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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Athena and m,

I think this is one of the most important thing about AHC. It does not matter what we do or what we are. We are here to develop some virtual support ( friendship) that we cannot get from people we know.

We are being accepted even if we have not succeeced yet.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 125

I agree with this way of looking at it.

thinking of not drinking forever can be quite depressing. When I celebrate each day I feel much more accomplish and the task seems so much less daunting

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11219

Taking it one day at a time is a great idea Athena.

Let us know how your day goes.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

-m,

Thank you so much for your post. I need to learn to think positively. Your comments really help. It can be very overwhelming to consider not drinking every day. I have coped this way for so long.

So you have inspired me to keep posting. Today, instead of trying to imagine a life without alcohol, I'm going to try to imagine a day without alcohol. My kids have swimming lessons this evening which will help to heep me occupied and out of the house. Other than when I was pregnant, I have been drinking every day for about 20 years. I stopped for a week once and then convinced myself I didn't have a problem after all.

Today I will not have a drink. Just today.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 653

Good work, both of you!! I totally think you are taking steps towards success just by posting and being here for the other members.

Be gentle with yourselves. Keep the positives in mind! And while you are doing that, think about the next step you will be ready to take. I do encourage you to be aware-- are your reasons just excuses? If your main reason was 'fixed', would there be another one to take it's place to make it ok for you to keep drinking?

Keep reading, and doing the homework in the program. It will help!!

Tiana, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

Athena... You are here. You are posting. Last night I saw three members signed in (including an health educator) and 300 ppl not signed in browsing the site. 300 ppl and you were one of three who actually signed on and put yourself out there to ask for help. Heck yeah, that counts. Besides, you do have something to offer. You did offer... yourself... your honest self. And that helps me to know I'm not alone and gives me encouragement. I have nothing to offer either... except that. In fact, I had decided I should not post anymore at all because who am I to encourage ppl when I cannot get this "right" myself. I'm struggling. I have no answers. I have no insight into why I do what I do... but then I sign in and see your post (and read lostjacks blog) and bingo I think you guys are so brave and I'm so happy to see your posts and.... I don't know... I don't know what to say... your being here encourages me. Please keep posting. Can you imagine how amazing this site would be if everyone who was looking would challenge themselves to post even once a day? (Even if only 10 people did that it would be amazing AND I would promise to post ONLY once a day... I heard those sighs of relief! LOL) Anyway, Athena... I'm glad you are here and I know other ppl feel the same way and it would be so great if a few of them could tell you so... just a "me too" would be nice. Yes? And that's my post for the day........

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

I wish I were at the point that I could say that my goal for today was not to drink. I hope that Im not fooling myself or making excuses, but my goal for today is just to be here and post something.

I finally confessed to my Dr how muc I have been drinking and for how long and she advised me to focus on building a suppport network. Friends and family really don't feel like viable supports right now. My doctor asked me who I would tell if I were to twll just two people about my drinking and I kind of shocked myself when I answered " complete strangers".

So strangers - it is probably not enough but I am really hoping that this counts as a first step. I cannot do this alone and Im hoping that there are others out there who are willing to support me on this incredibly intimidating journey. I feel badly that I don't have much to offer others at this time, but if there are others who can help me now, I promise that I will give back when I am able.

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