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13 years ago 0 286 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Red,
 
I'm so glad you went in and got some help on your project, and some reassurance from the owner's daughter that not all people are "like that". I'm a real nature-girl myself and have struggled a lot with not fitting in with other women. I like spending time alone, but that doesn't mean I don't need some socializing too! The trick is to find some women with similar interests. They are out there! Whether you decide to go to the remaining two classes or not, I hope you will continue with your sewing.
 
Sunny,
 
I guess I'm the baker of the group? I'll bring cookies and a pie!
 

13 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hey Red:  Wait for me, I'm coming fishing with you but on one condition - I don't have to clean the fish!  I'm no good at it. haha.  Maybe Davit can bring some of his homemade wine.  I can bring some cheese and french crusty bread.  Anybody else?
 
Sunny
13 years ago 0 659 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Teebs,
 
Thanks for the support and letting me know that not all women are like these women.  I thought I was really feeling like I was a  freak or something. I am scared to go back again.  I still have to more classes to go. I am not sure if I want to face the lion again.  I went in again today and got some help from the owners daughter. She was very nice.  The lions were gone and she was such a sweet kitten.  Your right, there are some really good people out there. 
 
As for the fishing I would love to take you and everyone here with me on my imagery fishing trip and for those who do not like to fish they can sit in the shade of a big oak tree and sip ice tea and we can all talk and relax and have a good time..... 
 
Your Friend,
Red
13 years ago 0 286 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Red,
I'm sorry the class isn't what you had hoped. But I'm really proud to hear that you went back again after having a negative experience last time. Even if you aren't getting all out of it that you wanted, it's still exposure and it's great that you are pushing yourself and succeeding! 
 
And not all women are like that, with the hanging out and chatting about nothing! I would much rather go out fishing, too
 
Your friend,
Teebs
13 years ago 0 659 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Good Morning David:
 
I had no idea this is how it is.  I have been a loner and recluse most of my life.  It has been a little shocking. 
I am not sure when I will get to do some fishing again.  My husband and I used to spent hours fishing together.
I do miss him and the fishing.  I wish you could join me fishing too.  Thanks for being here and being my friend.
I really do love the way we can all talk and enjoy each others company here in the group. It so nice to have
some real friends that you have something in common with and that understand you.  We may not be able to see
each other in person here in the group but we are a real friends that talk and share and care about each other very
much.  My real friends are all here.   
 
Here for you.
Your friend,
Red
 
13 years ago 0 659 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Good Morning Sunny: 
Thank you for the compliment. I do love quilting.  As for the classes I am a little disappointed. The other instructor was sitting in the class sewing with us.  I almost had to sit across from her.  It was very unconfortable being there.  I have to say I did learn how to do the selective listening I was talking about trying to do in another post.  I was able to sew and learn a little in this situation and I am very proud of myself for persevering. I may go back to the last 2 classes I have left if I am not to tired but I do not want to pay for additional classes.  They would be $15 per class and at the pace they are going it would cost a fortune.  I will look around and see what else I can find in the way of instruction, in the mean time I am going to try and let myself rest.  This really is a lot of exposure for me at one time.....
 
Your friend, Red
13 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Good Morning:  Red, I want to compliment you on your quilt.  It is beautiful.  The colours are very rich and warm.  You will enjoy cozying up with it this winter. Don't know how cold it gets for you where you are, but I know the desert can get mighty cold at night.
Too bad the classes are so chatty, but on the other hand, you might make a friend or two.  I understand though that you prefer a more formal type of class.  Don't know if they exist unless you take a textiles program in college.  Do you have a college nearby which may have adult classes?  I suppose some of the ladies are happy to be out of the house and are enjoying themselves, learning a new skill at the same time.  At least you don't have the same teacher, except she was in the shop.  I hope you find a solution to your problem as your quilt shows you're good! and it would be nice for you to continue.
 
Your friend, Sunny
13 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Red

It is amazing how people can do that, I have friends male and female that can talk and coffee for hours and say nothing, drives me nuts.

Here for you
Davit.

Ps Fishing sounds like a good idea, wish i could join you.
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Here I am back from my class tonight.  I am still looking for some direction in my life and these classes are not what I had in mind.  It was a tough night again.  I went to the new class and it is basically the same as the last class.  No direction, another sit and sew where everyone sews and visits all evening.  I did get some instruction and a little done in class, it is moving at a slugs pace though.  I am not sure I will be going back. The class is late at night 3 hrs. from 6pm to 9pm. I was not really looking for female companionship. I was looking for a real class and this is not it.  I can not imagine myself sitting in a room sewing and chatting with a bunch of women for the rest of my life.  Also the instructor I had a problem with was there, she was in the shop all afternoon and in a set and sew they had earlier in the day.  I had to go in and buy fabric and she was there.
I would much rather be outside fishing all day in the peace and quite, this is my idea of fun.... Well I am really tired now and in a lot of pain, my back is killing me. I have had all the chatting I can take for one day.  I never knew that this is what women do when they are together. Talk about nothing for 3 hrs straight. I have done this exposure and I have found out one thing for sure and that this is not something I have any interest in doing again.  So I will sign off for now.  I am sure tomorrow will be a better day.  I think I maybe able to finish my project on my own with the book I have here to read on the subject of quilting...... Maybe I'll take a few days and do some fishing or camping in the near future.   Its time for a change of scenery.

Red
13 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Teebs:  To be honest, this exact thing happened to me also.  I did talk to the owner for clarification and was told I was correct in my thinking and promised changes would come.  Some things changed for awhile, but didn't last and finally after a almost a year, I needed to resign because I had too many mixed signals and I didn't want to go through it all again.  I had gone twice to the owner.  I would go in cheerily with a positive attitude (I had no panic attacks or anxiety in those days) and end up going home stressed.  I resigned and though missed some of the people I enjoyed, went on to something else.  I wish you good luck in your decision.  As you say, better things are awaiting you.
 
your friend, Sunny

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