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7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5

Gus is right,

Purchase the book by Allen Carr , "The Easy way to Stop Drinkkng" it opens your mind and has you look at reality. I love this book now alcohol is a poison and a trap. Many people got out of the trap. Like Julie says not all of us are wired the same. I drank everyday for 20 years and got sick of it last weekend. It's day 7 for me the first days was hard this weekend was a lot of work. But I did lots of reading ,walking , swimming , drinking tons of water , tea and lots of prayer. I went alcohol free! Weekend, and it was hard but I got through it. Very best of advise read on how bad your life can get and get out of that hole your digging yourself in and making a prison walls. You need to get all the alcohol out of your house and just put it down and don't run the store anymore. Make sure your husband supports you and doesn't drink with you. You can do this. If a lot of people can so can you and I. I even went to 2 AA meetings and that was an eye opening.

Take care put the bottle down and pray have faith. Stay busy and active. Watch Kevin O'Hara YouTube very inspiring.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 115

Hi Dahlia,

I want to comment on your question: "Can anyone tell me how to snap out of it?"

I quit almost two years ago, after many unsuccessful attempts. I found what finally got me over the line was thinking about my drinking differently. I listened to an audiobook from Allan Carr called "The Easy Way to quit alcohol."

The book got me thinking about booze differently. Once i started thinking about it differently, the prospect of quitting became easier.

Since then, I have learned that I could survive and thrive without Drinking. I have probably given more to people in the last two years than I have in the rest of my life. Drinking was screwing up my ability to give.

I dont know how drinking didnt kill me. It didnt. I'm alive and feeling better now than I have felt in the last 20 years.

And dont be hard on yourself. forgiving yourself is important. I have had a hard time with that part, but Im gettin there.

Take care

Gus

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 286

Dahlia, Our life doesn't have to be falling apart for alcohol to be a problem. It sounds like you do consider alcohol to be a problem and that's what matters. Everyone seems to have their own path to sobriety. For some AA works, some reach out for support online, others go to rehab or their doctor. Finding support here and using every other support I could think of was what worked for me. You need to get enough supports in place so it does work, change things up. Get rid of the booze in your house if you need to, start evening walks---whatever works. There is really no "best" time to stop. If you are motivated now, then take advantage of it. It is hard at the beginning but it does get easier. I tried to stop a few times and found out what worked for me. There are many stories and threads on this website that are a great place to start. Life is possible without alcohol and in fact, it is much better. Turns out that we really don't need it like we thought we did. Good luck and keep posting!

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

The evening comes and all my willingness and plan go down the drain in the matter of seconds. I drink everyday and have been doing it since last summer.

Thats the peculiar mental twist few of our kind have developed. The mind will trick us into believing that this time its going to be fine. I will toss all the beer from storage Monday morning. But later in the evening I will get thirsty. I will drive to the gas station for A beer. Then going back several times. I came to realize we are mentally and bodily different from others. Thats the first step in recovery. I was doing this from 1995 till 2006. Finally I ran out of lies. I had to face the reality.

7 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

Hello, Dahlia here. I am a new member. Could anyone please tell me how to snap out of it. I recognize the problem, I know I have to get it under control. It seems that I know quite a lot in theory and maybe even be able to give an advice to someone else but to put it into practice and address myself is a whole different story. I am strong willed in general and I always keep my word, I am honest and love to help others. But I can't help myself. The evening comes and all my willingness and plan go down the drain in the matter of seconds. I drink everyday and have been doing it since last summer. I still get up in the morning and work, I learn another language, I am opening my own business, I am a full time wife and employee working for someone else, I cook, go to the gym regularly and do whatever every woman does. Keeping it together, right? Not so much. No one except me and my husband knows this side of my story, a double life story. I promise myself to stop tomorrow, on Wednesday, after the weekend... No way. I just can't snap out of it. It seems to me that if I stop and not have a drink one day, only one day for now, I could potentially managed to take a step back, regroup, take a deep breath and have some sense of faith and confidence. So what is this first step? Please help me.

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