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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 14

Hi Keith, Just wanted to let you know we are all behind you. Sorry you are having such a rough time right now. Here are some hugs :) Keep up the good work, and remember, "this, too, shall pass." [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/26/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 5 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 197 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $35 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 59 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 983

Kiwi, I know this was a few weeks ago that you were feeling down, but I'm on your heals and this past week I was your twinkie. I'm working very very hard to recognize that in the past I would deal with stress, sadness and the hussle and bussle of life by having a smoke and "regrouping". I'm trying to find new ways of dealing with "life". I'm working on Positive thoughts versus negative ones and doing the positive self talk stuff (great, not only do I have voices arguing in my head, but now I'm talking to myself in the shower!! LOL). We can do this!! It isn't always going to be easy, but we truley are stronger than the addiction and love life to much to let our mood waste to many precious moments that we can't get back. Here's to us!!! Redefining ourselves for the better!!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 41 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 909 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $225.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 983

I agree Keith....it's great to be a non-smoker for the holidays...my first smoke free holiday ever (39 years, my parents smoked all my life). I will be very thankful for that and need nothing else for Christmas! (((HUGS))) Kaiti [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 42 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 932 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $231 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1150

Just because you quit smoking doesn't mean your life is going to turn to sunshine. It just means that your umbrella has been taken away. I posted recently that I was feeling down and I think I would have done better to wait and just have ditto'ed your post. There is depression related to phases of quitting and also everyone does have down times anyway. But, now is not the time to assess your life and make any radical changes. Sit it out, see your dr. or not, but try not to judge. Presently, you still need to pamper yourself and get through this addiction. The other night I told my husband that I have my hands full trying to make this quit stick and I really need to be left alone to do that. (He's never smoked. No one in my family or his has ever smoked except both moms as social smokers when they were young). In my head I imagine that I have a cold- everything is on auto pilot. When I get ticked about something in my life and/or relationship that would have previously made me run for a cigarette, I deadhead. It's all stuff that has been there for years and doesn't require immediate attention from me. I can wrestle with taking stands when I feel strong enough. Some of it is little but looks blown up due to my mood. Other of it will need to be addressed for me to transition to the non-smoker that I want to be. You were the one taking the drags. This quit is about you. You need to do what you have to do to get through today. I'm sorry that your feeling down. Post often, especially when you don't feel like it. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/19/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 12 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 124 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1150

After just logging off I found this buried on my desk as I was looking for something. "We tend tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have". Fredick Koeing[i]Text[/i] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/19/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 12 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 125 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 40 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 985

kiwikeith,, As Duckie said, take a deep breath hon... and I totally agree with Duckie as well about your wife. She's been through thick and thin with you .. so go hug her,, give her a kiss. And I'm really quite sure that your libido may be low just coz you're concentrating so much on your quit... as well as looking at your other quit. (but if these feelings etc hang on too long, maybe seek out some help from your dr.) Look only at this quit>>>> YOU ARE DOING SOOOO WELL ! ! ! Keep strong friend.. post often.. let us know how you're doing :) AND.. go smack that tree,, it just may do you some good! ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) Monica58 [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/31/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 31 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 627 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $279 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5

hi Kiwi, The libido thing has happened to me and it's driving my husband crazy, I've been so angry and at time felt very depressed which is not like me at all. I just kept telling myself that my body and life are getting used to living without a drug and that has to take time. Just know it's the smoking that has done this to you and your going to be ok and in the end a healthier, happier drug free man. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/21/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 41 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 833 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $307.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 5 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2670

oh kiwikeith, i can't speak for your libido, but i can tell you the irritability etc is perfectly normal. I am a positive witch sometimes! (ask phil) LOL seriously, be kind to yourself hon, here's a big hug for you lynnexx [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/24/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 38 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 574 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �152 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 19 [B]Seconds:[/B] 58

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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 327

Hi, Keith. I think most of us go through a funk period in our quits during which it isn't so hard not to smoke but our brains still aren't producing sufficient quantities of natural "happy chemicals". During that time we feel like a depressed grump. Definitely been there. The resentment part makes sense to me too. Not so much during this quit but I quit for 3 months at the beginning of 2006, slipped for 6 months or so and am now quitting again. Anyway, during that earlier quit I started to realize that I'm not a very assertive person and would generally just give in and let my wife have her way - even on some issues that are important to me. Not in every case, but in many cases. I think that we smokers can give in during a time of conflict then go outside (or where ever) and self-medicate with a cigarette. When we smoke we get fooled into thinking everything is ok and that becomes our coping mechanism. Is it possible that there is an aspect of this in your household? If not the same as mine, maybe something slightly different? maybe something that has sort of bothered you for a long time but your smoking helped you to deal with it? In my case, I eventually had a tough and lengthy conversation with my wife explaining how, in these certain key facets of our life, I was not being heard. Like it was a foregone conclusion that she was the ultimate decider of these things. As it so happens I started back smoking some time after that. But the positive effects of the conversation have held up and this time during this quit, I have not resented her in that same way. I feel we are more of a team in these matters than in the past (or else she just got smarter in how to trick me :confuse:). But, during that time of feeling resentful, yeah, libido down. After some good communication, libido, and other leading indicators, er,... up. QM [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/16/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 46 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 930 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $184 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 537

Sorry to hear you are feeling bad. I hope things get better for you. Maybe you'll feel feel better in the morning, I find things seem alot worse at night. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/28/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 64 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 968 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $227.84 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 40 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50

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