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I guess it comes to us all at some stage and I should have been better prepared for this. It's not like I'm surprised it has happened. I feel like I have hit rock bottom. Today should have been full of fun and excitement, but I am just a grumpy old man. I hate this ! I hate feeling so miserable. Honestly right now I would love to drink several pints of coffee and smoke away the small hours of the morning. I'm not going to...but I feel like it would be oh so easy to slide on into the old routine. Today we put up the christmas tree. My 3 year old daughter was so excited as we put up the lights and played christmas music. I helped her write a letter to santa and it was so cute !! But me ? I'm a grump. I couldn't care less. I took some time out and went around to my parents place to mow their lawn and be by myself, work out my grump with some physical stuff. It didnt really help. I came home just as sour as ever. So I drank several pots of herbal tea and tried to relax with some meditation but I just couldnt calm down. Is this just a natural down ? or is it related to my quit ? I Just can't tell, eveyone has an off day now and then whether they smoke or not so maybe it is just a bad day for me. A bad week would be a better description. I am harbouring a lot of resentment towards my wife and I don't know why. It isn't her fault I'm feeling like this, but right now I don't want to be near her. Which is why I'm sitting here typing at 1 in the morning instead of lying next to her in bed fast asleep. Which leads me on to the next thing...where the hell has my libido gone ?? Nobody ever mentioned this would happen !! I am just not interested. Has anybody else had this happen ?? Please tell me I'm not the only one. This has also hit me out of the blue and I am assuming that it is connected with my quit as up until now I always had a healthy interest. It has to be connected surely ! I'd go and have another herbal tea but I'm waterlogged and I don't think it's going to help me get to sleep, I'm just too worked up. I am also well aware that I am now entering my danger period. It is the 8 to 12 week mark where all of my previous quits have caved in. I thought I was prepared for it this time but I have been hit hard. This depression stuff is really making it
17 years ago 0 301 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Wow !!! I was expecting a bit of support, but your responses have just blown me away. All so caring and so very helpful. I'm sure you all now that common sense tends to go out of the window when you are down and concentrating your focus on only one thing. You have all helped me find a bit of balance. I may have to take the advise and go visit my doctor. We had some very good friends over last night for a barbeque and a few drinks. I felt somehow detached. they were all laughing themselves silly and having a great time and I just couldn't get into it. I tried but Just couldnt get "happy" enough to join in where normally I would be the ringleadr in the sillyness. On the positive side I did not once feel like smoking which is a huge achievement as I'm sure you're all aware how tempting it is to smoke after a few drinks. I did not once even think about it or crave a smoke. I am feeling very good about this. I will talk to my wife, Carol, tonight and try to explain why I have been like I have been. Maybe I'll just get her to read this thread. I do love her and I don't like feeling like this. She and Brenna, my daughter, mean the world to me and I certainly do not want to hurt them through my actions. I am heading away on a business trip for a few days next week and I will use some of this time for "me". Thank youn all for your help, I will get through. We will get through. Love and hugs to all of you. KiwiKeith [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 64 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,617 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $742.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
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Thank you Lolly and Kait, I think there is much about these feelings which can be directly attributed to the time of year. Although I am not feeling so "bah humbug" about it all I do still feel a little strange. Sort of not quite in the same reality as everyone else. On the positive side tomorrow I finish work for the year and have my Summer vacation ! YAY no work till Jan 15th !!!! I am firmly focused at this stage on reaching 100 days. This is something I have not achieved before and it is really keeping motivated. I will be spending my 100th quit day on vacation at the beach and plan to go on a hike which I have always wanted to do but was always certain that I could not do it because of my level of fitness. It is a beautiful hike along the coastal cliffs and native bush and along beaches which have no other access. Is going to take me all day but I think it is going to be an awesome way to celebrate my 100th day. I am sure this is going to cheer my outlook no end. It is good to be a non smoker at christmas !!! Cheers KiwiKeith [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 80 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,018 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $928 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56
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Hi Phil, Hugs or not...I am not going to smoke this christmas. The first christmas in 26 years with out nicotine..and I am looking forward to it. How about a hug for new years eve ??? Cheers mate and Mates wife Jenny !!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 79 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,977 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $916.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16
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Hi, Keith. Welcome back. :) Sounds like you're in a bit of depression, my friend. That would account for everything you've mentioned. You could try to stick it out, and you could try to scratch your way through a brick wall, too. But why would you want to? See your doctor about this. Don't look at your past quit performance as an indicator of future behavior. Just because you've caved in the 8 - 12 week mark before does not mean you will this time. Why did you cave before? Depression then, too? Your past doesn't show you your limits. Your past shows you the way past them. Forget support from your family. You've already explained why. No fault on them, they just can't. I'm sorry to see you still struggling, Keith, but I'm glad you are still fighting. Congratulations on 2 smoke-free months. Let's make it 3, okay? Keep up the good quit, Keith. :) Shevie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/23/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 557 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,147 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2116.6 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 103 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
