This is a very common problem with couples when one of them awakens but the other does not. Be strong. Try to address your emotional stability. Visit one of the local AA meetings. Once you understand the powerlessness and un-manageability you will see how it impacts everybody else. Until your husband realizes that he needs to quit and initiate the recovery process, you can't do anything. All you can do is, focus on you and hope that will help him see that there is another way of life. My wife, counselor, friends couldn't convince me that I had a problem, I had to find my own bottom. You could only pray.