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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 53

OMG - I had to reply to this... the comments resound to me - my marriage is on the rocks both because of my drinking and because of the belitting and lack of support from him about my drinking. I can relate soooo much. Clarence if you are there how are you doing?

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 653

Hi Clarence,

How are you doing this week?

Tiana, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

Clarence,

Wow, I admire your courage and strength. You know what you need to do to help yourself - and your children. Getting yourself healthy and sober will make you a better father. We are here for you my friend.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 9

Hi Clarence,

I know exactly how you feel, I am going through the same thing as my marriage has broken up due to my drinking. It is a terrible feeling and heart renching at times! You are doing the right thing by moving out, you need to do this for yourself first and not for anyone else. My problem was I was doing this for all the wrong reasons and it just got me into more trouble instead of realizing I have to be true to myself first. This took alot of guts for you to make this decision and I applaud you, and we are all here for you. Believe me when I say it will get better, it will take time but you will be a better person for it!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 221

Clarence,

Although this is a very difficult, I think you're setting an tremendous example for your children. You're showing that the best decision is not always the easiest. They will know they should expect people to be supportive and relationships to be nurturing, because you are showing them that is what you expect.

We're all very proud of you and here to support you everystep of the way! You are strong and will emerge from this difficult an even stronger person!

Helena, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

This is an excerpt from the book called Alcoholics Anonymous:

The tremendous fact for every one of us is that we have discovered a common solution. This is the great news this book carries to those who suffer from alcoholism. An illness of this sort and we have come to believe it an illness involves those about us in a way no other human sickness can. If a person has cancer all are sorry for him and no one is angry or hurt. But not so with the alcoholic illness, for with it there goes annihilation of all the things worth while in life. It engulfs all whose lives touch the sufferer's. It brings misunderstanding, fierce resentment, financial insecurity, disgusted friends and employers, warped lives of blameless children, sad wives and parents anyone can increase the list.

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Unfortunately we problem drinkers keep drinking until we can't handle no more, Some reach a physical bottom, some mental, some emotional and some spiritual bottom. But there is a solution.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 56

Hey there clarence,

Glad to have you here with friends .......

Your words appear to be telling yourself that you have not hit rock bottom, but you have come to the realization that before you can make life better for you and your children - you have to deal with and fix the problem we all have. Reaching that point is, in itself, a huge milestone. Taking the next step will be life-changing; I feel that your willpower to reach out here will ultimately allow happiness and calm to the wind in your life.

And, as unfortunate as it is, if someone stands in your way, or "belittles you", they need to take a backseat in your priorities at this moment so that you can make room for those who support your choice to move onto a better existence - with your children and other family, and friends (old and new).

Take that step clarence, take it with us here, and take it on your own ....... for you, for your children, for your future !!!

Keep posting and maybe start a blog/thread; it enables you to do what so many of us have found to be effective; putting words into the open so that we have to comprehend and understand what our mission is, what our goals are, and how we are doing. It's humbling, but also - very inspirational and motivating.

Clarence, we are here for you, as so many have been for us .........

Trust yourself, believe in yourself, and success will find you ......

runner

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11221

Clarence,

Wow, I am very impressed with your strength. It takes a lot of self awareness and courage to make the choice that you did.

It sounds like you have made the right choice for you and even for your family. How will this make your choice to cut back easier? How will you use this time effectively?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 79

Good luck Clarence. I can completely relate to your situation. I love my boyfriend very much but have also thought that it would be easier to quit on my own. It's just too easy to "rebel" and use that as an excuse to drink when they are the ones tellin you not to drink...specially when they drink themselves. Things will be so much clearer when all of our hours, days are sober. :-) Your time with your kids will be soooo much better too. Stay strong.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Welcome Clarence,

You have found a very supportive place to be. Everyone here is struggling and trying to make their lives better. Sounds like you have a plan and are now going to take the first step. I am sorry to hear your girlfriend is not being supportive. Maybe you have to give her some time away from you for her to see how hard it is for you to do this. Good luck and please keep posting.

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