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19 years ago 0 1010 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Crab! Oh that is easy to solve. Just go with the flow and embrace your quit. This is all new territory for you =) It's like discovering a new land =) Eventually everything will fall into place =) Go take a bubble bath, toss the kids into the hubby's arms, lock the door, crank up the tunes, and sing in the mirror or something! =) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/21/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 70 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,062 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $210 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20

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19 years ago 0 2838 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I think maybe it is a normal part of this process. I agree with what Katy posted about tickling your funny bone. Every situation, when viewed from another perspective, can be comical. When you feel yourself about to explode about something (especially where kids are concerned) ask yourself how important it is and what the long-term effect will be. I bet that mud they tracked in, while irritating, will not matter 5 years from now and really isn't all that important. Lighten up and have some fun...those kids will grow up fast! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 83 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,169 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $664 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 50 [B]Seconds:[/B] 39
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19 years ago 0 8760 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Crab, As you can see, you're definitely not alone in feeling this way. Smoking is an escape/avoidance behavior so it's no wonder we used it to cope with so many of our emotions. Now that you've gotten yourself out of that cycle, it's time to set a new norm by developping new ways to cope with emotions. For relaxation: If you can't sit still for long periods of time, start off with small periods of time or increase your physical activity level. Remember, smoking robbed you of your energy. For anger: [url=http://www.stopsmokingcenter.net/support/viewmessages.aspx?topic=29380&forum=18]click here[/url] Hope this helps. Danielle __________________________ The SSC Support Team
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19 years ago 0 607 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hey Crab, yep been there done that. I had a post that Kaitilina bumped where I wanted to go whacko on my hubby for eating a box of cereal. Its normal. Now I'm finally starting to like my new self and enjoying being a non smoker. This for me only happend a couple of weeks ago. Its nice to know I can be around smokers and keep my quit, but enjoy being around non smokers more. You are perfectly normal!! Hugs Kim [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 176 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,414 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $712.8 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 15 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35
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19 years ago 0 5009 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Crab, This will fade as others have said. My advice (for what it's worth).... 1) Keep busy. Appreciate that all that time wasted just sitting around smoking can be put to good use. 2) Exercise. Takes your mind off things and gives you that endorphin high when you've finished. 3) If you're grumpy, apologise if it wasn't called for. Your loved ones appreciate what you're doing, so appreciate their support! I'm now finding it a lot easier to relax. I'm still grumpy, but Mrs Ed says I just enjoy being like that now! all the best Mr Ed :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 290 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,716 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �2175 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 48 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 59
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19 years ago 0 301 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
HI Crab, Thanks for writing, and for seeking a bit of solace when it is needed. First of all congratulations on your very successful 40 day quit. You should feel justifiably proud. You have made a very big change in your life and in your daily routine. By not smoking you are a different person and you are feeling a little lost. This is very normal. You just have to find where this new person fits into the world in which you live. It is normal to be on edge, to be short tempered and *****y. We may not like it, in fact I had real guilt feels about some of my behaviour it is normal !!! All I can suggest it some Time out for yourself. This is not a luxury it is essential for your recovery. I feel for you Crab. But all of these symptoms you have mentioned are part of your recovery process. It takes time to work through it. Stopping smoking is not just not smoking anymore !! Don't be shy. come here and post often. Sometrimes we have the answers, somwtimes we dont, but either way you have friends and support from people who understand !! Stay strong and be proud. Kiwikeith [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 62 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,553 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $719.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7
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19 years ago 0 9 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
2stubborn- Honestly it took me about 3 months before the anxiety went away, but I still had moments for about 6 months. I don't know if that's normal for everyone but that was me. Don't sweat the relationship, it's not that you are different it's just that you are going through a life changing event and it's hard. There is a great thread on anger here that explains how people might act differently. You should read it, it helps. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/24/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 706 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,480 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2118 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 67 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 37 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27

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Congrats on 40 days! I felt like that for the first couple of months. I couldn't sit still for very long and relaxing seemed to be compeletly out of my reach. A took a LOT of walks and that helped but more to the point is that eventually it all went away and I felt normal again. It's hard to get through the first few months of a major life change but you will get past it, we all do. Keep strong! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/24/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 706 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,480 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2118 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 67 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22

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2 stubborn.....are you somewhat resentful about quitting smoking??....are you still "wishing" you could have continued to smoke??...do you find yourself sometimes wishing you hadn't made the choice to quit?? It's really important that we want quitting "more" than we want to smoke. Often it's easy to give into the junky and let him tell us that smoking was so pleasant, that we miss it, that it would calm and relax us, that there is really nothing wrong with having a smoke now and then??? I don't know that you are having these thoughts at all...but perhaps you are. Ask yourself what, exactly, you are feeling miserable about??? In choosing to stop smoking we have to reach out and "grasp" that choice and all the positive that comes with it....we need to really concentrate on this positive in the beginning....and sometimes that's hard....specially when the junky comes around...and he DOES come around to all of us. while 52 days seems like an eternity to the one who just completed it ;) it's actually short of 2 months :blush: that's a pretty small allotment of time when laid out beside the time we smoked. I want you to be proud of your accomplishment, but at the same time realize that this is a "journey"....and the further you go, the easier the next part is....so hang right in here and don't forget to be GOOD to yourself.....rewards are important...remember that! Katy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1791 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 71,672 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $10208.7 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 233 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18

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Crab.....I DID feel that way...the first weeks of quitting are SO difficult...and the first few months see many many changes in us as we adjust to life without nicotine. I had trouble relaxing also.......I would come here and type and read for literally hours on end. I had always enjoyed the porch in the evenings during the summer....had to give that up the first summer :mad: I was nervous, often angry, quick to bark at anyone, quicker to cry over getting my feelings hurt....felt like a total mess for a spell...kids called me "sybil" :8o: I did discover somewhere along this path that my sense of humor had taken on a change too......try tickling your funny bone with some humor and see what happens????? We DO change and grow into a new person when we quit nicotine....reach out and embrace this new you....let her grow. Pass through the phases and BELEIVE that you are maturing into what you were meant to be without using nicotine. In the end I think I can safely say you will be pleased. You will once again be able to sit and enjoy the unwinding period at the end of the day.....and you really will be LESS stressed cause you aren't answering the demands of the junky. Hang tough and believe.....cause it's true! Katy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1791 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 71,652 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $10208.7 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 233 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 33 [B]Seconds:[/B] 24

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