Do communicate your feelings and your point.  Knowing you did the right thing, will help you progress through those negative core beliefs.
 
We are always here to listen!
 
Josie, Health Educator
14 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Shari:  Oh phooey! Don't you hate it when the computer does something like that?  but just because your e-mail bounced back doesn't mean your friend doesn't want to hear from you.  I don't know what the "final" e-mail said but she may want to hear from you.  Who knows what really happened out there in cyber-space.  Many times weird computer things have happened to me. lol  I'm hoping you contact your friend and explain you didn't block any e-mails and hoping you can both have a good laugh about it.  One of the important things I learned re: communication was not to be a mind reader.  We don't know 100% what someone may be thinking.  (is she feeling hurt too?) After your explanation see what she has to say about it.  Worth a try I think.  Good luck.
Your friend, Sunny
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Shari

Don't go negative on me please. You have a dragon loose that is causing you to assume your new friend doesn't want to communicate. Remember negative core beliefs. Don't assume, Analyse. Is there a reason this happened. Is there some one else in the equation having an effect on the situation. It probably is not you at all. It probably is you misinterpreting because of that old fear of rejection core belief.

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14 years ago 0 1071 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I received a final email from my new friend.  My email got bounced back and it was wrongly assumed that I blocked the email which I did not.  I guess this is the ultimate test of my negative core belief of rejection.  I will grieve and move on, what else can I do.  Thanks for listening.

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