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7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 286

Wants2BeFree,

Congratulations on your week of sobriety! Well done! Keep your momentum going now that you know you can get through the days without alcohol. For me, my guilty and despairing days began to brighten as I increased my days without alcohol. Drinking does become a bit of a self-imposed prison, I agree. It does get easier and it is so worth it! Keep posting about how things are going.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5

Thank you Dhalia.

Yes is it was hard. Going to two weekends now not one drink on the weekend or during the week. I put it down and it starts by quit making excuses. I use to make the excuses you made in you're previous post. I am depressed ,I have to work, I am single, life it tough, it was a crappy day, my friend passed away, for every excuse I made an excuse to take a drink. If it wasn't depression it was oh I need a drink to be me again. I just got tired of excuses and took those hard steps and got myself out of that drinking jail cell.

You are very blessed you have a supporting husband. And parents. Don't drink to the point you lose him you will find yourself in a deeper mess. The best day to stop is today. I am glad I stopped because it was making me more and more depressed and feeling bad about everything and myself all the time.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

Hi everyone! I wanted to thank you all for your great advice. I mentioned some of you already in my previous posts now and now I want to add Julie and Gus. THANK YOU! I was itching to post again, to start a new post whining how hard I have it. My present situation is less than desirable and I feel very depressed. I am about to lose my job due to my boss' retirement and one of my friends on FB that I have "known" for almost ten years just passed away. It makes me feel angry and sad and just plain awful.It would be a perfect whining opportunity, right? Well, I changed my mind. Any excuse is great and works. So this post is about how I feel grateful that I woke up in the morning and have a roof over my head. How grateful I am that I am healthy and have a decent home and a husband who loves me and respects me with all my flows. How grateful I am that I still have my parents and they are both healthy and happy. And finally how grateful I am that I have your support here. And how happy I am that I finally reached out and asked for help. No more whining, crying and looking for excuses. Thank you all!!! It's not an easy road right now with my employment status and this tragedy that happened to my friend and her family, it is a lot to digest and lots to accept. This is what Life brings though and sometimes we need to let go and stay healthy. I am willing to try once more as of this Monday. I pray, I meditate and I know I am on my way. It will be a twisty difficult journey but I have to take it with all its pains and aches. Thank you all once again!

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

Dear Wants2befree, my big congratulations on your seven days. You did it! It must have been so hard and yet you managed. I'm very happy for you!

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

Wants2befree! I just read your other post. THANK YOU!!! I will do whatever I can, I promise that. I am not myself anymore and forgot how to be happy but now I know there is a solution and many before me did it. Yes, I'm feeling much better now! Thank you.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

Hi Wants2befree! I have the book, started reading it but can't get really far with it. I will try it again. Thank you so much for the suggestion!

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

HI!!! Thank you for writing and reaching out. It is awful but it brings me comfort that there is another soul out there who feels exactly like I do. I wish you all the strength I wish I had! I wish you health and happiness and peaceful evenings and fresh energizing mornings. Your post means so much to me. Thank you. We can do it together!!!

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Welcome to the forums, Wannagohome. For some trouble starts after we stop drinking. First we try moderation. It didn't work. Then we attempt to stay stopped on our own. It doesn't work. Atleast thats what happened to me 10 years ago. Then I was nudged into AA by my Shrink. It was one of the greatest things that would happen in my life. Life takes on a new meaning. Hope you stick around. And look for suggestions and use others experience to gain strength.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1

I'm brand new here today and just read Dahlia's post...I'm sure I am one of many doppelgangers she has because what she wrote says it all about me. Sometimes I think I must be insane or mentally deficient, but I too, get up and work every day, run my own business, nobody else thinks I have a problem (except my husband, of course), I handle all that life throws at me...and I get drunk every day. Not falling down, no DUI's, no spending my last dollar...but I drink every day and I don't stop at one or two. A bottle or two of wine is nothing to me. I want to stop today. This has to be my stopping day because I am worried it's going to kill me. So I too, like Dahlia, am asking for your help. And I have tried before...many, many times, but I'm 56...and it's time.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Wants2BeFree,

Welcome to the forum. Hope you got a copy of the Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous). There are some great stories and chapters on alcoholism. They put the co-founders story (Bill W) in the front of the book. Then they didn't know how to reach out other alcoholics. You could see the progression of the disease in him and how he staged a recovery. There are some great big book study workshops on the youtube. They are real blessing for me in the beginning and even today, when I work with other new-comers. There is a Solution, More about Alcoholism talk about the peculiar mental twist some of us have developed. They talk about the mind being the main problem of them alcoholic. And the internal un-manageability-being restless, irritable and dis-contended, you may add more. Boredom, anxiety.....after we put down the drink. That is un-treated alcoholism. The 12 steps helps us overcome that malady.

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