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Back when you first attempted to quit we used to chat on the IM. I remember the time difference and you having to break the chat off to get ready to take your daughter to the park. This was so very imortant to you as I recall. Keith there is nothing more important than your wife and daughter. I know you would give everything to protect them and save them from hurt. You are going through nicotine withdrawl and there comes with it a certain side effect called depression. You are NORMAL my friend and we have all gone through it. If you don't see yourself getting stronger each day of your quit, go indeed, and talk to your doctor. I adminre you for your return to quitting. It is not the easiest thing to do but it is doable. Look at the smile on that little girls face and think how much you mean to her. That is all you need to keep going :) I don't post as much as I used to but I do real a lot and I just could not help but add these comments to your post. You are doing great and have a giant head start on your road to freedom and I wish you all the luck in winning this war. Kindest Duffis [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/13/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 657 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 19,734 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1688.49 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 131 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 36
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Hi KK, So much great advice from so many great quitters! KK you CAN take it and come out of this, or leave it and go under. I'm quite sure you will choose to fight on! No matter how many weeks you are into a quit, the first Christmas is always a hard one! I wept buckets over the fact I was decorating the tree for the first time in 33 years without a cigarette. I ripped my husband's head off each time he told me how well I was doing! Christmas is full of habits, things we love doing and it is a fun time. To do all this without our 'friend' is so hard, but it is doable. I spent a good 5 minutes rummaging in my hand bag after Christmas Dinner. My hub. asked what I was looking for....I had no idea....my son said, "She's looking for her ciggies!" He was right!!! I do think you ought to seek medical attention if, after your business trip, you still feel as bad. However, I also think you may simply have the feeling many quitters have at this point in their quits...........they are so fed up feeling it's an effort, and especially at Christmas, when you want to be feeling great! You are also coming up to your previous break point....8-12 weeks. It was 3 months for me too, and I had to fight like Hell to get past that point. I'm sure you are sick hearing it, but it was sooooo worth it! Plan a reward for your 3 months.....a good one....and stick to it, as you will remember that reward as having taken you over the 'hump' so to speak! My words may not be as huggy and friendly as you were thinking of, but they are meant to help. I'll think of you on Christmas day, and raise a glass to you and your family. You WILL have fun again Keith!!! Have a Merry Christmas and look forward now to 2007....a whole new year of Freedom WITH FUN! NEVER LOOK BACK, THE FUTURE IS AHEAD!!! Love Lolly. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/25/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 753 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 26,377 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �3765 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 104 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28
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17 years ago 0 44 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Your post really touched my heart - it brought back so many memories for me of my first "tri-mester" quit. What you are experiencing is perfectly normal - it sucks, but it's normal and very OK. There will be many downs on this quit journey - just make sure you come here and let the wonderful people here help you. It was quite some time before I forgave my husband for not feeling as miserable as me. lol. Yup, misery does love company. And, although it has taken a very long time, sex is now better than ever. There were many times when I would rather have eaten beach rocks than be in the same room as my hubby - sometimes it used to scare me a bit because I actually felt hate toward him. The very fact that he was breathing in the same room became annoying. lol. I am sure he is very relieved those days are over. Anyway, you hang in there cause it does get so very much better. I can laugh about it now, but that took time too. Be patient with yourself and you'll get through this. PS: the next time you are alone in the house or alone driving or whatever - scream your head off. Rant and rave at the top of your lungs about everything that has ever annoyed you in you life - you won't believe how good that can make you feel - or, dare I say it.......cry....long and hard......hugs to you and I know you are going to make it. Take good care of YOU. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/24/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 768 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 19,208 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $7872 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 74 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7
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Kiwi, Hang in there and please do check with your doctor. As many members have said smoking has a habit of masking other problems. This quit is for you. Do you exercise? This may be the needed energy you are lacking and it can help. Really take some you time and relax and pamper yourself. You have done a great job throughout your journey and you should be proud. Talk to your doctor about your issues and come up with a plan that is right for you. We are always here :) Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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