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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 118

Maryann, I admire what you have done and are doing. I hope I can too! John

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11

For me once I decided to be sober for me, temptation was something I put into my head that I woud not tolerate. I had to sit down and figure out what type of situations, people and places might tempt me to drink. Then I had to remove them. I had to cut my brother out of my life for over a year, until he decided he also wanted to be sober and then I would only talk to him on the phone or meet him at an AA or NA meeting until he was sober about 6 months. I had to know he was serious, because we did a lot of drinking together and Sobriety has to be selfish to work. I cannot risk what I have gained, by putting myself into a situation I know could be dangerous. If I slide back down that hill I am of no use to anyone.

I know I have at least one more relapse in me,we all do, but what I dont know is if I have another recovery in me.

It does not matter whether a person is one day sober or ten years sober, we are all one drink away from relapse.

It is said, "One drink is too many, and a thousand is never enough"

My next drink, if I took one, could very well be the one that destroys me.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 118

Wow, you guys are doing so great!

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Way to go Turquoise, awesome job! I wonder if that the temptation ever really goes away. I sure it diminishes overtime, but does the thought of having "just one" ever go away?

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

I am now on my 9th week sober! The food-crutch isn't really necessary any more, and I've lost most of the weight I gained right after going sober, so I think it was a good trade-off. I'm also not feeling quite so lonely about losing my "best friend" -- that glass of wine every night. I'm more engaged in my kids' lives, and rarely wake up with a headache, where that used to be so normal that I just thought it was part of me. Sleeping better, etc.

I still think about "I could have just one glass of wine" almost every afternoon. I wonder how long it will be before that finally goes away too?

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1009

Truly excellent Camiol! I can hear a huge change in your determination and resolve. Very positive! Great work and keep on going.

Best regards,

Dave

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

I made it through my first Friday in a very long time without a drink. I'm feeling stronger each day. Yesterday marked day 4 and I plan to make today day 5. Each day it does get easier and I don't seem to suffering any ill effects from withdrawals.

I am attending my brother in laws 50th birthday party today at my sisters camp and I have no intentions of drinking. I know I will face some challenges and trigger situations, but my head is in the right place at the moment and I'm sure I can get through it without falling.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1009

Hi Camiol,

Great work! I like your attitude and admire your strength. I can hear the positive motivation coming back into your thoughts and having a plan is the best approach. I found what helped me as part of my plan was looking forward to enjoying the social activity of being with my friends without drinking. Drinking was something that I was always projecting forward to in my mind. When I had to go to cottage or a get-together I was conditioned (through years of doing the SAME thing over and over) to drinking and I would put it in the back of my mind that I was going to drink it up and have a good time! I guess you can call it "Drinking thinking". Now I look forward to enjoying their company and really LISTENING to what they have to say, unencumbered by the haze of alcohol. I've got to say I enjoy it so much more now. So great planning Camiol! Everyday you get stronger so look forward to the challenge and embrace it because you're going to do it anyway so there's no sense in making it drudgery.

That's tragic about the young woman. What an incredible waste and I do hope they run him up the flag pole. I've lost too many friends to the senseless, stupid practice of drinking and driving. It's the epitome of self-centered a-hole behavior that characterizes the worst in problem drinking.

Keep Camiol!

Best regards,

Dave

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hi Dave...day one is behind me, day two is here! I'm looking forward to another sober evening. Keeping busy seems to help take my mind off wanting a drink. I always obsessed about drinking, waiting for 5:00 to hurry up and arrive so I could pour a drink. Today I'm obsessing about wanting to stay sober and what I need to do to make sure that happens.

I have to attend a 50th birthday party this weekend for my brother in law at my sisters cottage. I already have a plan to bring a few cans of club soda and a couple limes, that is going to be my drink for the day. It won't be hard to explain to anyone why I'm not having a drink because I'm driving, and I won't drink and drive. Sadly on Saturday a 28 year old girl was hit and killed on her bicycle by a drunk driver here in town. Unfortunately my husband I know the driver. I never liked the guy much and I hope he gets the book thrown at him. Tragedies like this certainly make us open our eyes.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Ok...I tried to send another one a little while ago. Hope you get it this time.

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