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17 years ago 0 848 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Lainey - I don't think you're being callous at all. You are just voicing an opinion that others have had at times, about how to handle some of the posts. I think sometimes you just have to pick and choose which posts to read and decide what, if anything, you are going to take away with you. It can change day to day. Sometimes when I've read of people's struggles it makes me feel stronger and I post encouragement, but other times I just have to pass it by because I just don't want to go there. Keep strong! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/29/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 13 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 164 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $53.04 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 33
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17 years ago 0 1040 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Lainey, you're a bright, passionate woman... who cares for others! And anyone who has taken the time to read your posts knows that. I don't think anyone sees you as callous. Devoted? Caring? Yes. But not callous. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 36 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 915 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $333 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51
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Thanks Lookingglass. I apologize to those who think I came across as callous. That was not my intention. I know how to deal with a failure when it is my failure, because I have been there many times. I guess the frustration is that I am feeling their pain, and know all too well what they are going through, but have nothing to offer as help, other than words. And words don't seem to be enough. You can't hug a person thru the computer screen. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 37 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 939 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $390.35 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56
17 years ago 0 1040 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
The majority of people who we see posting on SSC, and who have shown long-term progress (months, years...) as non-smokers/ex-smokers... have tried to quit before. But here they are in their second, third, fourth (or greater) attempt to quit... and we now see many of those same people as models for success. I think what we have to keep in perspective is that much of their present success is due to lessons they learned through past mistakes and failures. They have taken those painful experiences and used them to overcome their addictions. And then there is this; some of us will die of this horrible addiction. Some will never recover. Their lives will serve as examples of how imparitive it is for each of us to do all we can to "denormalize" smoking in the public consciousness and to vanquish it in our own lives. Most of the people who come to SSC won't stay long. Most won't achieve long-term recovery, this time. But we have to approach every individual with the assumption that they will be successful, long term. By the time anyone makes the decision to come to SSC, they've experienced the pain of addiction. They are familiar enough with the pain and the fear to want it to end... so they come here in the hope that we can help them face and deal with their addiction. We all came here for that reason. And we'll have different degrees of success. Some will stay smoke-free for a week, some for a few months, some for a year... and some for the rest of their lives. But whatever success they have... even if it's not life-long this time 'round, it will be encouraging and something to build on. A failure is only a failure if nothing is learned from it. And if something is learned from it... and applied, it becomes a critical part of a greater success. Thanks for introducing this, Lainey!! It's something people needed to talk about! :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/6/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 36 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 913 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $333 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 36
17 years ago 0 2436 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
My friend, Pen said it all... This is life, friends, and with life, come steps that we walk, struggle with, and climb, one step at a time. Stumbling is part of life, and part of this journey as well. Stumbling is also a blessing of an opportunity for those of us who are not stumbling to lend a hand and to help steady a friend along the way... Stay focused on YOU, my friend, lend a hand when you can, and keep climbing that ladder... Blessings and Light- Healer [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 402 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 14,086 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1869.3 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 52 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 10 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15
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I too am new in my quit, and although I have quit before, I sense something different on this one. Maybe because I realize I really do not need or want these things - and how terribly my health had detoriated. Maybe because I feel I have something to live for, after struggling with several years of depression. Everyone has their reasons for quitting - and I have found this site to be filled with warm compassionate people who are focused on maintaining their quit and need some inspiration to keep going through "the bad times" I keep inspirational reflections on my computer at work and at home because I do not wish to be complacent and slip up - not even once. I am happier, healthier (going to the gym and working out is MUCH better now) eating better, feeling good, and I want those things for EVERYONE here. If a person slips up I feel they should review the positive aspects and review WHY. Some people will never stop - and that is their choice. They can choose to be free or continue to choose to continue the hurt, misery and shame. If there is no positive spin after you relapse, and nothing is learned, then perhaps people should examine why they are quitting. No one really wants to feel/be that way. I realize this is a long post, but this is just how I feel. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/14/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 28 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 568 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $182 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14
17 years ago 0 948 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
This is where we have to keep reminding ourselfs NOPE :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/1/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 41 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,035 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $205 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
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Lainey- I know what you mean. I seem to have a mixed reaction. On the one hand - it is overwhelming & somewhat discouraging to know that people are still so vulnerable & still struggling late into their quits. It makes staying smoke-free seem like an impossibly exhausting prospect. On the other hand - it helps me to remember to not get complacent & let my guard up and reminds me that this is not a fixed-time "transition" that I'm in, but rather a life-time committment to my health. So, in this way, hearing about relapses helps to show me how to win this fight. Also, I find that when I reply to posts from people who have relapsed, it's often self-reinforcing to me - reminds me of why & how I'm doing this. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/24/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 46 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,625 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $299 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57
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17 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Lainey, This is a journey and the experience gained will become a life long lesson. Members need to know all the aspects of the quit, the good, the bad, the ugly. It is by sharing our experiences that we learn from one another. You are absolutely right, be prepared and do your homework right away, don't leave it to the last minute :) Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.
17 years ago 0 2534 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Lainey, It is wise to be aware of them but foolish to follow. In this world, the limping wildebeest will always be picked off first. Put those posts to one side and move on with what you are doing for yourself. Stay strong, stay focused, stay positive and stay quit. Good Luck Penitent d1058
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