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10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 154

Good morning everyone,

I echo what Rob says below. No doubt, your wife will be your biggest supporter from this point onwards.

It doesn't matter how many times you (we) fall; God will pick you up and the two of you working together will beat this disease for good.

Love is all.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Greg,

very well done. Your honesty in delaing and facing up to the issue is amazing. Perhaps one day far into the future you will look back on this day as being the start of something new and better.

Take care,

rob

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi Greg1276,

Your profile pic speaks volumes as to how I imagine you are beginning to feel the past few days. I applaud you for putting your words to action, seeking additional help and opening up to your wife about your health concerns. I wish you the best as you take these first steps towards a healthier, happier self. You CAN do this, you have the support from all of us here. Whether you choose to focus on the counselling or post with us at AHC, we are always here - rooting for you!

Vincenza, Health Educator

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Just talked to my EAP. She did an assessment over the phone and I have an appointment with a councillor on Friday.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Hello, all. Well, what I was afraid of actually happened. After a nearly dry month of July, I went right back to my old habits in August. So, last night in bed a told my wife I have a drinking problem and that I need help. I was very emotional. She was a bit surprised that I thought I had a problem but she did say she sees my mood change - for the better - after a drink. She's fully on board with me getting help. I told her I have been a member of this site since last year and that it helped me reach some goals but I have to take it further if I am to remain sober. I felt about 100 punds lighter after I told her all this and I slept like a baby. I was a little bit anxious as i was spilling my guts and I told her so. It's because I'm committing to sobriety and that, frankly, is scary.

My next step is to contact my Employee Assistance Program which provides support for substance abuse. I'm not sure what to expect but I have to start somewhere. My wife knows a therapist she has used in the past to help her with anxiety which is another route I could take. I've met him and he's a great guy.

I'm not sure if I'll keep posting here once I start with counselling. I guess I'll see once I start.

Thanks to all who offered advice and encouragement.

I feel good today.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 252

Greg,

as Ashley says this indeed is a tough one.

this is a question I and most have had to face many times.

My thoughts would be the following

If you have an addiction, then having a drink is not a good idea no matter what way you look at it.

If you are simply cutting back from drinking a lot, then you have more wriggle room on what to do.

Either which way, with every new day there is a new start with a new dawn. I hope you had a brilliant time.

rob

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11219

Hi Greg,

That's a tough one. What are the pros and cons to each? How do you feel about it now and how do you predict you will feel about it after. Work through your thoughts before making and desicions. I think it's very smart of you to be thinking of this now and not during the event!

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Well, today is the last day before my birthday/goal. With the exception of 2 small stumbles I think I did very well. We are going to Rib Fest tonight and the couple we normally go with originally cancelled but now are going to meet us there. The husband and I usually sit in the beer tent for a while and I'm sure he will be expecting that again this year. Should I allow myself a couple of beers even though I'm not quite at my goal? I'm sure I can keep it moderate, it's just that I've read so many posts here from people who have abstained for a period of time and then slowly slipped back in to their old habits because they thought they could handle it.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1009

Glad to help Greg. Keep up the good work!

Dave

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Hi, Ashley. I guess what I can take away is the fact that there will always be temptations, probably for the rest of my life and that I should try to anticipate them and plan for them. I should have known that there would be booze offered after the move as my friend's parents are very sociable and hospitable - they're Italian and awesome people. The last few time I was offered booze I knew well in advance that it would be coming so I had prepared myself. I think I'll have to look at every situation beforehand and determine a plan.

I had another bad craving yesterday, as I was getting my oil changed of all places. I was running around before that doing a lot of errands and in the past that is when I would include a trip to the liquor store. As I was sitting there I became very fidgety and anxious and simultaneously trying to talk my self into and out of getting some alcohol. I didn't help that I was starving and I ran out of water. I kept thinking of how upset I would be at myself and how I would feel in the morning and that got me through. I actually felt a little drained after the whole thing.

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