I have yet to figure out how to navigate this stuff yet, so for all those who have provided words of encouragement--thank you, thank you. I'm sitting at my desk taking huge breaths and trying not to think about going downstairs, outside for a cigarette since I've been her for two hours now. I'm chewing the nicorette gum incessantly, and not attractively either. Like I said, I'm clueless about how to respond to people's messages so any help would be greatly appreciated. I think my brain is simply not functioning on all cylinders. Lisa