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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 45

Welcome CW, I read your post from the other thread as well so welcome to the site. IMO, since you want to taper your drinking down try to be as honest with yourself as possible. When I say that, lay out your weekend before it starts i.e. activities, dinner, lunch, site seeing etc. Look at the times where there will more than likely be some type of imbibing involved. Don't follow anyone's lead, stick to your plan. If your husband or the rest of the inlaw's are having 4 drinks in an hour , have 2. If they drink a bloody mary in the morning for brunch having a mimosa (champagne = a little less alcohol content than the vodka) Also in between those drinks, drink plenty of water so you're full just like you mentioned. I think that's key as well as putting a realistic number of drinks per day that you will consume. In addition just keep in mind that you want to keep the peace at home and showing that you can control your intake can be a nice motivating factor. I know for me that's been a big factor in being sober for these past few weeks, when things are good at home you can't deny the fact that we're much happier people :) Good Luck! Enjoy yourself and remember to stick to your plan.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 15

Hi everyone. I just signed up on this site yesterday. My first couple of days are going well so far. I wanted to get some input on my weekend plans. My husband's two brothers and their spouses from out of town are coming in tomorrow. We are meeting them in the city and will be spending time with them from mid day tomorrow until Sunday afternoon. They are all drinkers and we will be in a city where alcohol flows very freely. Normally, this would be a very dangerous situation for me, starting drinking early in the day and trying to match the guys drink for drink. When I do that, by dinner, I won't even know what I'm eating, will have 0 inhibitions, and will be very remorseful come Sunday morning. But I'll still do it all over Sunday. I don't expect that I'll stick to two drinks per day for the next two days. That's unrealistic. But I need a strategy and a goal to plan for. I was planning on sipping wine slowly in between glasses of water. This has worked for me before. I'll try to limit to 2 glasses per meal and alternate between soft drinks and wine (the only alcohol I ever drink) at bar stops. That way I won't feel deprived but I'll still be in control. I welcome any input and/or suggestions. Thank you & God bless.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

You have hit the nail on the head Turquoise...They are my triggers also...especially the having access to alcohol. Thanks so much and congrats to you...

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11219

Hi Mogas!

Great list Turquoise. If I could chime in here... planning your goal prior to a possible trigger event is so important. Know your limit and have a plan in place if it starts to get tough. The Emergency Coping Plan in the Education section is good to have on hand. Also, when you reach your goal reward yourself. How have all the mogas planned their goals for this weekend? Also, what are the planned rewards

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

So I found what looks like a good alcohol and/or cigarette calculator. www(dot)baby2see(dot)com/medical/cigarettes_alcohol.html. I have made it for seven days (yay!) and feel good about that. I don't feel like it was totally realistic, because my environment has been kids 24/7 and visiting people who generally don't drink. Of course, all the years I've done this before, I've still had my beer or wine with dinner, even it it was by myself. At some point soon (but not right away) I will try the same challenge when I am at home around my usual triggers and BDB's (best drinking buddies). I do really feel like I have made some serious changes to my drinking habits, which is such a key for me.

What are some of the habits MOGA's have that trigger excess drinking? Here are a few triggers for me:

1) having alcohol freely accessible in the house, so I can reach it on a whim

2) having my first drink mid-afternoon (which leads to the rest of the day)

3) not planning my drinking, which easily turns one glass into several

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Morning all...Congrats Turquoise on a week... Going out to a meet up tonight and art walk so should be easy, yet it is free drinks at the galleries. Will see how I do. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. Stay in the moderation mode and check in. Marylizy

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 80

I don't want to count how much I have spent on alcohol in these few years. It was bad anyway. For sure, I cut down on alcohol, I spent less.

I have my new medication today and it made me a little bit dizzy. Perhpas it is normal when one starts a new drug. Hope it will getting better soon.

Had some craving on wine when I was on the way home, but I only take fruit wine cooler after home, no others.

How about the other MoGa ladies, hope you are all doing fine.

My Sleep Beauty time has pasted and I have to knock myself down into asleep.

Sleep tight to you all and have sweet dreams.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 161

Hi everyone. I feel stronger today. Not guzzling tonight.

Roy, you are really something. That was a power dream. You will know what to do when you get to the island. Thanks for thinking of me, with all you are dealing with.

Marylizy, it sounds like you are feeling stronger today too. I am glad. Be kind to yourself, over there a few miles toward the Atlantic. Let the ocean breeze carry all our cares away.

My brother is 14 years younger than me. He's 38. It's not supposed to happen this way, but it is. He's so positive about his recovery he's holding the rest of us together. I need to be strong for him and his wife and my sister. That is something I can do. I start driving north Sunday.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

The next day is always better...We are here and aware of our pit falls and get up and start again. Good luck Elizabeth...and every one else struggling with the monkey on our back..alcohol...

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 45

Marylizy/ElizabethRRR I hope you 2 are doing a little bit better today. I' know it's been a tough couple of days but keep the faith as much as possible. I know it's hard when you lose someone and it's easy to retreat into the bottle (trust me I've done it before and for less) It's so comforting knowing that everyone in this group has been so vocal with their support on moderation and how to handle the cravings if you're not looking to drink. It's been 18 days since my last drink and I had one of those "drinking dreams" where I bought a fifth of vodka and took it to my spare room (my drinking room) and cracked it open and started drinking. It was such a vivid dream that when I woke up I honestly felt like I had been drinking the night before and I felt drunk! I've had drinking dreams before but none like that one. Extremely lucid. I was cognizant of the fact that I was drinking in the dream and I was actually ok with it, however when I woke up and felt that way I felt some guilt but I realized hey it was a dream. In the next couple of weeks I'm going to be heading down to the Dominican Republic, (had the vacation time set up since last year) for one week. Now that I'm not drinking I'm not sure how to handle the trip? Should I take the week off and try to drink moderately, or should I stick to my guns and stay sober... The thought of going to the island and partying sounds like a lot of fun , but going there and being able to remember each night sounds good too :)I may have to just suck it up and stuff my face with some good dominican eats instead of the rum...

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